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10-30-2020, 12:35 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
If you know what works for you and who you're not compatible with, you should keep doing what weeds out certain types of women.But your tendency is clearly not conducive to finding a quality woman. It's the opposite. At least mine is leaning the right direction.
I agree with your point about there being a set of women who might be major sluts while single, fuk randomers in bar restrooms, might completely diminish the value of sex, and love CardiB WAP, but be perfectly loyal while in a relationship. Sure, it's possible.
The question is: is my rule of thumb reasonable or not. Is that correlation rare enough to negate my practical application of the rule.
I agree with your point about there being a set of women who might be major sluts while single, fuk randomers in bar restrooms, might completely diminish the value of sex, and love CardiB WAP, but be perfectly loyal while in a relationship. Sure, it's possible.
The question is: is my rule of thumb reasonable or not. Is that correlation rare enough to negate my practical application of the rule.
I will say this, a "quality woman," outside of certain universally important traits such as loyalty, kindness, is a very subjective evaluation. It's essentially whatever someone wants it to mean. Just think of the different preferences guys have in terms of home-makers vs career women.
10-30-2020, 12:51 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
You and Legz are too funny! Thanks for making me smile with the wedding and bridesmaids. What do you mean a short open window? Lol. I've never been on dating apps and I love working from home. I am an introvert so I don't really like talking to people when I go out. I have a long window. Lol.I'm single again, you have a short open window
You just can't catch a break with with these women. Over the last couple of years I feel like I have known you and Legz through all of you guys posts. You are a good man. Keep your standards. Standards give you quality.
P.S. Who will be the best man? hahaha...
10-30-2020, 03:38 PM
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Originally Posted By SwimLiftRunGrl⏩
You have to make wincel the best man LmaoooYou and Legz are too funny! Thanks for making me smile with the wedding and bridesmaids. What do you mean a short open window? Lol. I've never been on dating apps and I love working from home. I am an introvert so I don't really like talking to people when I go out. I have a long window. Lol.
You just can't catch a break with with these women. Over the last couple of years I feel like I have known you and Legz through all of you guys posts. You are a good man. Keep your standards. Standards give you quality.
P.S. Who will be the best man? hahaha...
You just can't catch a break with with these women. Over the last couple of years I feel like I have known you and Legz through all of you guys posts. You are a good man. Keep your standards. Standards give you quality.
P.S. Who will be the best man? hahaha...
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11-01-2020, 12:39 PM
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How was everyone's Halloween? I went to an island to explore an old fort with my adventure club and dressed up as Batman. We didn't get many kids though for candy this year. That's another casualty of Covid. Poor kids.
11-01-2020, 12:41 PM
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Originally Posted By DustinTheHuss⏩
Not one trick or treater was seen.How was everyone's Halloween? I went to an island to explore an old fort with my adventure club and dressed up as Batman. We didn't get many kids though for candy this year. That's another casualty of Covid. Poor kids.
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11-01-2020, 12:48 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
Damn. I ended up putting out the bowl after being prepared with a mask and gloves for the kids to come to the door, and then I heard kids coming up and taking candy from the bowl.Not one trick or treater was seen.
It sucks as I used to like seeing the kids. I ended up watching the movie Halloween, but the night felt empty. The day was good, though! There were a lot of people in costumes on the island.
11-01-2020, 04:49 PM
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Originally Posted By DustinTheHuss⏩
Basically what we had to do. Most parents bought candy for their children. Every kid that came wouldn’t knock on the door because of covid. Ig some parents thought it would be safer? So I just left the bowl on the porch because of that. Only around 8 kids showed up.Damn. I ended up putting out the bowl after being prepared with a mask and gloves for the kids to come to the door, and then I heard kids coming up and taking candy from the bowl.
It sucks as I used to like seeing the kids. I ended up watching the movie Halloween, but the night felt empty. The day was good, though! There were a lot of people in costumes on the island.
It sucks as I used to like seeing the kids. I ended up watching the movie Halloween, but the night felt empty. The day was good, though! There were a lot of people in costumes on the island.
Glad the island was fun boyo!
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11-02-2020, 01:01 PM
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No trick or treaters this year in my area. Still have lots of candies at home.
Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
I don't remember who wincel is. Luc1fer will be the man of the household so he decides the best man.You have to make wincel the best man Lmaooo
11-02-2020, 01:19 PM
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Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
He can be the flower boy with EOD - throwing flowers and confetti might cheer them up.You have to make wincel the best man Lmaooo
Maybe SwimLiftRunGrl has some desperate friends that would be willing to make out and put them out of their misery.
Mediocregains can probably be best man.
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Ha, I'm down.He can be the flower boy with EOD - throwing flowers and confetti might cheer them up.
Maybe SwimLiftRunGrl has some desperate friends that would be willing to make out and put them out of their misery.
Mediocregains can probably be best man.
Maybe SwimLiftRunGrl has some desperate friends that would be willing to make out and put them out of their misery.
Mediocregains can probably be best man.
Is Wincel still around?
11-02-2020, 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
Every time he gets unbanned he's banned again within a day. TDS has ruined him. Before he got so into politics he made some funny posts. Now everything he posts is political, mean spirited and not very funny. Even though he grew up upper middle class he started identifying with any group he feels is disadvantaged since he feels that he is genetically disadvantagedPretty sure he's banned again.
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11-02-2020, 03:34 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I'm too lazy to search up wincel. As for EOD I hope he finds happiness soon. Sorry I don't have desperate friends. I can chip in some money to hire women for them.He can be the flower boy with EOD - throwing flowers and confetti might cheer them up.
Maybe SwimLiftRunGrl has some desperate friends that would be willing to make out and put them out of their misery.
Mediocregains can probably be best man.
Maybe SwimLiftRunGrl has some desperate friends that would be willing to make out and put them out of their misery.
Mediocregains can probably be best man.
11-03-2020, 12:06 PM
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2nd date with the Russian lady today. 3 weeks after the initial one I think.
My 6 day motorcycle trip got cut short on day 2 so I had time to see her on a weekday.
After some chatting last night and her hinting at meeting again, I took the chance and asked if she had time today.
She taught me some Russian, I taught her some Afrikaans. Dirty stuff of course.
She was very touchy and flirty today.
Luckily no public boners for me.
Next time I am bringing my Aids test certificate along.
I chatted to two other women after meeting the one above on Tinder, but that just remained there. It just did not flow that well for me. I don't really go on Tinder anymore. Also have not had any luck on Hinge.
My 6 day motorcycle trip got cut short on day 2 so I had time to see her on a weekday.
After some chatting last night and her hinting at meeting again, I took the chance and asked if she had time today.
She taught me some Russian, I taught her some Afrikaans. Dirty stuff of course.
She was very touchy and flirty today.
Luckily no public boners for me.
Next time I am bringing my Aids test certificate along.
I chatted to two other women after meeting the one above on Tinder, but that just remained there. It just did not flow that well for me. I don't really go on Tinder anymore. Also have not had any luck on Hinge.
11-03-2020, 02:36 PM
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Chatting with a girl for the last week or so. A day between responses, probably 5 messages, asked her if she was down to meet, got immediately blocked/deleted.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
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11-03-2020, 03:14 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Probably the same type of girl that complains about guys being boring while she sends a one word response a day later. These girls are the majority on apps.Chatting with a girl for the last week or so. A day between responses, probably 5 messages, asked her if she was down to meet, got immediately blocked/deleted.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
11-03-2020, 03:45 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
What happened to the one you had several dates with and seemed to like?Chatting with a girl for the last week or so. A day between responses, probably 5 messages, asked her if she was down to meet, got immediately blocked/deleted.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
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11-04-2020, 10:29 AM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Compared to the amount of dates you get to flakes you are still doing good right? Have you tried e-harmony? Out of all my friends only one used one dating app and that was e-harmony. She found her husband there and they were both engineers. Also, a former co-worker from my other job found his wife at e-harmony. They were both serious about finding a partner. The former co-worker was around 300lbs and his wife is pretty chubby too. Both couples matched looks-wise.Chatting with a girl for the last week or so. A day between responses, probably 5 messages, asked her if she was down to meet, got immediately blocked/deleted.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
This is why you don’t waste/invest too much time, it’s still kinda frustrating but not nearly as much as it did in the past when I invested more heavily.
Another method I use is to always assume the ghost/flake at any point in time. If I catch myself feeling excited, I distract and prevent it. It’s the only way to stay sane on the apps.
My other friends find their partner through other friends or badminton. I play badminton and Chinese chess too. Have you tried joining any nerdy sports?
