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post 1645818683 08-27-2021, 01:18 AM
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First anyone can break up with anyone for any reason, so "right" and "wrong" isn't a terribly useful metric, what's more important does it relate to behaviour you want to change or not.

Second a breakup, as described in the opening post has nothing to do with the stated reasons, that's a breakup driven by lack of interest/enthusiasm on the part of the girl.

Third, FFS go cold on this silly bitch. Such a gap between what she says and what she does.
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post 1645829853 08-27-2021, 07:38 AM
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Can't say I'm surprised, but thanks for the update, hang in there. As long as you learned something about relationships and yourself, don't think of it as a total loss. You seem like a decent guy and it's her loss.
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post 1646073743 08-30-2021, 10:20 PM
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Did you end up getting the vaccine lol ??
post 1647163973 09-16-2021, 12:33 PM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
You should be feeling lucky that you avoided crazy.

Don't be a dummy crying over someone who's obviously not stable. lol.
All of this. Why in the hell would you even take her back? She’s riding the CC and has so many options. She was looking for any excuse not to be with you. She has deep issues and red flags everywhere. Should have just said “okay”and left her alone.
post 1647394953 09-20-2021, 05:57 AM
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
Figured I’d give you guys an update.

She ended things with me last Tuesday. She said she was confused, feels like “something’s off/not right”, has anxiety around meeting my friends when she shouldn’t, etc. In reality, I think somewhere the last few weeks she lost attraction for me and couldn’t get it back.

She kept saying “do you have any questions” and I was like “no, not right now”. And she said I could text her if I do, and maybe we could meet up again to talk about it. lol

I was very surprised by it all. We had our last date the Sunday before (one she initiated out of the blue) and I did notice a couple odd things - she never initiated a kiss (where she did previously, even on the most recent date) and while we were eating dinner, her body language (which is usually pointed directly at me) was straight ahead (we were sitting at a bar). But she did initiate hand holding on the way back to the car.

The Friday before she invited me to meet her best friend (the first guy she’s introduced to her friends) and it went great - her friend even suggested hanging out again in the future. Then she spent that night at my house and we banged in the AM before she left.

She sent me a text Wednesday saying she’s thankful for the 4 months (that’s how long we dated), I’m the first guy she developed real feelings for in 5 years (that’s how long she’s been single), and I “mean a lot to her” blah blah blah. Her birthday was Friday (2 days later) and I went back and forth on whether to send her a bday text. I decided to do it.

I’m now 1 week into NC. I want to thank the RH (specifically Ninshark and Zackad) along the way - without you guys I wouldn’t have reconnected with her. It was a great 2 months we had after our first breakup.
that itch was a waste of time. fuk her and move on.
post 1647650033 09-23-2021, 07:21 PM
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How hard is it to text or call someone . Is not hard is only hard when you are not into them . If you are into them you will make an effort to contact them . Obviously don’t be needy but let them know that you are interested by not playing games . Problem is some people think by playing hard to get they will win them over . No you are most likely just going to end up alone and wondering what happened .
post 1647987403 09-29-2021, 05:24 AM
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did you guys fuk>?
it seems like she took the interaction to the limit just before the sex and then bounced.
post 1648065653 09-30-2021, 11:29 AM
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Originally Posted By stevesteve12⏩
did you guys fuk>?
it seems like she took the interaction to the limit just before the sex and then bounced.
Yes, after we reconnected we fuked nearly everytime we saw each other. The last time we had sex she had two orgasms through penetration alone so I don't think sex was the issue.
post 1648746443 10-11-2021, 03:29 PM
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
Figured I’d give you guys an update.

She ended things with me last Tuesday. She said she was confused, feels like “something’s off/not right”, has anxiety around meeting my friends when she shouldn’t, etc. In reality, I think somewhere the last few weeks she lost attraction for me and couldn’t get it back.

She kept saying “do you have any questions” and I was like “no, not right now”. And she said I could text her if I do, and maybe we could meet up again to talk about it. lol

I was very surprised by it all. We had our last date the Sunday before (one she initiated out of the blue) and I did notice a couple odd things - she never initiated a kiss (where she did previously, even on the most recent date) and while we were eating dinner, her body language (which is usually pointed directly at me) was straight ahead (we were sitting at a bar). But she did initiate hand holding on the way back to the car.

The Friday before she invited me to meet her best friend (the first guy she’s introduced to her friends) and it went great - her friend even suggested hanging out again in the future. Then she spent that night at my house and we banged in the AM before she left.

She sent me a text Wednesday saying she’s thankful for the 4 months (that’s how long we dated), I’m the first guy she developed real feelings for in 5 years (that’s how long she’s been single), and I “mean a lot to her” blah blah blah. Her birthday was Friday (2 days later) and I went back and forth on whether to send her a bday text. I decided to do it.

I’m now 1 week into NC. I want to thank the RH (specifically Ninshark and Zackad) along the way - without you guys I wouldn’t have reconnected with her. It was a great 2 months we had after our first breakup.
damxit, sorry to hear that, but yeah her saying she lost attraction is believable, so I guess NC is the way to go this time (even though I rarely advise it).
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post 1648798793 10-12-2021, 12:59 PM
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Originally Posted By Ninshark⏩
damxit, sorry to hear that, but yeah her saying she lost attraction is believable, so I guess NC is the way to go this time (even though I rarely advise it).
To be clear, she didn't say she lost attraction. She gave me the "something's not right" and "I feel confused" etc. I take all of that to mean she lost attraction.

Thanks for your advice back in June when she broke up the first time. It's crazy, without this thread I wouldn't have reached out the first time and wouldn't have had those 2 more months with her.
post 1648799753 10-12-2021, 01:19 PM
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She sounds like a pain in the ass
post 1648800223 10-12-2021, 01:28 PM
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Originally Posted By AMDuser⏩
To be clear, she didn't say she lost attraction. She gave me the "something's not right" and "I feel confused" etc. I take all of that to mean she lost attraction.

Thanks for your advice back in June when she broke up the first time. It's crazy, without this thread I wouldn't have reached out the first time and wouldn't have had those 2 more months with her.
Sounds to me like you overlooked about 1000 red flags.

In the future, if a woman breaks up with you for trivial reasons, just go no contact.
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post 1662829023 06-13-2022, 11:32 PM
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Are you vaccinated now? asking for a friend
post 1662832923 06-14-2022, 04:45 AM
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Not sure if srs about catching feels after only a month
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post 1662972083 06-16-2022, 02:37 PM
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Update op, you maxxed vaxxed?
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post 1663129683 06-19-2022, 04:13 PM
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Op, you dodged a bullet

She sounds like a pain in the ass, and also didn't sound v interested in you anyway

Also ninshark has zero clue what they're talking about, completely disregard their 'advice'
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Lie and tell her you just got vaccinated because that’s how much you care. Tell her she was right. It was selfish of you not to get the vaccine and you should send her an Amazon gift. Then take that ass to pound town and then start sending her selfies every 30 seconds.
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It’s just easy for females. They get hit on 25 times a day. They pretend they are annoyed by the ones they don’t like but if they do like one and even if you are the main one you are already go e. They will make up bs to start a fight and are already with the next guy.
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