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post 1679821723 03-29-2023, 12:02 PM
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Stop chasing and pick the women who choose you!

I think people overestimate how far game can carry you.

Game is only going to improve your chances with women who have a slight interest in you. It’s just going to be enough from pushing them from a mild interest into being all over you.

It’s not going to work on women who aren’t into you. You’re not going to have some chick who doesn’t give you the time of day or is just friendly into throwing herself at you.

This is why you need to just choose the women who chose you.

Obviously you still must shoot your shot and initiate things, but women who are into you will make it easy for you. They will do the bulk of the work. When you do the bulk of the work as a man, it’s usually not rewarded.

Went to a pool party with some mutual friends, and this one girl came up to me and touched my back and arm multiple times.

Eventually I returned the favor and it was all over.

This was so much nicer than me repeatedly throwing myself at these chicks who aren’t into it.

It’s the women who ultimately do the choosing. Just pick the ones who choose you!
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post 1679841803 03-29-2023, 05:56 PM
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I choose the women they don't choose me.
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post 1679860593 03-30-2023, 02:39 AM
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Originally Posted By iloveus⏩
I choose the women they don't choose me.
I think what he is trying to say that we should want the women who wants us, not who we want. Someone who is giving us strong choosing signals, initiates contact, is cooperative, does not flake etc. Having a woman, who sees you as the prize and not the other way around will lead to a more fulfilling and stress free relationship.

Even when the woman you chased, finally gives in, she will never have that primal physical attraction towards you, because she didn't actually want you from the start. She just settled for you, for whatever reason (f.e other potential partners not being available or you being the better financial option). The chase will never end. That feeling of her being the prize, and the man being her so called "adorer" will never go away in her mind and will carry on deep in the relationship.
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post 1679867383 03-30-2023, 07:23 AM
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Originally Posted By mryamamoto⏩
I think what he is trying to say that we should want the women who wants us, not who we want. Someone who is giving us strong choosing signals, initiates contact, is cooperative, does not flake etc. Having a woman, who sees you as the prize and not the other way around will lead to a more fulfilling and stress free relationship.

Even when the woman you chased, finally gives in, she will never have that primal physical attraction towards you, because she didn't actually want you from the start. She just settled for you, for whatever reason (f.e other potential partners not being available or you being the better financial option). The chase will never end. That feeling of her being the prize, and the man being her so called "adorer" will never go away in her mind and will carry on deep in the relationship.
Yes, that's what I wanted to say. I mean.. obviously try to go for every woman you fancy but if you see that she still isn't interested after you giving her a taste of your personality etc then just don't keep trying until the end of times etc.
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post 1679867833 03-30-2023, 07:35 AM
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repped OP, been saying this for years.

The problem is when nobody even has that initial interest, there's nothing you can do. Misc doesnt understand that.

Game is not turning 0 attraction to 100. You cannot change o attraction no matter what you do
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
repped OP, been saying this for years.

The problem is when nobody even has that initial interest, there's nothing you can do. Misc doesnt understand that.

Game is not turning 0 attraction to 100. You cannot change o attraction no matter what you do
I disagree with this.

You can change 0 attraction if you spend enough time together.
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
repped OP, been saying this for years.

The problem is when nobody even has that initial interest, there's nothing you can do. Misc doesnt understand that.

Game is not turning 0 attraction to 100. You cannot change o attraction no matter what you do
this. 10yrs ago, you could be a 6/10 guy and still pull a 5/10 girl. now, JFL @ pulling so much as a swamp creature unless youre a solid 8 or shes less than a 2/10.bmisc fails to realize this and instead says what OP did

brb "just pick the ones who pick you" says someone a) married b) has been in an LTR for a decade c) 6ft or taller d)making $150k or more or e) has chisled jawline
Originally Posted By mryamamoto⏩
I think what he is trying to say that we should want the women who wants us
yall are fukn delusional and act like hypergamy hasnt completely run amok since tinder launched and especially within the last 5yrs

brb instead of 80/20, it's 99.9/.01.
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Originally Posted By friesbruh⏩
this. 10yrs ago, you could be a 6/10 guy and still pull a 5/10 girl. now, JFL @ pulling so much as a swamp creature unless youre a solid 8 or shes less than a 2/10.bmisc fails to realize this and instead says what OP did

brb "just pick the ones who pick you" says someone a) married b) has been in an LTR for a decade c) 6ft or taller d)making $150k or more or e) has chisled jawline



yall are fukn delusional and act like hypergamy hasnt completely run amok since tinder launched and especially within the last 5yrs

brb instead of 80/20, it's 99.9/.01.
They dont understand that so many men dont even get any initial interest. What are you supposed to do then?
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Originally Posted By iloveus⏩
I disagree with this.

You can change 0 attraction if you spend enough time together.
Why would she be spending time with you if shes not attracted? If you're friends, friendzone is also too late
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
Why would she be spending time with you if shes not attracted? If you're friends, friendzone is also too late
70% of romantic relationships start off as friends.

Attraction happens when you spend time together. When you experience life together.
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Originally Posted By OsavPoiss⏩
Went to a pool party with some mutual friends, and this one girl came up to me and touched my back and arm multiple times.
It's crazy how simple it really is. It's all about signals. It's a great filter for women. Either the dude picks up the signal or he doesn't.
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Originally Posted By iloveus⏩
70% of romantic relationships start off as friends.
this sounds very false. Where is the data behind this? This would basically say the friendzone doesnt exist
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I remember some oldcel was giving advice on what he do diff when he was young. And he said, pick the woman that picks u. And not the other way around. If u think about it. It makes sense. In the end, it's all about how she treats u. Having a woman that's likes the fuk outta u is a blessing mane. Cuz you're are the prize
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Originally Posted By friesbruh⏩
this. 10yrs ago, you could be a 6/10 guy and still pull a 5/10 girl. now, JFL @ pulling so much as a swamp creature unless youre a solid 8 or shes less than a 2/10.bmisc fails to realize this and instead says what OP did

brb "just pick the ones who pick you" says someone a) married b) has been in an LTR for a decade c) 6ft or taller d)making $150k or more or e) has chisled jawline



yall are fukn delusional and act like hypergamy hasnt completely run amok since tinder launched and especially within the last 5yrs

brb instead of 80/20, it's 99.9/.01.
Instead of raging on me, maybe take that energy and use it to push yourself to closer to the 20%? It's good to be a man - we have many options how to up our SMV, women only have one - their looks, a window of about 7 years - from the ages 18 to 25.

You can start by logging off and taking a look around yourself. I see a lot of mismatched (looks wise) couples on the streets. Don't know you, but you sound angry and a guy who's looking for excuses and not solutions.
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post 1679957293 03-31-2023, 01:54 PM
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I more or less agree that we shouldn't chase the ones who aren't matching (or exceeding) our efforts.

Also important to find the balance of putting yourself out there/shooting your shot confidently (not creepily) as you don't want the reputation of someone who is desperate and too forward with too many women and develops a reputation.
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