Cliff notes:

- Saw a girl in my town did a cold approach she was a 12 and is over 30 years old. I was super direct and confident asked if she had a bf. Her eyes lit up she immediately she said no. You could tell it made her day we hit it off no awkwardness she happily gave me her number and told me to contact her for sure.
- I left it two days dropped her a message. She got back to me straight away with super positive messages we realised we both were of the same Mediterranean decent and both worked out. She was super excited, started flirting and I couldn't stop her from messaging me. At the peak of this conversation I had to go to training so had to cut the conversation short so I asked her what her schedule was like for the next week to get to know her more and take her out.
- She didn't give me her schedule so I decided to wait for her response she messaged me the next day, flirting with me but again didn't give me the schedule, so I asked her again at the height of the converstion simply 'Let me know when your free would love to take you out' She again didn't give me an answer to this.
- So I decided to not speak to her for 2-3 days because thats what I have always done for good behaviour give them my attention for clear bad behaviour withdraw. She messaged me again after 3 days I didn't respond as I was busy in work and really was like she should just give me a day or time, so I called after work in the evening just once. She didn't pick up.
- By this time I was just like fine I will basically throw in the towel not sure whats going on here but I don't have the time for someone playing hard to or might have someone else she is seeing (Who knows at the end of the day).
- I text her she 'Gave you a call yesterday babe no answer, whats gives, I'm going to leave this now.' She messages me back straight away saying. She is a lovely girl it would be my loss if I walked away and she suffers from phone anxiety and to not take it personally with loads of kisses at the end.
- I say cool well let me know when you want to get together, looking forward to seeing you again. I'll leave it to you ( basically pulling away not going to put any more effort in ).
- She said she cant wait to see me again, flirty message and that she would call me in the evening.
- No call from her that evening and I we have not communicated via text for two days now I wont contact her again.

What gives any advice I mean I am not going to call her or text again just why do girls do this when they clearly like you or are they just being polite its so frustrating.

Stop beating around the ****ing bush and asking for her schedule like you’re seeking her approval, you should be leading and setting the date yourself. If she says no or doesn’t offer to reschedule, move on

Did you not read my post, I asked her twice what her schedule was so I could book somewhere. She didnt answer the question and just flirted with me. She didnt reject and didnt give me an excuse.

Just confused.

Why are you leaving the ball in her court though? I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just suggest a day/time yourself.

Im not leaving the ball in her court Im asking her a date in a period of a week to see which one she is free. Its covid and I'm sorry but I have done this many a time before and the girl has just gone I am free this day or this day next week at these times and you generally just plan around that??

Dude - sit down and think of what you're wanting from her. Be honest to yourself.

Ok, now that you know what you want, is she giving it to you?

If no (which sounds like it), tell her what you want. If she says no, walk away and find someone who will. There's wayyy more than only a handful of potential partners on this planet.

If yes, set a time and date and see what she says. If she ignores it, walk away.

Not cool she is avoiding the question about her schedule but if you're insistent on continuing to try then set a specific day/time/place and if she rejects then get her to commit to day. If she's reluctant I would just go NC at that point.

She’s playing you for attention

Just pick a ****ing day

she is married. I win the internet

Stopped reading at "is over 30 year old"

Ask her to go out on a set date, if she says no or doesn't answer, then end it at that. Plain and simple.

She's replying which is good but she's not that interested or else she'd have already given you a time. Give her a time and place to meet. Any other answer than yes = go NC and block her

OP hitting on 12 year olds.. wow

TLDR

The middle is the message. If she wants you she’ll make time and see you, you should never have to work to get a girl because if she wants you she’ll make it easy for you.

If Channing Tatum was hitting her up would she play hard to get?

Do you think she's dumb or smth? You asked her twice when she's free and she dodged. I encountered lost of girls like this online. Now if you will confront her she will say "hey you didn't ask me for a date or didn't make it clear". Obviously this is pure bullsh*t and she knows what's going on for sure. But if you want be 100% sure just be direct and ask her for a date at specific time and place.

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OP IS CONFIRMED CUCK ****

Plays you for attention/ego boost, has no intention of going out with you. Onto the next one.

This.

Had something similar happen to myself recently and I had to remind myself that if she wasgenuinelyinterested she wouldn’t be pissing around.