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04-08-2021, 08:15 AM
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Gf is beautiful but sometimes I go soft. Help
Misc. been seeing a new girl for 2 months now. Checks all the boxes for a wife. However sex is meh. I normally finish with bjs, but sometimes when in her i go soft.
I have been used to trash girls the last 7 years. Ones that I’d gladly bang but wouldn’t take around my friends.. we all know those.
Now I have a girl I’d easily take around, but don’t constantly get that urge to bang. Our relationship is more than just hooking up.
I get hard when touching her, but then during sex will go soft sometimes. I feel like I’m in my head.
I am not going to leave her due to her qualities that she checks off.
But misc, will I ever get out of the mindset of random bangs to her? She is a 10 compared to other girls I have banged.
I have been used to trash girls the last 7 years. Ones that I’d gladly bang but wouldn’t take around my friends.. we all know those.
Now I have a girl I’d easily take around, but don’t constantly get that urge to bang. Our relationship is more than just hooking up.
I get hard when touching her, but then during sex will go soft sometimes. I feel like I’m in my head.
I am not going to leave her due to her qualities that she checks off.
But misc, will I ever get out of the mindset of random bangs to her? She is a 10 compared to other girls I have banged.
04-08-2021, 08:30 AM
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is her vagina just flat out larger than other girls?
out of every girl I've banged, only had this issue on one, and it was a girl I was halfway trying to "date". There is no fixing it lol, I'm not even small, but she needed someone with an absolute MONSTER.
out of every girl I've banged, only had this issue on one, and it was a girl I was halfway trying to "date". There is no fixing it lol, I'm not even small, but she needed someone with an absolute MONSTER.
04-08-2021, 08:46 AM
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It’s like there’s more pressure when it matters.
No fap/no porn helped me in similar situations srs. Maybe give that a shot.
No fap/no porn helped me in similar situations srs. Maybe give that a shot.
Sloots Gon Sloot.
04-08-2021, 08:51 AM
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04-08-2021, 09:05 AM
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it's all mental, relax the fukk out.
spice it up, make her wear sexy clothes, heels, w/e
if you don't raw dog make her wear your candom with her mouth/feet etc
key is to be comfortable. her vag will certainly adapt to your size in a few weeks
spice it up, make her wear sexy clothes, heels, w/e
if you don't raw dog make her wear your candom with her mouth/feet etc
key is to be comfortable. her vag will certainly adapt to your size in a few weeks
You can't fight fate
04-08-2021, 09:09 AM
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with my ex, once she said things about her past that were so traumatizing that I could never keep it up for about 3 weeks. but she worked with me diligently, helping me feel comfortable with her until we could finally have regular sex. It could be similar, that you just don't feel comfortable enough. Perhaps it's because you're not used to this type of girl and your mind is set on going hard with trashy girls only. Although this one is your own doing, I wish you luck that your gf will help you reduce your anxiety and feel more comfortable having sex with her. You guys can talk about it, and then try diff things to rehab your pp. It can work, just need patience and care. really hope she's not only willing to go through it with you, but also to actively help you recover.
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04-08-2021, 09:14 AM
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Originally Posted By DBoyDaRealest⏩
I mean it’s boy the tightest I’ve had. I have a pretty good sized penis also.is her vagina just flat out larger than other girls?
out of every girl I've banged, only had this issue on one, and it was a girl I was halfway trying to "date". There is no fixing it lol, I'm not even small, but she needed someone with an absolute MONSTER.
out of every girl I've banged, only had this issue on one, and it was a girl I was halfway trying to "date". There is no fixing it lol, I'm not even small, but she needed someone with an absolute MONSTER.
To the other poster, on mobile so can’t multi quote. But I’ll stop fap and porn.
04-08-2021, 09:18 AM
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Originally Posted By CeBKa⏩
Agreed it’s mental. I’m just used to trashy girls when once I’m done I leave and feel disgusted.it's all mental, relax the fukk out.
spice it up, make her wear sexy clothes, heels, w/e
if you don't raw dog make her wear your candom with her mouth/feet etc
key is to be comfortable. her vag will certainly adapt to your size in a few weeks
spice it up, make her wear sexy clothes, heels, w/e
if you don't raw dog make her wear your candom with her mouth/feet etc
key is to be comfortable. her vag will certainly adapt to your size in a few weeks
Her I actually love.
04-08-2021, 10:18 AM
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Originally Posted By cazzo1⏩
get hyped up and think hard/focus on what you really like about her from a physical attraction standpoint and let your monke brain take over brah.Agreed it’s mental. I’m just used to trashy girls when once I’m done I leave and feel disgusted.
