Oh boy....

10/16/16

So this one is a doozy as well. I'm batting 0/3 this weekend. Not looking good gents.


-I get a text from a girl I saw a loooong time ago right when I got back from the middle east
-She's young, kind of strange but nice enough
-We chat for a bit
-I find out she's a stripper now (lmao)
-She tells me she wants to come over and how she misses me.
-She makes a bunch of insinuations about giving me a BJ
-I'm pumped, this one basically fell in my lap after a weekend of bull**** and then studying all day for a test tomorrow
-She comes over, all sorts of new tattoos, whatever
-She goes straight to my room
-She falls asleep in like 1 minute on my bed........

At this point I'm laying there kind of irritated, wondering what the fck. She sleeps for a solid 15 minutes and I'm just laying there staring at the ceiling. I guess she was stripping all last night

-She finally wakes up
-She tells me she's in love with this guy and waiting for him
-I'm visibly irritated at this point
-I tell her I have **** to do, she should go
-She starts acting like a 5 year old (no joke, kicking her feet around, jumping on my bed, etc)
-I'm sitting there bertsaring her for 10 minutes and she won't leave
-I finally tell her to get the fck out

Now I'm sitting here typing this and going over stuff for my test tomorrow.

CLASSIC.

FCKING
CLASSIC.

0/3 in one weekend. Hell yeah!


edit: She left her goddamn Raybans

Strong mental stability in this girl.

Holy crap dude, do you think she was on drugs?

I think after reading the thread here I have a good idea of what is going on with you U.S. Ranger. You're dating extremely low quality girls like a couple of others in the thread pointed out. I have a feeling most, maybe not all of these girls have a very low self esteem and are Bipolar, Borderline, or both.

You're probably going to think I'm crazy for saying this, but I think they feel you are too good for them and you'll drop them once you get to know them better so they drop you first to feel better about themselves. These girls have issues and some sound like completely trashy hoebags.

You might have a confidence issue yourself since you are going after these really low quality girls. It may stem from you going to school fulltime and not having a good career at the moment. I started dating trashy women when I was surviving in temp jobs a while back and these chicks were playing the same type of games though at least I was able to go on a few more dates than you have to be honest.

That's some horrible luck you have had with women lately, but in my opinion it's because you're dating such low quality women who are used to playing games. You need to up your self worth and only go after chicks who are high quality. You're a ****ing ex Ranger, and you'll be getting a good job soon especially with jobs that weigh interviews and applications with higher points for military vets. I know a lot of state govt jobs and utilities here in Cali give an extra 15% or more score to vets for testing and interviews.

Even with no filtering how the **** are you attracting such a clownfiesta. Even if you aren't getting laid at least it's all pretty entertaining.

That is literally an unbelievable turn of events. If it was any other poster, I'd accuse you of trolling. What the fuuck? I am truly confused. I thought I understood women very well at this point last week and after reading your log and my own experiences I now realize that while I may know a thing or two, in reality I don't know shiit.

Seriously, what the fuuck? LMAO Where are you meeting these tricks?

She seemed completely sober. I think she didn't know how to behave after she saw I was irritated with her.

Oh, and the whole time this was going on, her phone was just blowing up from this other rando who is completely in love with her. I think she's used to guys being super thirsty with her instead of irritated when she pulls this crap.I hear you and I'd say, on the surface level, your premise could be correct but I definitely don't have confidence issues. I wouldn't trade my life experiences and crazy places I've lived (Asia, Africa, etc) for a stable 8-5 career and owning a house, etc. I like what I do, I like my lifestyle, it makes me who I am. At the same time, you are 100% correct in that when I'm on a date with certain demographics, I feel like I'm definitely in the cold when it comes to talking to them. I've been straight up asked how much $$$ I make before on dates. Granted, there have been 2 times in my life when I made 100+ a year and I was miserable so I know it's not worth it IF I'm not happy doing what I'm doing. And to be honest, I don't want to EVER date a woman who asks how much $$$ I make early on. I don't want a career/job just so I can feed a parasitic person who wants to capitalize on that.

