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10-22-2020, 11:34 PM
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10-23-2020, 07:57 AM
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Originally Posted By bertishere⏩
Toronto is a GOLD MINE man for Bumble, you should be cleaning up.installed bumble and CMB.. why do i only see fatties on there, wtf is wrong with these apps. had the same issue with hinge and when i emailed support they said i shouldn't use their app if i talk about women like that lol.
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10-23-2020, 07:59 AM
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Originally Posted By bertishere⏩
You are a legend my dude. I can tell you have lowinhibitionmaxx'd lolHell ya. I tried hinge before, it never really worked.. my friend had success (manlet, bald, medium size) and met a 8/10 so I'm like okay what's your secret. He said he paid for it which gave him more swipes and better chances.
So I pay for it and it's all whales.
I emailed them asking why I only see obese women and the rep said something along the lines of "if you're going to talk about women like that then maybe our app isn't for you"
I replied "I don't think you should be telling me who I should be attracted to. Just because I don't support unhealthy lifestyles doesn't mean the app isn't for me. Your app is messed up"
A few emails back and forth and I told them I wanted a refund, which was promptly issued.
Never again.
So I pay for it and it's all whales.
I emailed them asking why I only see obese women and the rep said something along the lines of "if you're going to talk about women like that then maybe our app isn't for you"
I replied "I don't think you should be telling me who I should be attracted to. Just because I don't support unhealthy lifestyles doesn't mean the app isn't for me. Your app is messed up"
A few emails back and forth and I told them I wanted a refund, which was promptly issued.
Never again.
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10-23-2020, 02:43 PM
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Received a text back from the hinge guy. FaceTimed this morning and he told me one of the issues about our first meet.
He didn’t like the fact I wasn’t “touchy” like most on a date and the fact I would pull away during certain things he’d try lol Even if people were walking past us.
I used to be “clingy” a bit on first dates but I grew out of that. I prefer how I am now vs old me. I’m sure me pushing his hand off my thigh bothered him lmao.
He didn’t like the fact I wasn’t “touchy” like most on a date and the fact I would pull away during certain things he’d try lol Even if people were walking past us.
I used to be “clingy” a bit on first dates but I grew out of that. I prefer how I am now vs old me. I’m sure me pushing his hand off my thigh bothered him lmao.
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10-23-2020, 04:45 PM
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Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
yeah most guys will have a takeaway from negative body language like that, myself included.I would pull away during certain things he’d try lol
10-23-2020, 05:24 PM
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Originally Posted By brightbrah⏩
Nah I get that but I’m up front with certain things I don’t like. If someone doesn’t follow them then that’s on them. I won’t be uncomfortable for someone I’m just now meeting lolyeah most guys will have a takeaway from negative body language like that, myself included.
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10-23-2020, 06:24 PM
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Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
First date, I think it's perfectly fine to not be comfortable with that.Nah I get that but I’m up front with certain things I don’t like. If someone doesn’t follow them then that’s on them. I won’t be uncomfortable for someone I’m just now meeting lol
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10-23-2020, 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Same. I don't think a first date needs to be all touchy feely. Especially not when it's the first time you've ever met.First date, I think it's perfectly fine to not be comfortable with that.
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10-23-2020, 07:18 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I can do holding hands and giving hugs. However, if I’m wearing a skirt, or even a dress. I have limitations lol especially with thigh touching.First date, I think it's perfectly fine to not be comfortable with that.
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Blue line is where I find it okay if you want to quickly touch during a conversation.
Red line is off limits on first dates. Too far up for my liking.
So the hinge guy thought it would be fine to rest his hand there and rub my thigh. Ofc I pushed his hand away and told him to chill.
@legz, yeah I honestly prefer not getting too touchy on the first date. Especially after some messed up first dates I’ve had in the past
Bleh. I can’t type lmao
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10-23-2020, 07:23 PM
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Just LMAO if you don't let guys grope your jugs within 20 minutes of meeting them.
Dating in 2020.
Dating in 2020.