Her I actually love.
Her I actually love.
stop fapping to porn in the mean time as well
04-08-2021, 10:42 AM
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its honestly probably mostly mental.
worrying about going soft will make you go soft.
worry about busting quick will make you bust quick. etc
srs
worrying about going soft will make you go soft.
worry about busting quick will make you bust quick. etc
srs
Look, i know i don't really know you and all, and i know you probably hear this like everyday, but your just so perfect to me. The few hours we talked were really great even if the convo was stale, your really pretty and chill, and your country thats just perfect :'D i really dont know how to explain it, but i think i have feelings for you somehow. i never felt like this with someone i just met, but i felt the need to get it off my chest. sorry for being all weird just idk how to explain it D:
04-08-2021, 11:14 AM
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04-08-2021, 12:31 PM
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Do you feel pressure to perform?
You might have some mental block associating sex with no emotion and/or are used to getting off by the thought of "using" those past women you did not care about whatsoever.
You might feel guilt if your mind goes there during sex with your gf when the other part of your mind cares deeply for her?
Just spitballing here but if you think it's something along the lines you may want to consider therapy.
You might have some mental block associating sex with no emotion and/or are used to getting off by the thought of "using" those past women you did not care about whatsoever.
You might feel guilt if your mind goes there during sex with your gf when the other part of your mind cares deeply for her?
Just spitballing here but if you think it's something along the lines you may want to consider therapy.
04-08-2021, 04:11 PM
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
I do yea. Only Bc I care about herDo you feel pressure to perform?
You might have some mental block associating sex with no emotion and/or are used to getting off by the thought of "using" those past women you did not care about whatsoever.
You might feel guilt if your mind goes there during sex with your gf when the other part of your mind cares deeply for her?
Just spitballing here but if you think it's something along the lines you may want to consider therapy.
You might have some mental block associating sex with no emotion and/or are used to getting off by the thought of "using" those past women you did not care about whatsoever.
You might feel guilt if your mind goes there during sex with your gf when the other part of your mind cares deeply for her?
Just spitballing here but if you think it's something along the lines you may want to consider therapy.
04-08-2021, 04:19 PM
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Can be due to several factors:
1) Too much porn
2) Your health (weight gain, poor diet, etc)
3) She might be pretty but doesn't have that sexual energy/vibe that makes you want to fuk her like a dirty lil sloot
4) Your nervous system is perma-desensitized to fooking the same girl for more than a few months due to too many ONS and short term flings (I have this now that I've been with hundreds of girls)
1) Too much porn
2) Your health (weight gain, poor diet, etc)
3) She might be pretty but doesn't have that sexual energy/vibe that makes you want to fuk her like a dirty lil sloot
4) Your nervous system is perma-desensitized to fooking the same girl for more than a few months due to too many ONS and short term flings (I have this now that I've been with hundreds of girls)
04-08-2021, 04:29 PM
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Originally Posted By cazzo1⏩
So you don't want to "defile" with her the way you did past sl00ts?I do yea. Only Bc I care about her
Start by being like... passionate and tender and loving or w/e and slowly make your way into the nasty chit.
04-08-2021, 05:44 PM
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Originally Posted By cazzo1⏩
I mean it’s boy the tightest I’ve had.
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04-08-2021, 07:33 PM
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Originally Posted By Gaedj⏩
Honestly leaning to 3 and 4. She’s beautiful man. But I don’t want to just bang and leave the second I’m finishedCan be due to several factors:
1) Too much porn
2) Your health (weight gain, poor diet, etc)
3) She might be pretty but doesn't have that sexual energy/vibe that makes you want to fuk her like a dirty lil sloot
4) Your nervous system is perma-desensitized to fooking the same girl for more than a few months due to too many ONS and short term flings (I have this now that I've been with hundreds of girls)
1) Too much porn
2) Your health (weight gain, poor diet, etc)
3) She might be pretty but doesn't have that sexual energy/vibe that makes you want to fuk her like a dirty lil sloot
4) Your nervous system is perma-desensitized to fooking the same girl for more than a few months due to too many ONS and short term flings (I have this now that I've been with hundreds of girls)
04-08-2021, 08:06 PM
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Originally Posted By cazzo1⏩
Another big thing is her accessibility.Honestly leaning to 3 and 4. She’s beautiful man. But I don’t want to just bang and leave the second I’m finished
If she's super nice, does everything you want, sucks your dink whenever you want, that can lower your attraction to her (equivalent to girls losing attraction if you cater to all their needs at all times).
