I (26F) know my girlfriend (28M) for more than a year now, and we've been together for 5 months now. We met in country A (a European country), where I'm studying and where she worked for 2 years before moving back home, she's from country B (a neighboring European country), we became exclusive right before she moved back. We did 2 months long distance (She visited me once and I visited her once). Then she came back to A to look for a job and stayed with me for 2 months in my place.


Both her and I didn't really believe in long distance relationships, but ended up in one. She then quickly decided that she didn't want to work in A, but want to go to country C (in Asia) for many reasons, mostly ancestral and spiritual, which has been her dream for a while.


She wants to do long distance for the 5 months period she will stay there (7months if we count November and December, where we'll do the long distance in Europe, country A-B). However, she doesn't know what she'll want to do afterwards. The possibilities are:

-She likes country C enough to want to extend her stay there (she already loves the country and the people)

-She likes country C enough to want to settle down there (she's been asking me if I would like to settle down there)

-She comes back after 5 months but to country B not A

-Maybe comes back to country A, where I am (she has been given indirect answers about this option)


The twist is, this program she wants to do, she can do now, or in a year, or in 2 or even in 5 years, but she absolutely wants to do it right now.


Am I wrong for asking her to postpone her program for another year for the sake or our relationship?

Am I wrong for not accepting the long distance, especially when there is a good chance she won't come back?

What should I do?

Cliffs brah

What? Are you saying I should jump?

Lol no he is saying trim down your story to just the facts. Not many are going to read a book .

I trimmed it mate, lol sorry for that

What's the purpose of asking her to postpone her program in Asia?
If she did it in another year or two would you go with her?

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Ultimately, no you aren't wrong for asking. But choose carefully how you react to her answer. Personally I'd be out unless the extra time meant I'd be going with her on her trip. I wouldn't do long distance especially when the endgame is up in the air.