I kind of agree the party hookups are something I can absolutely live without at this time in my life.

I get overwhelmed dating with the attitude of LTR-or-bust though. Just trying to find women who interest me enough to get to know them over a few weeks/months and not beat myself up/feel guilty if I'm not feeling it enough to pursue past that.

Yeah it just feels really empty now. Sure feels hyped at the time but as soon as you finish you just want the person to leave/you to leave. I prefer consistency and everything that comes with a relationship. Guess it comes with age.

Yeah when you go into dates aiming for LTR it does make every encounter heavy. Needs a balance. But its better to date with a purpose then not imo

Go no contact.

You already did the right thing, now keep doing it. I can't think of a single happy couple where the girl cheated.

Also, this is fact, girls move on almost instantaneously. This has been proven time and time again. They do not languish or dwell on their loss, no matter who you are.

She’s not a quality woman or human being. Better you find this out now before you wife the sloot and she takes half your chit. Live and learn, and move on.

Man, I just sit back and wait and someone finally comes along. And then I end up depressed as **** because I realise they're beat themselves up because they feel guilty/they're not feeling it enough to pursure a LTR. Life is wild. We all gonna make it though, right?


My ex definitely cheated on me. She made a pretty clear point of saying she wasn't sleeping with anyone else, and even if things didn't work out that she wouldn't get over me/wouldn't be ready for anything for a long time. Just trying to let me down easy. Fact is that we had an argument at one point and blocked eachother for a weekend. She admitted to messaging an ex. We made up and when she admitted it, she also said he had been offering to give her some plants for her new place. Fast forward two months, and the last time I saw her, she had a whole bunch of new plants at her place. The answer when I asked where she got them? "A friend"

Didn't stop her shoving my dick in her a few hours later. **** is wild my brothers.

If it makes you feel any better, everyone(both guys and girls) cheats, so you're gonna have to get used to it one way or another.

Cheating makes it simpler. If you caught her messaging this guy behind your back it would be way more difficult to pull the trigger.

I know the feeling of betrayal, just know that time will help. Don’t force yourself to date, take the time to process it first so your mind gradually disconnects. Otherwise you’ll compare every single new girl to her, which isn’t fair on them.

Speak for yourself, I’ve never cheated. Unprincipled people with low integrity cheat.

If you've ever been stuck in a marriage where the wife limits or stops sex altogether, then you'll change your mind in a hurry.

Imagine losing everything you've worked for your entire life, along with not being able to see your kids more than once per week, just because you decided to have integrity and divorce your Wife before finding satisfaction elsewhere.

The sexless marriage is probably over 75% of marriages after a few years. For some reason, women start to see husbands as a provider/brother, and completely lose the ability to get dampies from him. Even if he is a god-tier chad.

I'm feeling the slow-down myself, but no way will I risk losing everything to get my jollies. There are women who openly want to boink, and since wifey is breaking the marriage contract, why can't I?

My marriage was short enough and my ex had a career so I can't relate to being financially ruined by divorce but reasons why I chose to end it rather than staying in a sexless/loveless/crummy marriage rather than cheat:

1. I didn't want our relationship to be the example set for his expectations of a relationship growing up (she refused to go to counselling with me thus I lost all faith in it improving).
2. I couldn't be the role model for my son and man I wanted in the confines of that relationship.
3. Even though I was at the point of thinking if I cheated it could be justifiable, I knew I desired intimacy, not just sex, and I couldn't fathom being entangled in a full-on affair.
4. Didn't want to give my ex ammunition to turn my son and others against me in the case we did eventually divorce.

Unprincipled and low integrity checking in. I lasted 4 years in a near sexless relationship with an ex girlfriend because I was banging chicks on the side on account of her refusing to put out

I can see why people in marriages, especially with kids, might stay in the relationship even if it turns nearly sexless, but why not just break up with your girlfriend if this was an ongoing problem?

This.

I'm saddled with Children, a house, retirement funds and other assets. If I was merely dating my wife, and she pulled the frequent "access denied" shenanigans that she is guilty of these days...

I'd be out the door so fast, she wouldn't have time to come at me with panic sex.

Don't get married, brahs. Only do it if you want children and find a decent gal.

Well OP the good news is , seeing as I’ve seen what the majority of sloots look like in the UK , you dodged a bullet

I have been dating alot this week in an attempt to see how the scene is going(And since ive been off work for xmas) and its been okay but i keep thinking about my ex. Really hate this period and randomly i think of the betrayal and it gets me really down. For instance this morning i woke up feeling low.

Going to spend xmas with friends and next week we are off to amsterdam for abit.So hopefully that clears my mind. Still cant believe shes done this. Also shes sent various pics and voicenotes this week(i havent responded). Talking about her insecurities etc

You were gonna take her back after she cheated on you? absolute betaStop talking to her you pussy, she doesn't deserve your attention.

Here you go OP

It will get better.