I don't personally try to date trashy women, I just believe in giving people a fair chance and it's definitely not been going well. I have a date lined up with a nurse for tonight. The other one who cancelled this weekend was a nurse as well. The bbq ditching woman was in law enforcement. It's not like I'm going after girls who have no ambitions and drive themselves. It just so happens that I'm getting the worst of the worst. Not sure why.Bringing the lulz to the misc at my own expense.I was about ready to accuse myself of trolling. This **** is so stupid, I don't even know where to start.

I'm meeting some online and some in real life. It's about 70/30 (online to real life) at this point. The thing is, I've dated a few really cool women from online before so I know they're around too, I just somehow don't manage to meet them. And a lot of these women seem completely normal during texting conversation but then it's pure madness in person. Or, they seem to really like me and then pull **** like what happened with the bbq date. Maybe a complete lack of empathy for other people is to blame? I don't know.

Definitely going to start going for only in person approaching from now on. Just have one more date lined up for tonight so I'll stay positive and give that one a fair shot first.

Also, forgot to mention.

I met my sister this weekend to grab some food as she was passing through. As I'm sitting there I look up and see my ex who doesn't even live in the city I'm currently eating in. She lives back where I just moved from.

She waves to me with a big smile on her face and I see a guy standing right there with her staring at me. Lmao. I smile back but don't wave.

Later she texts me (haven't talked to her in a long time) and lets me know she spends a lot of time in the city I just moved to (where I saw her) because she's seeing this cool guy. (the guy she was with)

Thanks for letting me know, lmao. Why even text me that ****? Seriously....sigh......

I had this online broad over the other night, and I was doinking her talkin' all this porno chit stuff, bending her up in twisty pretzel positions, really shinin' myself on like I was the guy, I was saying "look at that, look at that" all ego trippin' and I must of looked away to some corner of my room or something saying it, I look back at her and she's looking in the direction my head was and goes "what are you telling me to look at? why are you looking at stuff in your room"....

and she was serious. I was like "wat. are you trolling me right now? I was sex talking you." and she completely killed the whole endeavor. Had to GTFO her. It was lulzy.

Bad weekend for you brah, no worries I was in the same boat (though I didn't have any dates lined up, a few just ghosted on me while talking). Have you ever tried to meet girls at places you normally go? Like in public, in person? Doing things you enjoy doing?

Should of just whipped it out.
She would of left or did what she came there to do.

Almost sounds like she wanted a place to crash.

Amen, US_Ranger for brah with the thickest skin! Mirin that chit you FA's? Sure he gets down, but he never shows signs of giving up as heavenly blessed beauties don't fall out the sky. Good on you for staying strong man! I am noticing these log threads in a sense soften the blow for brahs who get rejected, especially often. You don't feel so bad as you know you ain't the only one. Happens to us all, its just the way the cookie crumbles.

I miss the craziness of "dating."

The stripper chick story is so familiar. Made me laugh.

Mirin crocodile-tier skin thickness but not miring effort-to-results ratio at all.

Definitely mirin Ranger's ability to keep taking hits on the chin. But his dating experiences, I'm not mirin those at all. EDIT:^^Wizard

Not to go all FA downer, but this thread is one of the stronger motivators to LDAR I've seen in a while. I mean, we've got a fukkin ex Army Ranger here who's fit and regularly meeting women online and IRL, and is just repeatedly dealing with chit-quality behavior from generally chit-quality women. I'm looking at this and going "what chance do I have". I'd have to go well out of my way just to meet any girls, and put in a lot of time playing the numbers game just to find one that would even want to go out with me. This thread makes me wonder if I should even bother.

BTW Ranger, hope your test went well today and gl on the date tonight. I pretty much threw away this last weekend prepping for two exams, so I'm kind of in that same boat. Our GPAs are all gonna make it.

Folks really go on 3 dates in one weekend?. How?

I am by no means making light of what you're experiencing. I've had these.... anomalies with women occur with me as well in the past. In fact, far too often to be anomalies but the shiit you're experiencing...........FUK. Be careful, I know the toll it can take on a man mentally. No matter how mentally tough you are. I've been down that road.......I'm still somewhat down that road. Traces of it still stick with me.

When it gets past the point where it's no longer funny, just take a step back and forget about trying to date/meet women etc. ESPECIALLY online.

Yeah, of course. That's the best way to meet someone. Unfortunately, I do high intensity sports so they don't usually frequent those. Also, no woman wants to go out on a hiking date in the deep woods with a dude they don't know. I'm going to have to try indoor soccer again soon.Thought about it.

