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Thread: Do women in their 30s play games like this?!

post 1546808631 03-19-2018, 07:17 AM
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I think there's an argument to be made that the behaviour of the less invested person mightlooklike game-playing to the overly invested person...

And perhaps that's whats going on here.
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Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
She was hooking up with someone else on vacation. Deleted you from IG because she wanted to post stuff but didn't want you to see.
this could be it....
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Originally Posted By Griffindinho⏩
this could be it....
They ain't exclusive, she can do as she pleases and so can OP.

If it were me, she would be suspecting that I have others on the go so she better get her ducks in a row and act right before someone else snatches me away
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Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
She was hooking up with someone else on vacation. Deleted you from IG because she wanted to post stuff but didn't want you to see.
She unfollowed me, but she allowed me to follow her on her private account.

Just looks like standard ****. Friend of hers had a 40th birthday and they celebrated. Some couples, some singles, some friends. I don't think she hooked up with anyone TBH.
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yeah agree with this. If someone is not showing clear interest that just means they are not really interested. Calling it "playing games" just covers up the real dynamic, which is lack of interest.

Still can work fine if you're just looking for something casual. But if you want a serious relationship and exclusivity and emotional intimacy etc then I would move on. She is pulling away from you instead of pulling toward you.
I think a woman in her position (professional, has her stuff together, 30s and not 20s, never married) isn't really looking for something casual. She gave me this conversation over text briefly about how sex is an emotional connection to her and if isn't there then the sex isn't the same. She just said that connection is something built over time and can't be measured.

I believe her and I don't want to jump to conclusions on EVERY aspect. If she's busy then she just isn't emotionally available for a relationship. I've had a few girls go on a date with me and tell me later they aren't emotionally available since they just got out of a relationship, or they simply don't have time for something serious. She can tell me that and we can revisit later. It's just hard to gauge right now so I'm pulling back to allow her more space.
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Feminism is widespread and it varies from female to female.

For some females, the games do not end. Some, they continue to be immature regardless of their age. Some, they are laid back and want men to chase them even if they are in their late 30s and early 40s and have hit the wall; family and having children are of low priority for these females or have given up on having any family and children in the future, so they don't care how they behave with males.
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She didn't see any pics of your gooch on there so she unfollowed.
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Originally Posted By Studi0sity⏩
Feminism is widespread and it varies from female to female.

For some females, the games do not end. Some, they continue to be immature regardless of their age. Some, they are laid back and want men to chase them even if they are in their late 30s and early 40s and have hit the wall; family and having children are of low priority for these females or have given up on having any family and children in the future, so they don't care how they behave with males.
Yeah I dunno just gonna confront her. She hasn't game played thus far but this may be different.
Originally Posted By devin45k⏩
She didn't see any pics of your gooch on there so she unfollowed.
LOL yeah you read about that didn't you...
Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Being busy, emotionally unavailable, not ready for a new relationship, no time for anything serious, etc are in essence rejections. All that would go out the window for the right guy.

That goes for both genders, because men say that kind of stuff to women too. Just see it for what it is, a soft rejection of you for a real relationship, but possible interest in keeping you around for companionship, sex, attention etc.

If she wanted a serious relationship with you she would be moving toward that with urgency and enthusiasm instead of keeping distance. Especially at her age with her biological clock ticking she's probably ready for marriage and kids asap with the right guy.
I'll see where her head's at. She's been busy and been quite transparent about her work schedule. Even before leaving for a conference she told me her plans over the next few weeks so I'm not trying to think the worst immediately.

She's been busy but has made time to make plans for me. Called me when she couldn't do stuff with me. Just the trail has went cold after seeing her last so I'm not sure if it's ambivalence on her end about us or other things.

I haven't been hit with "I'm busy" yet with her. It's usually her saying she can't do xyz but suggests another time/date.
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Its interesting you said sex = soft exclusivity when a lot of times men say the opposite.

And another lol @ the whole "she should be acting more urgent since her clock is ticking". Stop believing all the lies the media sells you about how all women are desperate for or even desiring that kind of life. Kids and a picket fence is not the dream for all of us, I know its not for me.

She sounds genuinely busy and it also sounds like she may like you, but is not pressed to communicate or be around you during her every ounce of free time. Play it cool, but also let her know where you stand if you want something more.
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Originally Posted By silliestrabbitt⏩
Its interesting you said sex = soft exclusivity when a lot of times men say the opposite.

