I injured myself a few yrs back and have been searching for a good massage therapist. I tried like 30 different ppl, and in november 2020 i found this one thai chick that works at a thai massage place on the west coast, she's hella good. Whenever I'm in town I book weekly appointments with her cuz she's that good. It also helps that she's really fit and attractive lol

Ive had my fair share of massages and usually they are very business-transaction-y. But for this, I cant help but notice there's a bit of a flirty vibe whenever I do a session with her, she laughs at all my jokes and she kinda presses her whole body against me while she's massaging me. I never srsly entertained dating her cuz I didn't wanna make chit weird and ruin a good thing I have going.... the massages are phucking amazing and i dont wanna lose that

A couple weeks ago after the session we were talking about yoga and pilates and she was saying she used a certain app to help, and asked me for my number so she could refer me. And as of late, after our sessions she kinda talks about different restaurants she likes and the parks she likes to walk in and how she hasnt been to X restaurant in a while and I cant help but think she wants me to ask her out

wat do

This sounds obvious op, ask her out! The downside is you could lose access to one of the best massage therapists you've ever had if the relationships dissolves.

Ask her out. you can always find another massage place, but getting a massage girl is even better.

Let me know how it goes OP! Sounds like she likes you. Many people would love to date a massage girl. Seems they would know just how to relax you

Sounds like she likes you but i'd tread lightly.......i know a massage therapist and she admits to being a sloot and giving out handies for 200$ tips......along with that dudes grope her often and she kinda has to take it or she wont keep getting clients.

Its a nasty field even when its taken seriously.....

That being said, take her out and see where it goes and how yall feel.....

Yeah take her out to dinner so she can tell you about all the other men she jerks off

I was at a "normal" massage place and this middle age fat one there kept bumping my dink with her arm on purpose

Ask her if she knows deshaun Watson

If you do want to pursue her, take her on a walk through the park or go kayaking or something. If she's hinting at restaurants it could mean she's into you, or it could mean she sees you as a paypig.

we ended up going to a yoga class type thing. was pretty dope. was fking intense i almost died and she was barely breaking a sweat lol

idk if that counts as a date but i dont rly care, im down to just have her as a friend shes hella cool

u still cant figure out if she likes you or not?

pretty sure she is trying to bang and you are friendzoning the both of you

did you hug and kiss her when you went to yoga class?

pro tip, if youre a puss to make a move you can still kiss her on the cheek at the end of the date. if she dont like you she will pull away her head and it wont be awkward enough since you didnt do anything major but if she likes you she will be cool with it.

that is terrible advice LOL negged

wtf try to kiss her and if she flinches its all good? ur a fking creeper dude for real

keep being a low test beta male, maybe one day your balls will drop. lol just keep going on friend dates with her and hope she makes a move, strong strategy. i gave you an easy pro tip that even most low test males could carry out but i guess youre too puss to try it

I can't help but get the vibe you're too concerned about making it "awkward" if she turns you down.

I think the signs point to her liking you and you should go for it.

You're right. This is only creepy if you aren't confident in yourself when you do it. I doubt OP will pull it off because he doesn't see himself as the prize, he sees her as the prize.

If you're not trolling, majority of Thai massage therapists have to do handjobs at the end of their massage to make a proper living. Some even do more than that. They flirt with EVERY one of their clients since it's semi-sex work. That said, if you like her, they want nothing more than an actual boyfriend since majority of men denigrate them. They are starving for love. If that's what you're looking for, go for it! I'd say your chances with her are well over 90%, though I think from your inability to read signals your autism will prevent you from this easy layup.

the place she works at is a legit upscale one, they kick ppl out if they try that ****. most of the clientele is female also. i would be very surprised if she was forced to do sexual stuff with her clients. maybe someone like me comes around once every 6 months to a year and she flirts with him. id be cool with that, id probably do the same thing if i was in her shoes.

that being said, this stigma against thai MTs is part of why i am hesitant, and why im open to just being friends. this woman is legitimately saving my life and i dont wanna complicate things by getting into a relationship with her and have it go south. if that was the case id rather get weekly massages from her and date someone else. once i cross that line it will get REALLY complicated if i ever meet another girl, which there PLENTY, there are lots of options where i live. massage therapists like her are legit 1 in 100. i DO NOT want to lose what i have going right now

its also creepy if you're in public in a room of a bunch of other women and you're the only dude. brb ruining my reputation.

thats something you do if you're sitting on the couch in her apartment and you already have your arm around her

it's called being smooth bro.

bro you arent going to get chit of these "plenty of other options in your area" with that beta ass mindset. you are actively making excuses why you cant date this chick and why you cant make a move yet you were interested in dating her because you made a thread about it in the first place and if you had "all these other options" you'd already be dating these other chicks.

its not so fuking hard to walk out the place with her to her car and hug and kiss her good bye. and what reputation do you even have in the woman's yoga class? they dont even know you. I gave you an easy bail out maneuver, that i thought someone even of your low test could pull off. if you only kiss her on the cheek it will give you the data you need, it escalates and if you misread and she thought you were a friend its an easy bail out and she isnt going to claim sexual assault or some chit.

pls go away

you asked misc for advice and dont want to take it. you passively waited until she invited you to some gay women's yoga class. you have pussy throwing itself at you and are too beta to capitalize on it because you are afraid of risk. you have to take risk if you want to get anywhere in life. steve jobs dropped out of college to sell computers from his garage. bill gates sold *** the license to software he didnt even have yet and scrambled to go find it before they could figure it out and cancel his contract. I think you can atleast make a move on a woman or ask her out proper

I don't think anyone was expecting you to make a move at the yoga class.

If you want to be more than friends as her out for drinks.

She initiated getting to know you outside of her work on a personal level. If she is in fact not interested, she surely can see how you may have taken her asking you to hangout as something else and I see no reason why it would be "awkward" and you couldn't keep going to her if she declines.

yea i agree. i am like 99.9% sure shes into me. im sure if i asked her to dinner or something she'd say yes.

but my main hangup is, lets say we date for a while and get intimate, then after a couple months, one of us decides the relationship isnt working out. and i continue seeing her for massages. then i get another GF, it would be really weird to keep seeing my MT due to our history. thats the situation i am afraid of.

If you have so many other quality options you wouldn't be making this thread.

I don't know many people who would prioritize their massage therapy over their dating life (especially if she appears to have LTR potential) but you do you man.

i have an injury that i have been dealing with for years and its finally getting better with her, i dont wanna lose that

maybe in a year it wont be as bad anymore, but right now i need this

If that's your answer and you're sticking to it then best of luck and I hope the discussions helped.

thx man. ill need it....

dont be a soyboy. ask her out. ull get those massages for free if shes down