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Originally Posted By Nedo⏩

Thanks for sharing Pondus. We have similar styles. I like how you balance lightly attacking her with also showing her your intellectual side. I just bust theirs balls with smart @ss remarks at any opportunity and only the smoke show got defensive about it, although she wasn't overly engaged to begin with as she was hitting me with short replies and asking nothing in return. Think I might send her one last message saying "not much of a sense of humour, huh" to make her feel like an idiotlol. Fully agree that emoji's and lol's are required so she knows you messing around, especially until she gets to know your sarcastic ways. Lets be real, most *******s don't hit her with this kind of chit as they too busy telling her she is beautiful. I think this is very good chit to post as it allows everyone to learn from each other, especially the struggling guys. Following these principles when talking to women goes a long way guys, take notes.

When they don't engage you back after a few messages, do you just next her or keep on as long as she is answering? Thinking back, any of the women I actually met IRL somewhat engaged me. I have always been persistent provided they are answering me. Might reconsider not wasting time on the non engaging ones.

If she doesn't engage or it's one sided, I let it fizzle. She has be able to reciprocate and keep the conversation going because I get bored easily.

Originally Posted By Nedo⏩

This is my message history with the smoke show I was talking about (yours truly in blue). After further analysis, I think I made her feel stupid for not knowing how to cook so she got defensive, meh lmao. I just messaged her now again asking how her week went. Decided not to make her feel like a bigger idiot with the "not much of a sense of humour" comment I mentioned earlier lol. Although this was a fail, I would not change my style whatsoever. The purpose of posting this is for the principles brahs (and so we can laugh) so pay close attention to the principles.

Vick: let me know if you don't want this kind of chit in here bud.

I have some feedback, which may help others.

1.) Talking about too much at once. The bit about the pictures was good, I would have separated that from the rest and played that out a bit more first.

2.)When that died out I would ask about fave restaurants letting her know some of my favorite places, too. If she hasn't been to one or any of them, that's a perfect thing to spin back around to one I know she is hooked to ask her out.

3.)I never would have bough up the cooking thing. That was a complete segue and it's obvious to me you were were steering just to bust her balls instead of letting come about organically. You had a lot to work with in the fashion show and restaurants that could have evolved into 1 of 1000 other topics before even getting to what YOU did over the weekend. IE: if the covo died out, instead of being completely random, you could start it back up with that because it was already on the table.

4.) "Ahh busted the truth is out. lol" that's it, no more explanation is needed. Let her connect the dots. If you had left it just at that, I don't think she she would have raised her bitch shield on you. I think you pushed her just a bit too far, gotta know when to dial it back.

I think overall, you just a bit too aggressive and "steeling the show." You have to make her think she is the star of the show, even though we both know you are. Your teasing and cocky/confident remarks need to be more subtle and spread out. You don't want her to know what you are doing. I've never been accused of being cocky or overconfident, but I definitely am!

All-in-all, you have skills, but don't rush it. Always be thinking "organic". I think if you slow it down, you will nail it every time. The advantage of text is that you can consider the possible ways she might react before ever pressing send.

You know one thing I always tell my kids: If you are thinking of a response, you are not really listening.

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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩

I get what you are saying. I agree, he was interesting. He has excellent game, but if I were her, I'd be like, "Damn easy up with all the questions and cocky comments,lets actually stop for a moment and discuss something."

I def see what you mean when you put it this way...slow down the pace a bit, focus more on the initial topic at hand, and stay there a little while longer, instead of immediately bouncing onto the next topic like a ping-pong exchange.

On a slight tangent, I just love when I am talking to someone, and we randomly stumble upon a topic that awakens a mutual passion in us, and it's like time stops...we delve right in and the convo flows so fluidly; we're totally on the same page as we exchange thoughts and our energies catch fire together. It feels like striking gold with someone

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Originally Posted By Nedo⏩

The other thing is, everyone's writing style is different and we all have our own preference. The only thing I would critique about your style Pondus is the filler convo parts, whereas you suggested I do more of this. This attests, we approach with a different writing style/game. As I said, the filler convo is a risk to me so I play my cards with the more sure bet and bring the heat (consistent sarcasm). To each their own I guess, thanks for the critique bruh.

Good discussion. There are many ways to do the same thing. If that style works for you 99% of the time, no reason to change it.