7 months? Drop in a bucket. You’ll bounce back. Focus on you. Don’t try and start dating so soon- it’ll backfire. No reason to contact her for any additional closure. You already know what happened and that’s that.

And lol at anyone using the word “situationship”. Gtfoh.

Did you read my op? I said I cut it off instantly. I haven't responded...she's literally sending voice notes and messages one after the other days apart.

Because I was getting heaps of poosy regardless but when it did happen, this one fuked like a demon ans wasn't afraid to suck the dink straight out of her asswhole

Yeah it's tough to accept that people are just sh*t. I'm right there with ya. Hope you can move past it but I know it's probably rough right now. As far as the not having a family piece of this, you still have time. But even if you don't end up with one I get the feeling a lot of people out there are missing the chance on this one these days so you're far from alone.

Like us

That cant happen dude. Its one of the life events that im actually looking forward to. Being in your 40s without a family seems like a horrid proposition.

Hey OP,

I'm exactly in the same situation as you, same feeling, don't have the urge to bang randoms, etc, and it's actually pretty easy for me to bang young prime prime pussy if I really want to. Funny thing, its actually easier now than when I was younger. 1st couple of months I was doing that, but it all felt to soulless, that eventually I just stopped. Keep in my mind as well, 9 years ago, everything and the dating scene was so different, no dating apps etc. Everything is so fuked now. For now, I'm actually making an effort to stay alone and not have random sex.

7 months is nothing, 9 years here, literally carried her on my back for all those years, moved to another country, gave her the life she has now, all to be sht on at the end. Just insanity. But live and learn.

Best thing and only thing you can do, no contact, delete and block her everywhere, time will do its thing. As for yourself, level up in everyway, strive to be the best you can, so eventually you can actually meet some high value woman whos actually worth it. Live by God, and hope for the best, because frankly, wtf else can we do?

Just don't give up, and let urself go. Keep going. God has a plan, something better will come up. Best of luck, we all gonna make it.

block her

The Xmas period made everything way worse. Im sorry to hear what happened. I feel horrid but i cant imagine what you are going through.What methods are you using to deal with things? We need to climb the mountain again. I felt so sad this morning but im feeling better every day. I blocked her on everything a few days back.

Its a new year soon and we can find our person. The wind is on our backs now. Onwards and upwards

Brah, in a few weeks you won't think about her much at all. In a few months, you'll be right back to normal and hopefully have some healthy new habits, looking solid, thick and tight. The broads and sloots will be all over you, and you can pick and choose as you please.

Just don't rot.

Sup bro,

Honestly, yeah, had some insane hellish months, but like everything, time did it's thing. And keep in mind I was already good looking and fit af, AND I still got rekt lmao, womem are something else. All that to say I didn't have the usual escaping and self improving paths available to me (go to the gym, get fit, eat right, etc etc), ofc at the moment I'm in the best shape of my life, and been taking care of myself more than ever, which is more than normal after getting destroyed.

To be honest, there is no easy path or solution, you gonna have to find and choose productive stuff to do which contributes for you to have a better life, and level up. Discipline will be everything, you gonna have to do everything regardless of how you feel, and eventually, enough time passes you will get better and better. Ofc gym, working out, being in top shape is one of the main pillars, strong body = strong mind.

I dunno how old you are, or in what stage in life you are, but regardless, learning to make money, invest, read, meditate, brother you know all these things, just do it. And ofc you will fail, and ofc you sometimes will do sht you aren't suppose to do, and ofc, you won't do what you are supposed to do everyday, but the important thing is to keep going. One good rule of thumb is, before doing anything, ask yourself, "would this make God proud?". I dunno what you believe in, but you get the idea.

And yeah, this time of the year is hard, and it's messing me up a bit, I found myself thinking about her more than usual, I mean, keep in mind also, I'm alone in a foreign country, all my life in here was spent with her, for the first time in my life, and especially in 9 years, I'm truly alone. Yeah I have some friends, but it's not the same thing.

But you know whats the conclusion I always come to? This sht is making me harder than every before, suffering molds you, the ability to overcome this type of suffering eventually makes you a complete beast, you get better, stronger, in every possible way. So... fking welcome it, embrace it, eat it all up. Not a lot of ppl have the mindset to be like this, most just crumble like pussies and be sorry for themselves. Fk all that, I aint letting anyone, let alone some girl that became a total kunt after 9 years to bring me down, I went through too much to let that happen, and I thank God, for all the suffering and stuff that happened to me before this, cause thats what gave me the strength to overcome this now, and that's how it goes.

Anyway, like I said, 7 months is nothing, you will seel, in a few months, that its just another stepping stone and lesson in your life, something better will come, stay hard, stay discipline, and don't let anyone bring you down. Don't think about the what if's, don't be afraid of the future, live the present, and keep striving to be your best version everyday. You got this, just don't every give up.

We all gonna make it.

initiate villian mode now op

sorry