I'm back for the holidays, I live abroad so don't have my own place - she's younger than me and doesn't either.

So because of this we usually rent airbnbs once a week or so

Earlier this week one of our airbnbs cancelled, so we've only slept together once in 7 days (with no mention of the next time either) - and she seems cool with that, for me that isn't enough

She asks me to do stuff like go for walks or whatever (all we really can do cos of covid) but for me it always feels really forced to smash in a car or outside - and when thats the only option it puts a lot of pressure on.

She suggested getting a place on NYE to spend that night together. Last time was 20th so thats 11 days (would have been less but the other place got cancelled)

I said to her last night I assumed we'd be getting somewhere sooner than nye and she said she was fine with that and wants to- but my point is she never brought it up.

She replied I just assumed you'd be busy and didn't know when you were free (she never asked me)

I asked her how it worked with her ex, who also lived with his parents, and she said she slept over every time she saw him lol - so like 3x a week- which is normal to me

I'd expect her to be telling me to come over my parents aren't home, or literally saying I want you to fuq me tonight at (insert place) or at the very least take some initiative in getting a place booked we can stay at - which she isn't doing.

I'm seriously considering calling it off before it gets more serious

When we do have sex its good - but im getting a bit tired of this whole we need to get an airbnb to smash, and especially when she never suggests it herself

She's also expecting exclusivity - and as it stands it just isn't going to work for me. Not sure how any girl in their right mind can expect a guy to be solely with them in this situation

Cliffs:
-Me and girl live with parents
-We rent airbnbs to smash 1/2x a week
-Its currently been 1 week and we haven't smashed

-Granted one of our places got cancelled which was not in our hands, but she seems totally ok with the lack of sex

-She doesn't seem to take initiative in terms of getting us places to stay, or even meeting up, expects me to tell her when I'm free/set up dates all the time

-Feel like I'm not getting my needs met and don't always want to be the one setting up places to stay

-Considering ending this within the next week

-Any advice/things to mention to her before I flat out tell her it isn't gonna work?

I don’t get why she doesn’t stay over your parents or you stay over her parents?

I don’t see what she’s doing as a massive issue, she’s letting you control when you see her and then agreeing to whatever you say anyway so it’s not like you’re chasing her because she agrees every time regardless. If there’s no other issues apart from this I probably wouldn’t look at ending it if I were you. Her saying she thought you were busy so she has left you to your own devices is fine. It is the holidays after all so she just thought you were busy which is understandable.

you make a fair point and I am aware of that

I never doubted she didn't want to see me, it was more of I dont want to see her and then not smash her. Which is hard to do unless we are getting a place, which she never initiates.

I dont want her over my place because at my age i think its kind of disrespectful to bring girls to your parents' place unless you're really sure about them, which im not about her

as for her place, she isn't of western origin so her parents would have an issue with her dating guys who aren't of her religion/culture whatever - and i dont want that drama nor does she.

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Yeah I agree there’s no point in seeing a chick unless you’re gonna smash so you’re not wrong with that. Seems like she’s just the receptive type to let you make your mind up and do what you say you want to do so by the sounds of it it seems she’s just waiting on you to say what you want to do when you want really.

I get where you’re coming from with your parents. After a certain age I guess you grow up and learn about respect. I suppose around 18 you don’t really think about what type of girls you’re bringing over and what-not and when you get older you’re more conscious of that. Then again that being said your parents should be understanding of how things work when you’re meeting different girls and stuff and bringing them over. You’ve said her parents aren’t westernised so it’s most definitely worse for you to go over there. Honestly man I think you should just take her over yours, your parents are westernised, they understand how things work, it’s just one of those things. I’m sure they’re not going to feel awkward about you bringing this chick over and if they do they’d tell you. I’d go for it if I was you but that’s just me, I’m a little bit more forward in my approach to some things than other people may be.

Edit : just seen you’re 27. I lived with my mum until 26 and I was still bringing chicks over my mums house when I was 26. She didn’t care, she actually liked meeting some of them and speaking to them before I took them upstairs and cummed on their Face before sending them home lol. Honestly man I don’t think parents care about that sort of thing.