legit feel bad for u srs

When she said she wanted to take a break that's when you ****ing end it right then and there. Hell maybe even when she wanted to go abroad.

Imagine if you had married her and she left you after the marriage. Lmao you got lucky m8. She clearly was not the one

So I had an amazing relationship with a girl, and for three years it was perfect. The honeymoon phase went on for years. She was completely dedicated to me. The only problem was that she wanted to get married and have kids, and I didn't. I mentioned my feelings a few times, but we usually didn't talk about it and just enjoyed each other's company. We never fought and almost never argued.

Things started to sour in the fourth year, and she became more and more distant. Yet she rarely talked about her feelings. I couldn't seem to fix things. Then, after she graduated from college, she decided to study abroad for a year and get her Masters. I was very surprised by her decision. Due to the circumstances, we decided to go on a break, create a little space, casually date other people, and then get back together when she returned. You can see where this is going. Well, instead she met some Russian cuck that worshiped the ground she walked on. He was ready to marry her on day one. In fact, he was already divorced and had 2 kids back in Russia. She casually dated him for a year, delaying her return to the US because she had a teaching job there and she was busy applying to grad schools for her PhD. She always insisted that her relationship with this guy wasn't serious, and she was still affectionate to me.

To make a long story short, she finally came home for Christmas after 1.5 years of being my lovey-dovey best friend. But then, out of the blue, she refused to talk to me or see me. Finally allowed me one phone call and said it was over, she was marrying the Russian guy, and we were done. She insisted the decision was final, and she couldn't talk to me anymore. Completely blindsided me. Afterwards, I told her I needed to talk about things more, but she ignored all my calls and messages.

So I ended up losing the love of my life. Once the initial shock settled and the crippling realization set in, I freaked out and tried to propose. I told her she meant everything to me, that we could get married and work out all our problems. And I meant it. But that only seemed to make her angrier and she has blocked me on all social media since.

In the end, I am absolutely devastated, and losing her made me realize how much I truly did love her. It is the biggest kick in the balls one can imagine. I am completely filled with regret. I feel like I let "The One" get away. Yet I didn't actually want to marry and have kids. I was willing to make the sacrifice in the end, but I still felt unsure about signing my life away to fatherhood. On the other hand, given the choice of losing her forever or compromising, I was more than willing to compromise. But sadly, it was too little, too late.

So Misc, did I dun goof, or did I dodge a bullet in the end?

CLIFFS

-Dated girlfriend for 4 years
-She wanted to marry and have kids, I didn't
-She went to study abroad for one year
-We went on break but planned to get back together
-She met somebody else, casually dated, said it wouldn't last
-She came home for Xmas, I expected to see her
-Without warning, she tore my heart out and set it on fire

Can't post pics, please don't neg a bro when he's down. Thanks bruhs

I didn't like it but I thought some space would be good for us. I thought she would realize how much she loved me and missed me, and come crawling back. At first, that was true, but the she started dating the Russian guy a few months later and it was all downhill after that. He helped her cope at first and I guess she decided she loved him by the end. I got replaced

Why would you make your first post a long-winded confession about your life to people who haven't the faintest idea who you are instead of actually participating in threads and joining the community?

red and cucked by a Russian alpha male who's most likely got her pregnant by now.

Time to hang em up and move on OP

This thread is just a thorn in your side

Be free

You fcked up, and in years to come you will remember and regret this.

Don't fck up your next chance.

They haven't had sex. I'm the only person she's had sex with. Now that she "learned from her mistakes," she won't have sex again until she's married.

And he's not alpha, he basically grovels at her feet. She's grown to like it.

College aged kids shouldn’t be getting married
This was first love not love of your life
So you’ll grieve, regret and move on
And you’ll find a greater love one day

we ended up agreeing that she needed to try seeing other people and do some casual dating, just so she could see what it was like. And then she could come back to me.

the moment you agreed to let her casually date is the moment you lost her, she lost all respect for your integrity as a man.


but truthfully it wasn't going to workout anyway if she was living abroad. sloots gon sloot.

I'm in my 30s and I've had multiple long-term relationships. However, I was her first boyfriend. That's why we ended up agreeing that she needed to try seeing other people and do some casual dating, just so she could see what it was like. And then she could come back to me. The Russian guy is only her second boyfriend. He's my age and divorced.

> I didn't throw her away.
> I told her I didn’t want marriage or kids and she grew distant

That’s an either or choice ...you get to pick one

When they want to take a break, they think there is something better than what they have now and want to test it out to see if it's worth ending.

A "traditional conservative Catholic" who "would never divorce"... but would have sex outside of marriage with several different blokes at once while moving on from one that didn't pan out (you, OP). Get real, lmao.

Love alone is not enough, modern romance is way more complicated. You two are clearly not compatible when it comes to marriage and kids. Let her go.

You’ll get over this. My ex was saying the same thing to me when we broke up about regrets and how what if I am the one blah blah all rubbish. Soon after he found a new girl and everything we had is nothing but history. Which also gave me the clarity that there’s no such thing as the one. We have hundreds if not thousands of soulmates.

You’re only desperate right now because you don’t have another option. Calm down.

You were her first, you describe her as traditional, religious and she is over a decade younger than you. You told her no marriage or kids despite being well past the age most people settle down. You made no objection to her leaving the country, you told her to date other people.

I’m sorry but that is the definition of making a woman feel unloved and unwanted. How is that not throwing her away ?

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the moment you agreed to let her casually date is the moment you lost her, she lost all respect for your integrity as a man.


but truthfully it wasn't going to workout anyway if she was living abroad. sloots gon sloot.

Do the maths for me
Cos at the moment it seems that
You are in your 30s
She has just done a year post grad so she’s what? 22 or 23 max?
You dated 4 years but were best friends for 6 and a 1/2

That’s not right

Only time will tell mate.

You can either be sad for life and never get back on track with a devastating ending or get your **** together and move on.

Accept that you had the time of your life with your love but now it's time to move on and find somebody else. Don't hate her, embrace her for being part of your life!

One day you will look back at that dark time you're going through now and it will all make sense to you

Do the maths for me
Cos at the moment it seems that
You are in your 30s
She has just done a year post grad so she’s what? 22 or 23 max?
You dated 4 years but were best friends for 6 and a 1/2

That’s not right

Was going to say you should have effectively communicated and told her why you weren't ready to settle down just yet. But I was also assuming you were younger than this, so there's that. When you turned down kids at that age, that was already setting a red flag for her, and then you actually convinced her to date other people to see if she was ready to be committed to you? What were you thinking? That was the deal breaker, she took your advice and found someone better.