I spent last night drafting up a letter to the admission's office of a college I got accepted into, requesting a deferral of acceptance for a year. I don't want to boast, but just putting things in perspective - This institution is ranked #1 in the country for its MBA program and is very hard to get into (Avg GMAT 710). People dream of getting in, but I'm seriously considering throwing away my acceptance offer.

I know its beta, but its because of a girl. One I met off of Tinder no less.

I matched with her 3 weeks ago. I wanted some fun before I left. My bio reads 'Kindle and chill?' so this girl probably knew what was up from the start. Right off the bat she's down to meet, tells me that she can lift my mood since I'm having a bad day. Problem is that I'm packing up at my job and moving to another city for my MBA for a year so I was busy and couldn't.

I forget about her for a week and later decided to text her with the classic, "Are you an American High School? Cause I want to shoot some kids inside of you."

Surprisingly she reciprocates, and asks, "Are you going to woo me before you screw me?"

So she's down. I make sure I got protection and head out to meet her. Thing is I fall in love with her on the first date. She is shy as fuk, and halfway through, I wonder if I'd misread her completely. I mean she can't even get herself to say sex, and instead blushes, looks down and calls it, 'you know... doing it." We spend 5 hours together and it feels like the blink of an eye. We walk by a nearby lake, smoke a joint and when its time to leave, I kiss her on the cheek. (no homo)

I wonder if maybe I'd been a pussy for not going in, but she wants to meet again, and a day later, we meet for a Bon Jovi/Bryan adams cover band.

5 hours. 1 hour simple talking. 1 hour dancing to the band.2 hours spent in a private lounge we snuck into, where we can still hear the music, but sit together, and hold hands and blush like a couple of high school teenagers.

She says I'm different, that she thought I was an ******* over text who only wanted sex. She calls me handsome, she notices the veins on my arms through my dress shirt and traces them with her finger (Always buy one size small). Says I'm 'well framed' (All that liftan paying off). Says she's never been past a second date, but surely will with me.

Then the topic of me leaving for a year comes up. She seems disappointed. I tell her a war has been fought and won in 6 days and yet she seems apprehensive.

After 2 hours of sitting there, staring at each other's eyes, I finally walk her home, and for the next half an hour we make out behind her house.

I really thought this was it, who would have known, that I'd find a diamond in the rough of fukin Tinder. But as I'm driving home, probably 5 mins after leaving her I get this text:

'There were definitely fireworks tonight. But I don't want it to build anymore. I'd like to pick up when you come back. If you'd still want to of course.'

Literally 5 mins after she was all over me. WTF?

I ask her to meet the next day, and she says she can't because she's meeting college friends. Then she hits me with,'You know this is only going to make it harder when you leave which is inevitable and soon'

I ask if I'm going to see her before I leave?

She says,'I don't need to meet you again to know that I like you, but you going away, and us texting now and then is definitely going to kill whatever we have now. I'd rather have last night and pick up where we left off when you come back.'

Now I think I know my way around girls and smell bull****. So I ask het point blank if she's cutting me off.

She sends me this,'I think you're incredible darling (kissy emoji). If you're not around I'll come find you. This is not me cutting you off'

And that's it so far.

Ive been sitting by the phone waiting for it to buzz, yet everytime it does its one of my ******* friends. I literally do not understand what is going on. She says she's been 'hurt' in the past and she's afraid of goodbyes. Fine, I get that, but if she's into me, then why the hell won't she meet me as many times as she can before I go? Ten days? Ten dates!

I got nothing but positives vibes on both of our dates, and the second one really, really made me felt that this was it. I've become completely unproductive since and cannot bring myself to even get out of bed. I know its beta, but this was something straight out of a movie and I cannot imagine letting her go like this.

She wants to wait for a year. She even said she will try to come and see me. Okay, fair enough, but what is really bothering me is the fact that she won't meet before I leave.

Could someone explain to me what she might be feeling? Do I still have a chance? I mean, is she being genuine in what she says? And why is she trying to distance herself before I leave, while at the same time promising, to pick it off when I get back?

The MBA program here is very rigorous and I doubt Ill have the time to fly and meet at all. Is it possible that things might work out or am I hoping for too much? I know its stupid but I'd be willing to forgo everything for her.

Would reallllly appreciate a female miscer's perspective on this too.

Cliffs:
- OP gets into top uni for MBA (no brag)
- OP is leaving for uni in ten days and meets tinder girl who he thinks is DTF
- OP discovers that he misread her. OP is a ******* and falls in love with her on first date
- Second date is out of a movie - 5 hours of talking, dancing, holding hands and spending it in silence while looking into each other's eyes
- Ends second date with a half hour makeout session
- 5 mins later, OP gets text from girl, saying she thinks they should wait till he gets back (one year) before taking it further
- OP is confused cause he still has ten days. Why won't she meet?
- Grill assures OP she likes him, and even if he isn't around, that she'll come find him after a year
- She says she's bad at goodbyes, and doesn't want it to build before OP leaves.
- OP considers rejecting offer letter
- OP is a beta *******
- OP wants to know wtf is going on?

Can I keep the faith for one year or am I being dumb and should I book a ticket to North Carolina?

Hell no. Bro go to the Uni and get ur education. U met this girl off of TINDER. You know how many options she has? She said all that bs of you "being diff" to mess with ur head, and looks like it worked. A person changes in a year. This girl changed in 5 minutes (texted you saying yall shuld wait). In a year she wont even know wtf u are cuz she'd prolly have hooked up with plenty of other dudes of Tinder. Dont do it brah. Go chase that degree

Your cliffs are so long i didnt read those either

this. acting pure beta trust me. been down this path before.