Also thought about jail and decided against it.Thanks man, appreciate it.Glad I can bring the lulz for the misc.Definitely not mirin the results. Hope it turns around. As much as this thread is fun, I'd like to actually meet someone decent and let it ride out a bit.Thanks bud. Aced the test so that's a relief. Hoping the best for the date tonight so we'll see how it goes. Leaving the house in 5. And don't think I'm something special. I'm just another guy. Yeah, I'm in really good shape but that can also work against me if a chick makes assumptions that I'm a d-bag or something like that. Also, no one knows I'm a former army ranger unless they start asking questions about my past and most dates don't involve that since it's usually one sided....and that doesn't mean me talking about myself. :/By setting them up and hoping for the best? It's a numbers game in modern dating. So many crappy options out there.I hear you dude. I notice myself prepping for failure a bit and I have to talk myself out of it and stay positive. I've been taking some hits on the chin lately but gotta keep the head up.





Leaving for my date in 5.


Also, just got an email with a job rejection for the 4 hour interview I had last week. I was so overqualified that it blew me away. Really put me in a sour mood for the last hour but the gym helped a bunch. It was weird, during the interview they told me how amazing I was, how I was a perfect fit for the place, how I needed to take them diving (once they found out I was a rescue diver) and all sorts of stuff. Then I get a rejection.

Hey....sounds a lot like my dates. Ayyyyyyyy lmao


Update soon ladies and gents.

Have fun bro and chin up, next job is right around the corner.

10/17/16 evening date


-Tinder match so my hopes were low
-I get to restaurant
-She's 30 minutes late. Lmao.
-We have dinner.
-She's extremely nice, easy to talk to, easy to look at, has a little bit of awkwardness (in a good way) about her
-Traveling nurse, only here until December but has been to some really cool places, just got back from South Africa too (holy crap, we actually had something in common)
-We spend 2 hours at dinner, joking, laughing, having fun

****I notice something about myself that I've noticed on a few dates now that I've been on so many failed ones. I'm starting to get under my own skin and think I'm fcking a situation up. I'm over-analyzing every little thing I do and thinking "Oh great, now she's not going to talk to me again" if I do anything. Before I'd just not care at all or let it slide and now I'm being really hard on myself after soooo many failed situations****

-I take note of this and really give it my best shot and try to have fun
-After the date, I walk her to her car, talk for a minute, don't make a move because the timing didn't feel right
-After we both get back to wherever we live, I text her asking if she wants to see me again (seeing if she's a game player)
-She says she does and she had a really good time


So. Either she's not telling the truth and I'm going to be ghosted in 1-2 days or she's being honest and we're going to hang out again soon. I'm going to go with her having a good time and wanting to see me again. Going from Vick's dating log too, I instantly went for the "I'd like to see you again, etc etc" and asked her if she felt the same in order to gauge her ability to be an adult. She seems like a real adult so I'm pretty stoked. She also just got back from a hike earlier in the day so that means she's not a lazy piece of ****. I like that.

Going back to my *** section. Damn, that is NOT like me in the slightest but repeating patterns can start to wear on you after awhile. And the reason they start to wear on you is because it's true. I've been on on soooo many dates in my life and soooo many of them were going well until one tiny little thing happens and then it's game over. Oh, your hand brushed against my hair? On to the next one. Oh, you took me to sushi even though I hate sushi? Yes I know I said I like sushi but I really don't. On to the next one. (yes, that happened before too) These sorts of things make it hard to be yourself in a situation because the standards of modern dating are beyond fcked. Still, managed to pull through and really had a good time with this girl. We'll see if I get ghosted or not now. Ha. Too bad it's only 6 weeks if it works out at the longest.

ALSO:



-Deleted Tinder and Bumble Crew checking in





Had enough of that bull****. Sword, my man, going with your direction on this one.


Tonight's date was the last number I got off tinder before deleting it.

You breaking down on us bro. Asking her if she wants to see you again same night? Even if received well, that sounds insecure and desperate. If you feel the need to say it, then I would go with something more confident like "I had fun with you tonight, we SHOULD do it again sometime". Never ask chit brahs, always tell and assume interest. However, when you leave a good impression like it sounds you did, mind fuk begins right away lol. Unless she texts me first, I won't text her again for 2-3 days after the first date. Make her wonder about you and if you are interested. They will usually text the next day or same night I find when I leave good impression.