11-04-2020, 11:38 PM
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Will respond to messages soon, been busy. See sig. Great Nov so far in the market:
Btw zero girls I’ve dated know my worth, nobody does. Although they probably pick up that I’m financially stable, which I’m fine with. And I don’t think I’m wealthy to be clear (I’m not really), I just don’t disclose it.
Btw zero girls I’ve dated know my worth, nobody does. Although they probably pick up that I’m financially stable, which I’m fine with. And I don’t think I’m wealthy to be clear (I’m not really), I just don’t disclose it.
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11-04-2020, 11:42 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
That pre-election fear was a fantastic buying opportunity, and a non Twitter chit-posting President + a Republican Senate is likely great for the market. Would've liked to put more in stocks, but most of our money is being saved for a house down payment/potential emergency.Will respond to messages soon, been busy. See sig. Great Nov so far in the market:
Btw zero girls I’ve dated know my worth, nobody does. Although they probably pick up that I’m financially stable, which I’m fine with. And I don’t think I’m wealthy to be clear (I’m not really), I just don’t disclose it.
Btw zero girls I’ve dated know my worth, nobody does. Although they probably pick up that I’m financially stable, which I’m fine with. And I don’t think I’m wealthy to be clear (I’m not really), I just don’t disclose it.
11-05-2020, 10:37 AM
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Originally Posted By MediocreGains⏩
For sure, I think the market is reacting to all of that plus split Congress, which slows things aka govt interference down = good for capitalism.That pre-election fear was a fantastic buying opportunity, and a non Twitter chit-posting President + a Republican Senate is likely great for the market. Would've liked to put more in stocks, but most of our money is being saved for a house down payment/potential emergency.
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I think I may have reached diminished returns on increasing my lay count, in order to avoid bitterness in a woman’s count.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Were you a late bloomer? If so, I think that explains a lot about your attitude towards # counts. Don't marry the town sloot but try not to dwell on every sexual encounter your partner has had. That chit will drive you crazyI think I may have reached diminished returns on increasing my lay count, in order to avoid bitterness in a woman’s count.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I can relate to feeling like I "missed out" during parts of my life.I think I may have reached diminished returns on increasing my lay count, in order to avoid bitterness in a woman’s count.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
That combined with not feeling desired whatsoever from my partner for the last 3 years of our relationship made me motivated to get some quick notches after my divorce but I realized I prefer quality over quantity and to have some sort of connection with the woman beyond just being an easy, alcohol infused pickup.
One thing that helped me in regards to being at ease with the potential number of my partner is having some short term flings/hookups myself where i did respect/connect with the woman. I think some of us are turned off by the thought of our partner "being used" and the subject of a pump and dump where the dude just high fives his bro's once she's gone and never speaks to her or acknowledges her again. Not saying that has or hasn't happened but when you're with someone who you can't imagine not commanding some level of respect and doing things on their own terms (at least at that point in their lives) makes you feel better about any casual encounters they may have had.
Personally though, not always having the confidence I have now, there were times when simply getting another notch under my belt made my feel more confident (& potentially accepting of more women as I seemed to want to have close to or a higher count to any woman I'd date) and I was lucky not to have any negative consequences of those actions but those were issues I dealt with when I was younger and maybe not as relevant to how you feel.
As much as i try not to be judgemental, I'd more or less agree that single digits is a lot easier to accept in a partner so your benchmark of 10 is not abnormal.
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
That's a great second point. My ex was just so liberal on sex, I know she was therefore easy. That's hard to get past; how do you marry a woman knowing that she was pumped and dumped by so many men? You just can't think about it right.I think some of us are turned off by the thought of our partner "being used" and the subject of a pump and dump where the dude just high fives his bro's once she's gone and never speaks to her or acknowledges her again.
Not saying that has or hasn't happened but when you're with someone who you can't imagine not commanding some level of respect and doing things on their own terms (at least at that point in their lives) makes you feel better about any casual encounters they may have had.
Not saying that has or hasn't happened but when you're with someone who you can't imagine not commanding some level of respect and doing things on their own terms (at least at that point in their lives) makes you feel better about any casual encounters they may have had.
This is why I talked about being a bit more conservative on sex. Does it mean a woman didn't have ONS or casual flings? No. But at least she probably had some standards or didn't do it frequently. My long term ex fell in this category and I'd be okay with that.