Obviously, you'd love to be nice to someone who's so giving, but that's unfortunately not how our brain's wired.
04-09-2021, 04:23 AM
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Originally Posted By Gaedj⏩
I’m also like you. I’ve banged 100+ girls and have only had feelings for maybe 3 of them..Another big thing is her accessibility.
If she's super nice, does everything you want, sucks your dink whenever you want, that can lower your attraction to her (equivalent to girls losing attraction if you cater to all their needs at all times).
Obviously, you'd love to be nice to someone who's so giving, but that's unfortunately not how our brain's wired.
If she's super nice, does everything you want, sucks your dink whenever you want, that can lower your attraction to her (equivalent to girls losing attraction if you cater to all their needs at all times).
Obviously, you'd love to be nice to someone who's so giving, but that's unfortunately not how our brain's wired.
To be honest after I bang a girl for than 10x I do her bored.
This one however is serious marriage material.
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04-09-2021, 06:42 AM
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Originally Posted By cazzo1⏩
your posts sounds like the sandman alter egoI’m also like you. I’ve banged 100+ girls and have only had feelings for maybe 3 of them..
To be honest after I bang a girl for than 10x I do her bored.
This one however is serious marriage material.
Not a liberal
Cooks/cleans
No tatts
Not an alcoholic
Great job
I can see myself raising kids with her.
To be honest after I bang a girl for than 10x I do her bored.
This one however is serious marriage material.
Not a liberal
Cooks/cleans
No tatts
Not an alcoholic
Great job
I can see myself raising kids with her.
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04-09-2021, 07:16 AM
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04-18-2021, 10:08 PM
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04-19-2021, 12:06 AM
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Originally Posted By cazzo1⏩
I have had this issue before. I think it's all in your head. You're saying she's a 10. She's not brah, sorry to tell you. She's ****ed other guys before and like all women is a giant toddler mentally.Misc. been seeing a new girl for 2 months now. Checks all the boxes for a wife. However sex is meh. I normally finish with bjs, but sometimes when in her i go soft.
I have been used to trash girls the last 7 years. Ones that I’d gladly bang but wouldn’t take around my friends.. we all know those.
Now I have a girl I’d easily take around, but don’t constantly get that urge to bang. Our relationship is more than just hooking up.
I get hard when touching her, but then during sex will go soft sometimes. I feel like I’m in my head.
I am not going to leave her due to her qualities that she checks off.
But misc, will I ever get out of the mindset of random bangs to her? She is a 10 compared to other girls I have banged.
I have been used to trash girls the last 7 years. Ones that I’d gladly bang but wouldn’t take around my friends.. we all know those.
Now I have a girl I’d easily take around, but don’t constantly get that urge to bang. Our relationship is more than just hooking up.
I get hard when touching her, but then during sex will go soft sometimes. I feel like I’m in my head.
I am not going to leave her due to her qualities that she checks off.
But misc, will I ever get out of the mindset of random bangs to her? She is a 10 compared to other girls I have banged.
You're probably just too in your head when you're around her still, you got some onenitis you gotta get out of. Until you do you won't have the confidence to just **** her like all the other sloots (do whatever makes you feel good), which is basically what all women want to be treated like in bed
04-19-2021, 04:54 PM
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04-20-2021, 01:44 PM
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04-20-2021, 08:00 PM
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Originally Posted By fuaAAA⏩
10 overall in terms of wife material. I’ll be honest. 99% of the girls I banged were not wife material. Just a place to stick my dick.I have had this issue before. I think it's all in your head. You're saying she's a 10. She's not brah, sorry to tell you. She's ****ed other guys before and like all women is a giant toddler mentally.
You're probably just too in your head when you're around her still, you got some onenitis you gotta get out of. Until you do you won't have the confidence to just **** her like all the other sloots (do whatever makes you feel good), which is basically what all women want to be treated like in bed
You're probably just too in your head when you're around her still, you got some onenitis you gotta get out of. Until you do you won't have the confidence to just **** her like all the other sloots (do whatever makes you feel good), which is basically what all women want to be treated like in bed
My girl is beautiful, but sexy? I wouldn’t say that. Wish the boobs were bigger but that’s ok. (Probably why I go soft I love big tits)
04-21-2021, 05:33 AM
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04-21-2021, 07:23 AM
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I've had this problem with a new girl before, its 100% mental, you are either not comfortable, feel pressured or something mentally is making you not enjoy sex with her.
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