You starting to sound negative like jamesbevis, srs. Sounds like the rejection is taking its toll man, ease up. Maybe take a break to gain some composure and opt for quality over quantity, ie) women who show high interest. Seems like you on a date every night lol.

Hope this one works out for you. The odds are bound to get even some time.

I don't think he is breaking down at all. It's entirely natural to have those doubts creep in when you have as awful of a time dating as he has had so far. Nobody has unshakable confidence. There will always be little things you think about or let creep in here and there that at least make you think a little bit. He will be fine, it's just a little down turn that will find it's way back to where it normally is. I had a similar feeling over Saturday and Sunday due to poor gym performance, poor sports performance, and obviously strange female behavior. However last night I got it back with a good gym session so USR will undoubtedly bounce back once another little something goes his way. It's a healthy way to reset your psyche.

USR, I'm glad you took something from my log. I did something similar with a girl from my gym I hit up on IG last night and her first message back was extremely forthcoming and direct. That's a grown ass woman right there, and I respect the move you put on and the responses they both gave us back. I'm glad this date seemed to have gone better for you. Even though it has an expiration date, use it as a mental springboard to see that yeah, most people suck, however sometimes they surprise us.

Yes those doubts will creep in, but that is not to say that he should be acting on them.

Man screw restaurants on first dates.

I'm also starting to get bored of girls on tinder/bumble, seems to take longer time for a decent one to come along now. I'm in no rush though I have my sex/fun if i need it.

Well in a perfect world none of us would let them affect us in any way, but they do. I have them, USR has them, I'm sure you have them. We all just cope with them a little differently. The difference is that for confident people, they pass once we get a little momentum going and get ourselves back on track with a small act of normal success, for example, receiving a good grade, being positively approached by a chick, or getting a gym PR. Truly a case of "easier said than done," especially in this situation where it's not your own personal acts that are causing frustration, but the actions of others.

Nah, not negative at all. I'm as happy as I always am. I'm the guy always making people laugh in my class, getting to know everyone well, get invited to do stuff a lot so people are happy around me too. It's just dealing with repeating patterns. If I touch a hot stove 50 times and get burned, I'm going to be weary about touching a hot stove.

When half my dates don't even bother showing up or they do show up and are insanely boring, mentally unstable or downright ****ish then it's going to affect how I view dating in general. I give EVERYONE a fair shot, that's my standard and I hold myself too it. But instead of just thinking "This chick probably sucks" I start getting under my own skin. It's hard not to as well. I mean jesus christ, last week a chick told me she didn't want to see me again because I touched her fcking hair. TOUCHED HER HAIR. What...in...the...fck. This happens ALL the time too. So of course I'm naturally hyper-aware of any possible fck up situation and I'm on edge about it.

As far as asking her if she wants to see me again, I do it for 2 reasons:

1) To see if she's playing games

2) To save time.

I'm 34, I'm sick of wasting time and I'm going to start pursuing someone else the second I hear "Ehhhhh" or "Nope" from a girl about seeing her again. You might not agree but even 5 minutes of wasted texting with my busy schedule doesn't cut it anymore. All the more reason I deleted tinder/bumble. If a chick sees it as beta to say "Hey, I had a really good time and I'd like to see you again, do you feel the same?" then it's someone I doubt I'd want to see again anyway. I'm over the fcking game playing bro. I'm over it. If someone is going to pull that stupid **** on me then I don't want to see them again.Even a broken clock is right twice a day.Couldn't agree more. And to add on to that, it's not even an issue of confidence as much as it is hyper-awareness as I said earlier. Knowing that slimy, entitled, spoiled brat women are looking to see if you have the wrong color belt on so they can next you is beyond disgusting but it's a part of modern dating. Being hyper-aware in general has drawbacks and then add in the constant barrage of crappy dates and it's a mental mind-fck for a guy like me. I still act like me and I'm still 100% into what I do, regardless of how many shots on the chin I take, but goddamn is it mentally exhausting.

I am surprised this is happening to you of all miscers OP... rooting for ya.