Wife and I have been married for 3.5 years.

Outside of lifting weights, I also play hockey two nights per week on two different adult rec teams. The leagues are non-contact. A friend of mine who was at our house last Sunday and who I played hockey with on Monday night just told me he tested positive for COVID. A few months ago another teammate tested positive for COVID. I went and got a test the day I found out and tested negative. I'm now trying to get tested again. Outside of hockey, both our workplaces have had positive COVID cases.

Wife asked me to stop going to hockey and I said I wouldn't stop. I love playing hockey and don't see that it is any more of a risk than leaving the house and going into the office. Wife is now pissed and is talking about how I care more about playing hockey than about exposing her to COVID-19 risk. That isn't true and I understand I am taking a risk but try to do what I can to minimize the risk. To me, anytime either one of us leaves our house and are around others were are taking a risk. Keep in mind, we both go into our respective offices for work voluntarily (both our offices are allowing remote work) and just today she went and sat in a public coffee shop for several hours without a mask.

Am I wrong here? Should I agree to stop playing hockey?

Same thing as before.

Which is what? I posted in general by accident.

Oh, I was just playing about negging you for no pics. I also mentioned I did not read. I went on to talk about your join date and the fact that was when it all changed.





Might read later. Might neg later. Not sure.

tell her you will stop hockey if she never leaves the house, works from home and doesnt get coffee anymore.

Did u let that dumb bytch kno a simple google search will let her know most people recover just fine and by most that means 99%

is she obese?
is she over 50?

if no then there's bout 0.0350% risk of covid and if she's still worried, congrats, you married a panicel

Apparently the argument was not about COVID risk at all but it was about me appearing to care more about hockey than her. I don't phucking understand women at all after all this time.

Hmmm this seems tricky. Women run on emotions where as men run on logic. Explaining the logic of covid and stats won’t go over well if she is just believing the media and scare bs. Would she have acted the same way about your hockey and if you had a flu outbreak last year?

Sounds like she’s maybe personally unhappy about what covid and the change in life has done to her happiness or she’s unhappy with you about other stuff.

I say have a talk and then don’t give in and do what you want. She’ll respect you less and less if you let her tell you what you will and will not do. Next year it might be less and less hockey for you bc you went without it during covid so you don’t love her if you need to go back to playing it that many times per week again. So yeah it makes no sense that this is the real issue. Divorce rates are at an all time high, so it’s not illogical that she’s just unhappy and searching for something to bitch about.

Sorry to sound a little harsh here but there is a reason the USA is the worst country in the world for Covid. It’s not just about giving it to your wife... it’s about you getting it, others getting it from you, others getting it from them and so on... your mindset is a little selfish at this time.

Sounds like your wife is trying to look for a legitimate excuse to divorce you. It's a decoy because in actuality, she might be ****ing some other dude behind your back.

Exactly this. Unless you married an 80 year old with more than 2.6 co-morbidities, then you have a higher chance of dying of literally anything else. Sorry to hear that you married a panicel.

You don't need an excuse to divorce someone in my state. No-fault here.

I'd respect your wife's preferences to the extent that you will come to a compromise. You can reason with her about not quitting, but reduce the amount of games you participate in. Also, you can be more mindful while you're out. Think of all the small things you do outside that might be increasing your risk, giving high 5s, close proximity in changing room, passing drinks around? Cut back on some of those things and each time you do, tell your wife to keep her happy so that she can trust you more while you continue playing hockey. Since you guys are married, her preferences are NOT to be ignored.

Demand a blow job to completion the nights you play hockey....

You'll be lacing up your skates again next week.

Everyone deals with this differently.

At this point I think how much you want to be careful beyond following government protocols should depend on the people around you that you may expose and how likely they'd be to develop a serious case (ie old or immuno-compromised).

don't let your wife set the rules. /thread

you kind of fukked up by marrying someone who tells you what to do though

Op it's sounds like your wife is doing you up the bum with her woodpecker

If she gave two chits about you she would have asked you about it and not demanded anything in the first place.

Her respect for you is the first and main issue, not what either of you are doing.

YOu have a hobby that you love that doesn't involve her. She wants you to end it so you can be miserable like she is at home.

It has nothing to do with Covid, but the fact that you're away from her. Women HATE when men have hobbies that don't include them.

She sounds retarded.

If she does anything beside work and buy groceries once a week she is exposing you to risk. If she can work from home and doesn’t, she is exposing you to risk.

Lol at going to a coffee place while trying to forbid you to play hockey. Strong selfish woman.

Immature tactics by her. She's trying to control you brah. Clearly she's being hypocritical.

Women often times test out their power like this. If you keep playing hockey she may escalate her anger. In reality she's likely unhappy about more issues and is gaslighting arguments.

From my view, the best play here is to remain calm and respectful but to hold your ground. Don't get super pissed and start a yelling match (I've done this and it always backfires). Explain your view calmly and explain why it's important for your happiness to keep playing. If she causes a huge issue over this (while going out to coffee/work/public places hypocritically) stay calm and she will realize her faults in this situation eventually. Keep in mind if she's stubborn she'll never want to admit you're right and that you're being fair.

Do you guys have any kids?

This. This happened to me with my ex-wife years ago when I played soccer league.

How did she feel about your hockey pre-COVID?

Did she encourage you to play? Wish you good luck before you went and ask you how it was when you got home? Did she ever go watch you?

Or did she become distant the hours leading up to you going and/or constantly make suggestions on things you two could do instead on nights you had hockey and suggest it was not a big deal for you to miss it for whatever she suggested?

lol thats such a stereotypical thing for a woman to say. Anything a guy does that a girl doesn't want them doing, they always pull out this statement about "you must love that more than you love me, that's why im angry now"

I agree with you about her. You do not have to stop playing hockey if she does not stop going outside. If there are so many people around you being positively tested, maybe you have a strong immune system or you have already got the virus without any signs? I do not know. My daughter is in one of the daycare centers in Brooklyn - littlescholarsnyc.com among other kids. And I should say that they do not have any positive case since July, I guess. Of course, they provide a high level of the healthcare system, they check every kid three times a day and do not allow parents to come in. But it still seems unbelievable.