Sometimes I bring more heat, too. But my approach is to slowly bring the heat and then figure out where the boiling point is. Like with Leti, I ended up gaming her pretty hard as we progressed and she ate it up every point of the way. I really wish I still had those first few convo's. It was seriously some of my best work, but a lot of that had to do with the fact that she was rising to the challenge, allowing me to use that material.

Originally Posted By daisygirl713⏩

I def see what you mean when you put it this way...slow down the pace a bit, focus more on the initial topic at hand, and stay there a little while longer, instead of immediately bouncing onto the next topic like a ping-pong exchange.

On a slight tangent, I just love when I am talking to someone, and we randomly stumble upon a topic that awakens a mutual passion in us, and it's like time stops...we delve right in and the convo flows so fluidly; we're totally on the same page as we exchange thoughts and our energies catch fire together. It feels like striking gold with someone

This is my goal with every woman that I talk to and I always find something.

Originally Posted By Nedo⏩

I save the date for this kind of stuff.

You could be right, this might be what she wanted, but I believe it is more likely that she was offended.

Things also seemed to bounce around because she was so dull in her responses. Gave me nothing to go on, so I steer the convo to create laughter. I would normally banter her based on her response.

Yeah, sounds rough. Some women just don't have the skill and they are not worth the time.

I definitely think you pushed her a bit far. She was laughing at the teasing, but at the same time, she was justifying it (becoming defensive). That's when you know you are pushing the limits and need to back off a lil.

Every woman calibrates at a different level and I don't always get it right. Like when I thought I blew it with Girl 5. Which...

Update:

Girl 5 tried, but could not get time away for lunch this week. She ended up asking me to go to the city with her for a friends bday party Friday night. I told her I would try to find someone to watch the kids, but I had already asked my dad to watch my kids Sat night, so that I could go run a half marathon Sunday morning. I asked if she was free Sat night because I always go get some sushi for dinner before a race and she is welcome to join me. She confirmed for Sat night and Friday is also still on the table if I can manage. She is a total sweetheart. I offered to come down to her (shes' 45 minutes away) and she wouldn't hear of it because I need my sleep before the race.

Things are looking good, bros.

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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩

EDIT: I get why you thought it was spot on, you two have very similar wit. I've seen it in your exchanges here. You would have fed off of it and probably would have turned it back on him. You are an alpha female. Most women do not do that.

Lol...youare spot on! Color me impressed

Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩

She confirmed for Sat night and Friday is also still on the table if I can manage. She is a total sweetheart. I offered to come down to her (shes' 45 minutes away) and she wouldn't hear of it because I need my sleep before the race.

Yay!! She seems super considerate, which is such a great trait [one I always take note of]. I'm so pumped for you and I can't wait to hear updates ITT on how the weekend goes for you guys.

I'm actually sick right now...booo, caught a cold. I feel like it'll lift before the weekend though, so I'll let my guy know when I'm feeling better so we can actually hang. No way I'd risk getting him sick, tooAnywho, he plays squash [who plays squash?!?!] every wednesday and I legit know nothing about the game, so I was laughing as he was telling me about his 'skillz' tonight. I'm like,'you better win, cuz if you're not first, you're last!'and he goes,'talladega nights, one of my favs...and ya, I plan on it'
I'm like,'big talk! guess we'll see if you can walk the walk '

BRB ends up winning 19/20 games. I'm like....'danggg, u da real MVP'

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Originally Posted By daisygirl713⏩

Lol...youare spot on! Color me impressed

Yay!! She seems super considerate, which is such a great trait [one I always take note of]. I'm so pumped for you and I can't wait to hear updates ITT on how the weekend goes for you guys.

I'm actually sick right now...booo, caught a cold. I feel like it'll lift before the weekend though, so I'll let my guy know when I'm feeling better so we can actually hang. No way I'd risk getting him sick, tooAnywho, he plays squash [who plays squash?!?!] every wednesday and I legit know nothing about the game, so I was laughing as he was telling me about his 'skillz' tonight. I'm like,'you better win, cuz if you're not first, you're last!'and he goes,'talladega nights, one of my favs...and ya, I plan on it'
I'm like,'big talk! guess we'll see if you can walk the walk '

BRB ends up winning 19/20 games. I'm like....'danggg, u da real MVP'

Don't diss squash - incredible way to burn calories without even thinking about it. Probably the best in my experience, and a lot of fun.

