Mine were married for 50+ as well before they died.

My mum played the traditional housewife role and dad the provider role.

They loved and respected each other. No verbal or emotional abuse that I ever witnessed - certainly never physical. If my dad got mad at something, he'd go take a walk. It was amazing to see how my mum's life rotated around my dad, HOWEVER she also was smart and strong enough to make it on her own if the need ever arose.

My eldest sister (who is 20 years older than me), has been married to her husband for 30 years now. Again, the roles are very defined.

I'm trying to implement the same roles in my own marriage and thus far, we're in perfect harmony.

Ego and pride are left outside the door when we get home. Neither of us feel the need to "have the upper hand" in disagreements or our relationship. We're well aware that our roles are complementary, neither role being lesser than the other. Equal, but different.

It wasn't rape.

It wasn't even close. In fact it was an awkward date and started people turning on the metoo movement.

I think some of the posters here were more talking about how modern standard of living among females hasn't made their marriages any better and lives any happier. In fact, it seems to be the opposite in terms of divorce and unhappiness in the dating game.

Just saying what I said above usually sets off rage from women but it's just a statement based on divorce rates and unhappy marriages. No one here, except maybe a couple FA's, think women shouldn't be allowed to have careers, balance their lives how they see fit, etc. It's just interesting to note how modern life has destroyed what APPEARS to be solid marriages.

Because the dynamic has changed.
Women don’t need men for financial or emotional support now.
They have high paying jobs and can do what they want.

And they can get 50 guys in a second for an affair via the apps.

The female doesn’t need to get married. Girls now have gotten very similar to the guys. They hook up when they want, and do their thing without a care in the world.

your parents are from a different era.

until she reaches her early 30s and realizes Thundercock wont marry her and she starts looking for the good men to take advantage of.

spot on m8

Yea... no. Remember, there are enough FA dudes willing to sleep with obese, unattractive, middle-aged women. So even in her 30s and 40s, she'll still be getting laid.

Congratulations again on building a strawman and taking it down.Sounds awesome and pretty much exactly the setup I'd like. Complementary and innately fulfilling roles.

Almost the same scenario when I was a kid but I dont think they used to throw anything, just alot of verbal fighting cursing and yelling Id hear through the walls when I was tucked away in bed.
They separated though, my mom hates my father to this day and he doesnt do anything to try and fix stuff. Its complicated but I strive not to be like my father in that way, he was a pos to my mom while I was growing up. Also a dickhead with money. If anything he taught me alot, just do everything the opposite of what he did.

The two biggest issues for them was my father infidelity and money trouble. A recipe for disaster.

I just read Trinnie's comment as saying that OP was attracted to women that have similar traits to his mother, which is the case for many men.