And another lol @ the whole "she should be acting more urgent since her clock is ticking". Stop believing all the lies the media sells you about how all women are desperate for or even desiring that kind of life. Kids and a picket fence is not the dream for all of us, I know its not for me.

She sounds genuinely busy and it also sounds like she may like you, but is not pressed to communicate or be around you during her every ounce of free time. Play it cool, but also let her know where you stand if you want something more.
Why do you think men say the opposite? Sex is not to be taken lightly. It's emotional. You can have a chick blowing up your phone 10 - 20 times after having sex once or twice. You will rarely if ever have that happen before you stick it in them.

You go on 3 - 4 dates and you all are finally comfortable enough with each other to have sex. That takes a level of vulnerability. For me at least there's a hard line between casual sex and sex with someone you built the emotional side with a bit.

A lot of women want that life, or at a minimum companionship. It's a human need.

I just have to cool off and convey my needs and wants honestly, put them out there and be fine with it.
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post 1546824671 03-19-2018, 10:48 AM
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A professional woman absolutely can adore you and yet still be too busy to see you

Have you spoken to her yet?
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
Why do you think men say the opposite? Sex is not to be taken lightly. It's emotional. You can have a chick blowing up your phone 10 - 20 times after having sex once or twice. You will rarely if ever have that happen before you stick it in them.

You go on 3 - 4 dates and you all are finally comfortable enough with each other to have sex. That takes a level of vulnerability. For me at least there's a hard line between casual sex and sex with someone you built the emotional side with a bit.

A lot of women want that life, or at a minimum companionship. It's a human need.

I just have to cool off and convey my needs and wants honestly, put them out there and be fine with it.
Why? Im not sure - Im not a man, but lets not act like men dont say that sex is nothing and they dont see it the same as women do (even after emotional investment is made). Thats cool you're not like that though.

Companionship =/= rushing into a relationship because of age. Companionship happens naturally. I was disagreeing with the poster that said she should be acting on things sooner since she's older. All women don't subscribe to that way of thinking/prioritizing.
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
A professional woman absolutely can adore you and yet still be too busy to see you

Have you spoken to her yet?
Nah not yet. Plan is to call.

Last conversations regarding her scheduling the next few weeks she did mention it'd be hard to meet up.

- Family in town
- Friends coming
- Trip mid April she planned early Feb

She was explicit also about this. Not just a generic "I'm going to be busy". Either she is saying that to say hey I want to see you but it will be hard or she is giving me a gentle exit. She's not one to mince words or confusion. She even told me it won't work out if I interrupt her sleep schedule lol.
Originally Posted By silliestrabbitt⏩
Why? Im not sure - Im not a man, but lets not act like men dont say that sex is nothing and they dont see it the same as women do (even after emotional investment is made). Thats cool you're not like that though.

Companionship =/= rushing into a relationship because of age. Companionship happens naturally. I was disagreeing with the poster that said she should be acting on things sooner since she's older. All women don't subscribe to that way of thinking/prioritizing.
Both men and women cheapen sex. Had a chick I one night standed that I talked to for weeks over text / phone later say she is going to stop contacting me so I don't fall in love with her. Later she said that she felt I wanted to settle down...this was around my father's death mind you so I was probably vulnerable. Few months later she's whining on IG about being alone and then blocks me on social media lmao.

Not playing battle of the sexes here. I think companionship is organic. I just hate that we were brought up to think men are dogs and play this chit when both parties do.
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You like her huh?
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
You like her huh?
Ha yeah she reminds me of a girl in one of my earliest more serious relationships.
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
Ha yeah she reminds me of a girl in one of my earliest more serious relationships.
Then, with the greatest respect, get out of your own head and try and enjoy the ride

You both want similar, you like her

You have to demonstrate that, be a keeper, and let her be one too ...you’re a traditional man, treat her like she’s worth it
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
Nah not yet. Plan is to call.

Last conversations regarding her scheduling the next few weeks she did mention it'd be hard to meet up.

- Family in town
- Friends coming
- Trip mid April she planned early Feb

She was explicit also about this. Not just a generic "I'm going to be busy". Either she is saying that to say hey I want to see you but it will be hard or she is giving me a gentle exit. She's not one to mince words or confusion. She even told me it won't work out if I interrupt her sleep schedule lol.



