So there’s no way of knowing what professional events she will be at. We were at one together yesterday and I didn’t say hello at all even though we saw each other. What I didn’t plan on was her being at my friends party. And that friend is someone I’m really close with and she never was close so I didn’t go to the party to see my ex lol. And when she walked in I again didn’t say hello until she sat right in front of me like an hour into the party

So no I’m not going out of my way to look for her
And I’m not messaging her today for professional reasons

I wrote hey nice seeing you would like to talk more
She wrote back immediately
Sure she knows I’m not trying to network with her professionally