i mean my other hangup is she's foreign, she doesnt speak perfect english so idk if it will work out longterm

she is fine as hell though... and she checks all the other boxes

Everyone who read this tells you to go for it and you just make excuses and rationalize why you shouldn't.

Eventually you will get friendzoned and the window will have closed.

ok, yeah, if u dont think thats a legit reason then ill go for it. ill ask if she wants to go to a spa with me

You don't have to ruin the massage relationship if you're smart about it.

Just ask her if she's wants to go to bar/restaurant x this weekend.

If she says No, continue professional relationship.

ok we went on like 4 dates so far and every time we hug for like 10s feelsgoodman

4 dates and no sex or kiss. Just LOL

Dude...wtf lol you come across as super indecisive and awkward, no offence intended.

It’s freaking awesome that you’ve been on 4 dates, but then they’ve ended with 10 second hugs? #genuinelynotsureifsrs

4 dates and some hugs, mirin.

























NOT SRS.

im taking it slow. i wanna be friends if it doesnt work out. plus i got other options

You're going to take it so slow she is never going to have sex with you. In fact, you're probably already friend zoned.

I come back from a month ban and this cuck still hasnt banged this girl.

lmao

But you're still an annoying ****git.

This girl is definitely gonna stop seeing you and then tell her receptionist to say that her schedule is fully booked so you never see her again if you don't lay pipe soon lmao. Quit being a moron and just go for it. Too late to back out now.

Update us !!

I moved to brooklyn. Staying here till the end of Aug, maybe longer. Haven't seen her for almost 3 weeks. Dunno if I'm gonna go back to California to be honest. I am sick of wearing masks.

That's the main reason why I didn't wanna make a big move, I was planning on leaving the state if they reimplemented covid restrictions. I didn't wanna make things complicated.

Update

So I've been in NY for the past month and a half. I also have a good massage therapist in NY, but it's a dude, but he's really fking good at his job so I put up with the slight gayness. Plus there's fine women everywhere, you walk outside and you see 9s and 10s all over the place

I had to take care of some business in SF so I flew back last Friday. I didnt realize how much a difference the masks make. You cant go to yoga, gym, cant play indoor basketball, etc etc without having a muzzle on. Plus all the uptight liberals walking around outside by themselves with a mask (even tho there's nobody within 50ft of them)

The night I got here i heard a homeless woman violently screaming at 2am, just screaming "**** you" over and over again at the top of her lungs.... The other day i walked past this homeless dude being confronted by these cops for masturbating in public. And mind you this is a "nice" part of SF, the marina district

Anyway I took care of the business last Saturday, and since then I've just been in this Airbnb counting down the days till I can gtfo (Leaving oct 2). I was planning on not texting her or scheduling a massage, but the flight / drive kinda fked me up so I caved, I texted her on weds, called her work and scheduled it for yesterday. Went to her work, got the massage, was kickass massage as always, except this time she spent a lot of time massaging my groin with her feet which felt fking amazing

After I left she txted me "Welcome back"

And yeah idk, she's hot, she's clearly into me, im into her, but i just don't wanna complicate my life. She's foreign, im paying her to touch my body, I hate what the bay area has become and I don't wanna invest in this place anymore. I just want to cut my losses and leave. Like literally before I got the massage I was basically thinking every day "**** SF i hate this place im never coming back" to "this place aint that bad"

OP beta male coping with excuses to justify to himself why he was scared to make a move. I would have given that import whore the greatest 2 months of pleasure in her life, whether i was moving or not. But that confidence comes with being a high test alpha who knows his fuk skills are on top of their game

If you plan on moving then why not attempt to smash for a goodbye?

Have you ever talked to her about how u feel with her?

In most cases a girl wouldn’t just give her number if she only want you as a friend . She is obviously interested .

If you really want to find out if she likes you then ask her for a second date then at the end of the second date if things are still going well . When you two are all alone . Ask her if you can kiss her . If she says no obviously that’s your hint that she only want you as a friend .

Don't listen to this, you wouldn't know when your hungry.

You’re gonna lose her quality massages jo matter what you do.

If you decline her advances she will stop providing you the same service, her quality will decline and you’ll move on to the next therapist.

If you date and break up you will also lose her services.

Now, if you date her….free massages whenever you want, dumbass.

What are you waiting for?

edit: I feel really ****ty for writing that

Which part do you feel bad about writing?

I was going to comment, this really is not much of an update at all in regards to your lack of escalation with the woman you're interested in.

I'm sitting here thinking about texting her to get lunch or dinner tomorrow but I just don't feel like it. Idk man. We just dont have a lot in common. I really like her massages and she's hot but that's about it. We didnt text each other at all during the month and a half I was gone. It just seems like I'm forcing something. I've been seeing this chick for massages for almost a year at this point and i feel like i barely know her

just to be sure, make sure her massage location isn't on rub maps and there aren't any reviews regarding her as well lol

Aren't you moving anyways?

I don't understand why you're not shooting your shot.

Man just tell her how you feel. You have nothing to lose. You won't be staying there so will no longer be seeing her or getting her massages before too long. Do you really want to be sitting in ****gy ass NY wondering what could've been?

Title: Massage therapist gave me her number

Then OP wastes 10 minutes of everbody's time to tell us SHE asked for HIS number to refer him to her pilates instructor.

This has got to be the most misc-autist chit I've ever read.

You know who else will laugh at all your jokes and take the time to refer you to a friend? Pretty much any other female you pay for a service you dumb twat! Strippers will laugh at your jokes and rub up on you too - doesn't mean they want you to ask them out.

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edit: if she ever reads this thread im ****ed