'Exactly. NEVER, and i mean NEVER, catch feelings for a girl off of Tinder. Learned it the hard way.

Stopped reading at "because a girl"


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retard

Im a mum and mums are always right

DO NOT SKIP UNI FOR THIS GIRL FFS

if youre really meant to be try a LDR but honestly im sorry this is the gheyest chit i ever read.

GO TO UNI OR ILL "COME AND FKIN FIND YOU" MYSELF YOU LUNATIC

LOL strong everything

option a) reject for the girl and she will inevitable cuck your ******* ass and you'll end up regretting your decision

option b) go to your "unnamed top ranked" mba program and suck some nice clean weiners because that's all that'll get you anywhere with your beta, Tinder ho before everything else mentality

not hating, just putting this out there after not reading your cliffs of peace and seeing just the bolded parts...so you do you brah

I read your entire post.

NO NO NO NO --- Do not give up your MBA for a year. Your judgement has been clouded by lust. Think about this. Two dates. It means nothing right now. You don't even know her. She's still meeting and dating other people. I promise.

Look I just made a post on the other forum. I met a girl two months ago and the chemistry was so unreal I thought there was an honest chance I had just met my future wife. A week and a half ago she was sitting in my car telling me with tears in her eyes "I've never had a guy like you in my life before, and it makes me feel so good". I called her Wednesday and she answered the phone sounding so cold and uninterested it made my heart sink. Basically blew me off after a minute of talking and never got back to me.

Their interest levels are like the rising and falling of the wind. She wouldn't even meet you to say goodbye. This girl could blindside you tomorrow and you'd have given up your education for one year. Believe me, I'm all about holding onto something special when you find it. If you had been dating her for a year and thought she was 'the one' I would be all for it. But it's been two dates off f'n Tinder. Wake up dude. Don't do this. You'll meet lots of girls at the new school. This one will be waiting if she really cares -- my guess is she only will care until the next better match comes along.

AHaha, yeah well, I guess I shouldn't have expected anything less. It's really stupid I know. I'm obviously not actually considering rejecting the offer now (Just used the title as bait to get more responses ITT)

Thanks for the harsh, but truthful advice.But is it okay to still hold out for this girl? Like should I ask to meet her again and if she makes up another excuse, just completely cut it off? Or is her 'wait for another year and we can pick it back off' excuse a legit one?

Really sucks what happened to you man. I don't think I'd be able to recover from this too easily. Before I met her I was stoked about chasing girls at uni, but not idgaf.



Cheers!

Well, mum, from a woman's perspective, would you think this girl's excuse of, "I don't want to meet you before you leave cause it'll be harder to say goodbye, but I'll be here waiting once you're done." legit? I mean, is it possible for her to actually thinking this and not bsing?

Yeah absolutely keep the line of communication open. You never know. But just mentally note that girls on Tinder typically have a very short attention span.

If she really likes you, leaving for school will only help her interest level. Women want what they can't have. You're the mystery guy who made an impression then ducked away. That's stuff they pine over.

On the flip side, if you dropped one of the top MBA schools in the country to throw yourself at her like a lost puppy after two dates, her vag would never be wet for you ever again. It just couldn't get more beta than that.

I agree with above poster
If she likes you that much distance will make the heart grow fonder
She probably doesn't wanna meet before you go bc either shes not that bothered or equally she likes you a lot and is scared of getting deeper feels b4 you go.
By all means keep in contact good.luck

Hey bro go to uni. Why can't there be later?

Are you a ****en moron?

No you don’t give it up for a girl you’ve known for 3 weeks, what kind of pressure is that?

Put on your big boy pants and go get your MBA you absolute wafflehead

You're an absolute fukking idiot, give your head a shake.

strong inability to make a business decision to top rank MBA admission ratio. Blowing my damn mind. Maybe its a secret assignment from your professor, cause if you choose the girl you dont fkn belong.

don't u ****ing dare, u will regret it 255%

was expecting troll account. If OP is not trolling, then "I matched with her 3 weeks ago" lmao at putting off major life decisions because you've known someone for 3 weeks. If you being real tea and are this blind then misc certainly cant help you.

What if the business school tracks down applicants on dating sights and throws a sloot at them as a test to see if they make the right decision to weed out those who cant handle it?

Stopped reading at met girl on tinder 3 weeks ago. It's all I needed to know. If real you're an idiot lmao. Fuk this section is actually getting too much.

You met a girl on tinder and you are already thinking about choosing her instead of college.

Book a ticket, as soon as you make a girl your purpose she will leave you. Have a purpose and have her along for the ride. Everyone on misc has been here before even those "Alpha" dudes. Dont learn the hard way when you stay for her and she breaks up with you.

This isn't one of those Good Will Hunting about a girl choices in life man. You met this girl on tinder a few weeks back. Go crush college and enjoy it and invest in yourself. If she was really that into you she would not be exiting after a few dates.

Smart
throwing it all away for a tinder chick you just met.

Pick one opie.

You would be an idiot to stay for her. You barely know this girl. What happens when she gets bored of you and dumps you. Now you have no girl and no degree.

A girl you've been dating for a year or two is never worth your career or education. You'll end up regretting this.




Wait a sec, this is a Tinder chick you barely know? Are you a fookin tard or something?

No man he was accepted to a top rated college.
Maybe opie is one of those people whose brain is full?
You know they hit the point where when they cram more knowledge in one side of the head and chit like "water is wet" falls out the other ear?

OP supposed to be smart but is stupid enough to consider dropping everything for a girl he went on 2 dates with

The brightest flame burns quickest.