Yea try having more then one kid sh!ts real crazy.. Always worth it though.

I feel this way too bro.

Problem was, she refused to see me when she was in town. Wouldn't even talk to me on the phone after the breakup call. She was adamant about not seeing each other. When I asked why, she said "I just can't."

I knew she was at her Grandma's one day, and I thought about heading over there and just popping in, but I was worried she would freak out and/or call the police. Instead, I tried messaging and calling, which she saw but ignored. Finally I just typed out the big long proposal because she was going back overseas and I wanted her to know how I feel before she went back to get engaged (or maybe she already is secretly engaged?). Well, it crashed and burned spectacularly. In retrospect, I wish I would've at least found a way to do in person.

Now I would have to fly overseas and she lives with her boyfriend. She has blocked me and when I tried to send some birthday messages (and I admittedly uploaded some birthday memories on ********), she accused me of harassing her. I mean, I would gladly do something grand if it had any chance of working, but it seems like the ship has sailed brah.

We're not normal people, bro. That's the problem with your objective analysis. I didn't want casual sex, I wanted a relationship. I wanted friendship, love, and companionship without having to convert to Catholicism, having a big Catholic wedding, and popping out a bunch of Catholic kids. The sex was part of it, we had sex about once a week. But it was hardly the end-all, be-all of our relationship. We were best buddies. She wanted everything I wanted, plus a big Catholic family. However, there were several times where she said we could compromise on one kid (perhaps half-jokingly?). I don't remember what I said, but let's just say I didn't exactly jump on the offer at the time. Big mistake in retrospect.

I mean, I didn't want to, but she was leaving and she felt like she needed the experience of dating somebody else. It was only supposed to be casual dating. I knew she wasn't going to have sex with them. The problem was, it wasn't serious for a while, but she's been with this guy for a year now. At some point, it got serious and she didn't tell me. And her new guy is divorced and has 2 kids, so it's not like he hasn't been around the block before.

You ever try a long distance relationship where your significant other will be 4,000 miles away for a year or more, brah? I would've done it, but the pause was her idea. She was the one that was mentally and emotionally checking out of our relationship because of my lack of commitment. She was being distant and our relationship seemed broken. Something needed to change. I thought after a little space she'd come back to me. At first she wanted to, but then too much time passed and the Russian guy took over.

Kind of. But if she moved back after a year, I think we would've made it brah. Once she pushed that date back, it was bad news. Real bad news.

Thanks brah, you married? Yup, you would think I would've been smart enough to hold on to her, but I made decisions with my brain instead of my heart. Didn't know I screwed up until my heart was blown to smithereens.

OP you didn't fuk up. Cringe at everyone ITT telling you that you did. You didn't want to get married and have kids, and people SHOULDN'T get married and have kids if that's not what they want. Do we need anymore poorly raised children and failed marriages?

You'll be fine. There are so many people out there for you to date and experience. There is no "one true love" that's some manufactured disney crap. There will be more that you're compatible with.

4 years of experience and she couldn't even take your calls? lol please. She dumped you like a ton of bricks. Not to mention she found rusCHAD right when she left. It must be real easy for her to find "true love" back after back.

Also to make matters worse, she blocked you off of everything, because she sees you as a huge beta after you spilled your guts out. I can really see how much you meant to her. LMAO good riddance OP. GJ on making the right decision to not get suckered into something with HER that you don't even WANT

Damn, she sounds like me now. I wonder if she ever recovered.

So since you're married with a kid, how do you rate your life choices bro? Was it all worth it? Or do you have regrets? Did you pick the right one?

No idea why you're red, but I appreciate your replies ITT.

If she's happy or even thinks she is, you can't do anything. It doesn't feel like it right now, but the universe has a way of putting everything the way it needs to be. Takes time and patience. At the end of the day, she's clearly smitten with this guy. It's time to let go, and mourn the relationship. Take some time to yourself, and then slowly take one step forwards. Believe me, one day you'll look back and be grateful this happened. Especially when you look down and have the TRUE love of your life, curled up in your arms. Best of luck. I truly mean it.

She ripped that fukker off, lit it up with a flamethrower, threw it in front of a herd of stampeding elephants, and then tossed it into a nuclear mine field.

No regrets bro? The crazy kid thing is ultimately why I let her walk out the door. Seems terrifying (srs)

As the Prophet Eminem once said, "Not a Jealous Man, but Females lie"

Required viewing before thinking about getting married.

My kid is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I really wasn't sure if being a dad was for me either but it changed me in nothing but positive ways. My wife. That's a whole other ball of wax. She's a good natured woman but frankly shes gained a lot of weight and I've never been attracted to big women. I never expected her to look like a bikini model but I also didn't expect that she would just say fuk it and just stop caring about her weight. I could have never foreseen this but it's common for a lot if women to do this once they have a kid. I guess they know that you're really stuck with them at that point. Like I said before it's complicated.

Why am I red? Guess I got negged by someone with high rep. Hope my posts have helped you make some sense of your situation.

Offer?lol. I still think my objective analysis is spot on.

You are getting a hard lesson on female game.