TBH just aligning with someone with similar values to me might be the answer. I'm not super conservative, or super liberal on this stuff.
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11-06-2020, 01:52 PM
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#357
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I don't think you need a therapist. I think you need a break away from the dating apps and this forum. Have some time for yourself.I think I may have reached diminished returns on increasing my lay count, in order to avoid bitterness in a woman’s count.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
I think being with a few more women than 1/2 helped a bit in this regard, but I’ll probably have to accept ~10 is the # I’m comfortable with or else just don’t ask and stay intentionally ignorant to a degree.
I kinda wish it didn’t bother me at all, tbh.
I’ve been thinking quite a bit about why my recent ex bothered me so much in this regard, and it still kinda does to some degree. I can’t figure out if it was her raw count or her general hyperliberal attitude. I think it was the latter. Actually I’m pretty sure it was.
That said, looking inwards and being truly honest, a part of it is probably bitterness that I didn’t have sex in college and that I “missed out”. Being with a 22yo mitigated it to some ddegree, but I doubt sleeping with more young women would.
Maybe a therapist could help me figure this out.
Could it also be that you are mad that your ex wasted a lot of your time? Having sex is not a competition. So let's say you have lots of sex but at the end of the day what did you truly "missed out" on? Would having lots of sex in college change the way you feel toward women with high count? Sorry I am just trying to understand here.
If you do a google search on the number of single women in your preferred age range I am sure there are many women who have less than 10 count from that group.
My friends, family (sisters AND brothers) and I have a count less than the fingers on one hand. Our parents constantly remind us to not be whores or manwhores and shame their reputation. Any Asian kid raised with very old fashioned parent know this. Lol.
I agree with you that you should stick with women with conservative views on sex. I have a stricter view than you do when it comes to sex.
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11-06-2020, 02:52 PM
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Why are we so focused on a body count. People come and go in each others lives and as long as someone was balanced what’s the difference between 10 or 12 or 8? The older we get this becomes irrelevant. When we are all 85 years old and on our death beds are we seriously going to care if she had 11 guys instead of 9? I’d take the 11 who’s an amazing loving woman over someone who’s not that at 9.
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11-06-2020, 05:53 PM
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#359
Originally Posted By SwimLiftRunGrl⏩
I spent my entire 20's to myself. I've had a ridiculous amount of time to myself in my life being fully independent, but I understand the advice. Maybe taking a longer break after a breakup is a good idea though, I did that with my long term ex.I don't think you need a therapist. I think you need a break away from the dating apps and this forum. Have some time for yourself.
Could it also be that you are mad that your ex wasted a lot of your time? Having sex is not a competition. So let's say you have lots of sex but at the end of the day what did you truly "missed out" on? Would having lots of sex in college change the way you feel toward women with high count? Sorry I am just trying to understand here.
I am certainly angry at her for betraying and disrespecting me, I think that's normal. I was loyal and respectful towards her, so ye I'm not happy that she didn't return that. It's low. A part of me still wants to give her more a piece of my mind, but probably best not to.My hypothesis that being as promiscuous as she was, would help me feel less bitter about the attitude/count. There's a chance I'm wrong, but some other posters have alluded to wanting to have higher counts than their partner. Even if I was at 100, I'd probably feel uncomfortable about her hyperliberal attitude though, so I think you're right.
My friends, family (sisters AND brothers) and I have a count less than the fingers on one hand. Our parents constantly remind us to not be whores or manwhores and shame their reputation. Any Asian kid raised with very old fashioned parent know this. Lol.
I agree with you that you should stick with women with conservative views on sex.I have a stricter view than you do when it comes to sex.
Agree with bolded, except I'm not even that conservative, more moderate.I agree with you that you should stick with women with conservative views on sex.I have a stricter view than you do when it comes to sex.
I'm just not hyper liberal. Thanks for assuring me not all women are like this.
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11-06-2020, 05:54 PM
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#360
Originally Posted By dolvioblue⏩
This is a bit of a misundertanding. It's the hyperliberal attitude towards sex that's the issue, which correlates significantly with high counts.Why are we so focused on a body count. People come and go in each others lives and as long as someone was balanced what’s the difference between 10 or 12 or 8? The older we get this becomes irrelevant. When we are all 85 years old and on our death beds are we seriously going to care if she had 11 guys instead of 9? I’d take the 11 who’s an amazing loving woman over someone who’s not that at 9.
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