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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩

Don't diss squash - incredible way to burn calories without even thinking about it. Probably the best in my experience, and a lot of fun.

Not dissing AT ALL
I just literally know nothing about the sport & have never met anyone else who played it, lmao. I actually told him that sounds like a fun way to workout, and he's like, 'ya I was surprised how sore I was the next day. Full body workout!'

The more you know...

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Originally Posted By daisygirl713⏩

Lol...youare spot on! Color me impressed

Yay!! She seems super considerate, which is such a great trait [one I always take note of]. I'm so pumped for you and I can't wait to hear updates ITT on how the weekend goes for you guys.

BRB ends up winning 19/20 games. I'm like....'danggg, u da real MVP'

I pay attention ya'll! I'm very good at reading people, even through words on a screen.

Every single text convo we have has some kind of shenanigans going on. She's a lot fun to talk to and I have still yet been able to get her to fall for one of my jokes or setups. She is not gullible AT ALL. After work she msged me:

Her: How was your day?
Me: (wait a few minutes) My day was okay, nothing special happened until a few minutes ago.
Her: What happened a few minutes ago? Did you win the lotto?

-I swear every other woman would have been, "awww how sweet, he's talking about me msging him." She didn't bite AND turned it back on me, but I'm the master, I'm not biting, LOL!

Me: The pizza delivery guy showed up with my dinner.
Me: :P
Her: Hahahahaha good one.
Me: I swear one of these days you are going to fall for one of my jokes. We'll be old and gray, racing down the hallway with our walkers, I'll tell you a joke, and then trip you!
Her: #keeptrying

Then this:

Her: Are you sure you want to go out Sat night before you race?
Me: Of course!
Her: Home by 10, Mr.
Me: We'll see. :P
Her: Oh, I forgot that you don't sleep
Me: Yeah I'm pretty bad about getting enough sleep.
Her: You need a good night of cuddle. It's scientifically proven that it helps a lot.

-WTF, did she go to the pondus_levo college of texting? That's a line I would use.

Her: Che is a great cuddler!!!!

-Her dog, she is bringing him with her on Sat. She completely opened the door for me to get sexual, but I decided not biting would impress her more based on the last time I made a joke about sex.

Me: Okay, he's in. You can sleep on the floor.

We seriously have hours of text convos like this. It's like a chess match to see who cracks first. LOL.

I hope you feel better. The flu going around is nasty.

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Originally Posted By Nedo⏩

"look at you eh, trying to persuade me into bed based on science. You sure do sail a smooth ship, but I'm onto you and WON'T be having it"

dare to dream...u couldn't handle navigating these waters

Originally Posted By Nedo⏩

Bullchit. I sleep better when alone in the bed although love sleeping in a bed with a woman lol.

HA! The interesting thing is, in a LTR, I sleep better when we're in bed together than when i'm alone. me and my ex had our sleeping game down pat. but then again, it took a while to cultivate such intimacy and comfort, so there's that.

with my new guy, we're still in that early, 'figuring it out' phase...last week, at the end of the night, we were spooning in bed, but after like 5 minutes of cuddling/chatting, I make a move to my side, and he's like, 'ahhh you want me to get the fck off u so u can sleep, eh?'
i'm like, 'yep ha'

luckily he has a king size bed, so lots of space to sleep uninterrupted. but it feels like we're so far apart in the morning! i always scoot super close to him when we wake up

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Originally Posted By xvicknumber7x⏩

wrong. there's nothing better than a huge bed all to myself."

LMAO

I feel ya. I legit used to think this way for so long, myself.

Experience changed meIt's so nice waking up with someone, having a person to connect, touch and talk to. Not necessarily someone who impedes your sleep by being all over you, but the falling asleep and waking up together thing is hnnng

Originally Posted By Nedo⏩

My soft touch would have you clinging onto me boyo, no homo

Just wait for her to fall asleep, then turn away from her. This is what I do when I really need to catch up on sleep.

Only works when she can actually let her guard down and fall asleep w/you

Takes a serious level of comfort for me to be able to do this...sleeping is when you're at your most vulnerable. Definitely a good sign when you're with someone who's able to genuinely fall asleep with you

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