Both men and women cheapen sex. Had a chick I one night standed that I talked to for weeks over text / phone later say she is going to stop contacting me so I don't fall in love with her. Later she said that she felt I wanted to settle down...this was around my father's death mind you so I was probably vulnerable. Few months later she's whining on IG about being alone and then blocks me on social media lmao.

Not playing battle of the sexes here. I think companionship is organic. I just hate that we were brought up to think men are dogs and play this chit when both parties do.
Okay.. goodluck with everything.
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Bruh you know the tour is over. Just let it go.
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Originally Posted By otakutrevan⏩
Bruh you know the tour is over. Just let it go.
loooool
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Well if she does not want marriage or kids then there is no rush. If like most women she does want marriage and kids, then thirties is a critical time and it's urgent for her to move forward asap.

Not just biologically to be able to conceive and have a healthy child, but also finding a good husband gets harder as you get older. She is absolutely under time pressure as to marriage and kids, whether she realizes it or not.

Also op if she wants marriage and kids then I think you're taking the race issue too lightly. There are lots of people who might date interracially in a casual way but for marriage and kids want to stay within their own race. Might be hard for her to tell you directly but that might be an underlying issue.
I know you think like that given some of your posts lol but I haven't even heard her say that. She told me her dating history and what she's into.

We haven't even talked marriage or anything it's only been a month

Her answer about kids said it depends on a lot of things. Career minded women it's a mixed bag.
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
You like her huh?
You can tell he's hooked because he knows she unfollowed him lmao. Unless you're actually checking up on that sort of thing you'd never know. LMAO Sword pls brah you're 35+
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Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
You can tell he's hooked because he knows she unfollowed him lmao. Unless you're actually checking up on that sort of thing you'd never know. LMAO Sword pls brah you're 35+
Pussy and chemistry was good bro what can I say?
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Back off and let her come to you. If she doesn't, you have your answer in how she feels. The end. If I think I know women, doing this, she will be choked that you don't care or be worried herself that you moved on IF there is hope for you that is.
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Originally Posted By Nedo⏩
Back off and let her come to you. If she doesn't, you have your answer in how she feels. The end. If I think I know women, doing this, she will be choked that you don't care or be worried herself that you moved on IF there is hope for you that is.
Was gonna text her today since she got back from vaycay yesterday but sorta want to play this move also to let her come to me.

Crazy how a chick can be all over you telling you that you look and smell nice to being cold and distant. Chit is crazy son.
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
Was gonna text her today since she got back from vaycay yesterday but sorta want to play this move also to let her come to me.

Crazy how a chick can be all over you telling you that you look and smell nice to being cold and distant. Chit is crazy son.
LOL.


You are just part of her roster man. If you are fine with that its cool but dont be so sensitive man


Why all of the games lol.
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Originally Posted By sword_⏩
Was gonna text her today since she got back from vaycay yesterday but sorta want to play this move also to let her come to me.

Crazy how a chick can be all over you telling you that you look and smell nice to being cold and distant. Chit is crazy son.
Don’t play games

You wanna text text

If she likes you it will make her feel warm that you missed her and acknowledge her return

If not then she doesn’t like you as much as she seems to
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Originally Posted By sanblz33⏩
LOL.

You are just part of her roster man. If you are fine with that its cool but dont be so sensitive man

Why all of the games lol.
Yeah yeah...just don't really like the nonsense and I hope that she's being congruent. Haven't had a reason to think it's 'another man' though.

Especially being over her house several times and hanging 2-3 times a week.
Originally Posted By Rabbitjb⏩
Don’t play games

You wanna text text

If she likes you it will make her feel warm that you missed her and acknowledge her return

If not then she doesn’t like you as much as she seems to
I'll just call.
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WTF is going on here, everyone ITT guessing as to her motives and what's going on inside her mind.

The biggest flag here is thatshe isn't communicating this stuff openly with you. That's the biggest problem. Either you can open a communication channel with her and not have miscers guessing her intent, feelings or motives - or it's never going to work out anyway.

Honestly, in your situation I'd be straight up. I would tell her that I need more open communication, and if I don't get it move on. Fcuk those guessing games.
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