Like I said, you cant find another women that meets your needs? It will take a little screening & some introspection but they are out there


Good thing she was not serious about marriage or if this is legit it would be a lot worse.

Thanks bro. I didn't think I wanted marriage or kids. But by the end, I wanted marriage and I thought having kids would be worth it. Granted, I still didn't want them on my own, but I wanted to make her happy. That was really the main thing I realized. I wanted to stop being selfish and put her needs above my own.

Would those feelings last for the next 50 years? No idea.

But you're right bro, she turned into a real bish by the end. She kicked me to the curb in a hot second and never looked back. I'm still in shock a month later. I'll never be able to understand how she did this to me. I may have been the selfish one before, but now she claimed that title and to hell with me. Lol at rusCHAD. Honestly, I don't think she truly loves him. But they have the same life goals, he converted to Catholicism for her, he got along great with her family, and he can financially support her. I think she looks at him as a "good fit."

Damn that's true, I'm sure she sees me as a giant beta and doesn't respect me any more. After all the things she said, she acted like she felt nothing. She basically said "fuk you, I'm out and I'm gonna get RusCHAD to give me all the things that you never did, peace out bish." In retrospect, I created a monster. I'm still in love with the old girl, but that girl is gone and the new girl is a POS. My main regret is that I ruined the old one.

Hope you're right though brah, GOOD RIDDANCE, I'll have to laugh if RusCHAD knocks her up and then leaves her blowing in the wind like the ex-wife.

Will rep on recharge.

You said it bro. I think "she thinks" she's happy. And she thinks he's a good fit that checks all her boxes. Nothing I can do right now. Maybe she'll change her mind. Maybe she won't. But once they get married, she won't divorce. It's time to let go, lick my wounds, and expect nothing else to come out of this failed relationship. 6 1/2 years is a long time to spend together so closely, only to turn into nothing. But that's what the universe has chosen.

I can't imagine ever being grateful about this, but I hope you're right brah. If I do find the right one after this, it means the universe is smarter than me. Or if I die old, miserable, and alone, posting on the misc in my 80s, bitter as fuk, I'll make sure to bump this thread and neg you. Lol jk. Will rep on recharge.

Hey man, compatibility matters. Even if this girl is great, if the timing isn't right, if you're at different stages in life, then it wasn't meant to be. Don't fight it. Move on. Focus on you. Don't have a scarcity mindset.

Good video but that chick is clearly a dumb sloot, bro. My girl is intelligent and not a sloot. She's had sex with one guy her in life. Two at the max, if you believe some of the fukkers in here, but you'll have to trust me that it's one. Her faith is too strong for any fukking around. After we broke up, she said she had nothing left to give, and that she would feel like she always belong to me. Evidently RusCHAD has slowly changed her mind.

Damn, that's cool to hear bro. Were you like me in that you were SURE you didn't want kids, or were you ambivalent about it? I was convinced the answer was no through my 30 years, but now I'm kinda cautiously open to it, if only to hold onto that special someone. And who knows, maybe I'll love it in the end like you?

Sucks to hear about the wife. Did you truly love her when you got married? Attraction is a big thing. You've expressed your concerns and she doesn't care? Does she even act like she's going to try to lose weight? I have a couple of buddies in similar situations. One guy married a girl for her athletic body, she had legs to die for, and she blew up like the marshmallow man after they got married and had a kid. He's always grumpy about it. Did the sex life go to hell, too?

Yeah brah, I've really appreciated your input. Somebody rep this man!

you dodged a bullet

she is a whore, and she would have cheated on you

Lol, female game. She's got no female game. Well, not when it comes to sex. When it comes to all the other worst of female attributes, absolutely. If you want to objectively analyze her in any other way, I'd love to hear it. But she's not banging dudes, bro. That's not her. She wouldn't even bang me by the end. She closed off her heart and her legs at the same time.

Right now, I don't want any other women. I did some online dating while she was gone, saw about 4-5 other women briefly. Total waste of time and money. Not looking to get laid, and all I did was think about her. I messed around a little but I didn't find much joy in it. I felt like I was cheating on her. Now that I'm dead inside, it'll be even worse.

What do you mean she was not serious about marriage?

She was by far the highest-quality girl I've met in 20 years of dating. There's no scarcity of women, but there's a scarcity of high-quality women. I'll keep on searching, but it's gonna be tough bro. Maybe it wasn't meant to be, or maybe it was and I didn't let it be.

>She's not a whore
>She wouldn't have cheated

Damn bro, you just helped convince me I dun goofed

stop it former age 47 troll

It’s weird how a girl can be so crazy over you but the moment you act beta after the relationship ends dude like others have said, all respect for you is gone and she’s done. Not attracted to you anymore. Doesn’t matter how much she “loved” you, something about exposing your weak side to women completely shuts them off. Don’t ever need a girl or let her know you need her.

Very true and it still amazes me. It's just what it is.

come on misc stop being so trusting, he is the former age 47 troll

Dammit brogirl, I'm not trolling. I poured my life out on here for all of you to read. Why can't you just say





Thanks for the reps, doe. I got you next time sweet pea

also very valid points