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10-23-2020, 07:24 PM
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Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
Ye, totally reasonable. I think holding hands is too far tbh... I probably wouldn't do that until we're pretty much exclusive.So the hinge guy thought it would be fine to rest his hand there and rub my thigh. Ofc I pushed his hand away and told him to chill.
@legz, yeah I honestly prefer not getting too touchy on the first date. Especially after some messed up first dates I’ve had in the past
Bleh. I can’t type lmao
@legz, yeah I honestly prefer not getting too touchy on the first date. Especially after some messed up first dates I’ve had in the past
Bleh. I can’t type lmao
I'll often just place my hand on lower back as we're walking in a door, or maybe touch her arm or something subtle on a first date.
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10-23-2020, 07:25 PM
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Originally Posted By Mr
And lmao at the sluts that allow them to touch their inner thigh etc. If you let me do that, you're designated slut right there.Just LMAO if you don't let guys grope your jugs within 20 minutes of meeting them.
Dating in 2020.
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10-23-2020, 07:32 PM
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Women: how many men pose shirtless or flex in their pics on the apps? Just saw a vid where it showed some profiles and it was cringe how many guys are flexing etc.
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10-23-2020, 07:44 PM
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Originally Posted By Mr
Just LMAO if you don't let guys grope your jugs within 20 minutes of meeting them.
Dating in 2020.
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I can’t with you and luci right now lmao
@luci I’d say around 30% of matches were with dudes that had a shirtless pic lol
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10-23-2020, 08:00 PM
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Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
oh okay i gotchaguy thought it would be fine to rest his hand there and rub my thigh. Ofc I pushed his hand away and told him to chill
I meant more along the lines of touching your hand or the small of your back or something. but yeah i see what you mean
10-23-2020, 08:14 PM
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Originally Posted By FemaleWarriorxo⏩
Yeah, that's absolutely too much, especially for a first meet. I personally have never liked it when guys get too touchy on a first meet.I can do holding hands and giving hugs. However, if I’m wearing a skirt, or even a dress. I have limitations lol especially with thigh touching.
Wore something similar to this
Blue line is where I find it okay if you want to quickly touch during a conversation.
Red line is off limits on first dates. Too far up for my liking.
So the hinge guy thought it would be fine to rest his hand there and rub my thigh. Ofc I pushed his hand away and told him to chill.
@legz, yeah I honestly prefer not getting too touchy on the first date. Especially after some messed up first dates I’ve had in the past
Bleh. I can’t type lmao
Wore something similar to this

Blue line is where I find it okay if you want to quickly touch during a conversation.
Red line is off limits on first dates. Too far up for my liking.
So the hinge guy thought it would be fine to rest his hand there and rub my thigh. Ofc I pushed his hand away and told him to chill.
@legz, yeah I honestly prefer not getting too touchy on the first date. Especially after some messed up first dates I’ve had in the past
Bleh. I can’t type lmao
Originally Posted By Mr
Don't forget you're on the Misc doe! BRBJust LMAO if you don't let guys grope your jugs within 20 minutes of meeting them.
Dating in 2020.
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Misc: Can you believe this sloot didn't let me smash on the first date?! She's playing games!
Also Misc: She let me smash on the first date. What a sloot!
Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I think that's perfect for a first date. And really you wouldn't hold hands until you're exclusive? Why? I like holding hands so if I like a guy I'm good with it if he takes my hand.Ye, totally reasonable. I think holding hands is too far tbh... I probably wouldn't do that until we're pretty much exclusive.
I'll often just place my hand on lower back as we're walking in a door, or maybe touch her arm or something subtle on a first date.
I'll often just place my hand on lower back as we're walking in a door, or maybe touch her arm or something subtle on a first date.
Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Hmmmmm...... There have been some but not as many as it seems I used to see 5 years ago. I've always thought it was pretty cringey. Unless it's a beach pic or sports or something where it would be normal to be shirtless. When someone is in good shape you can tell with a well fitted shirt, so no need for shirtless gym pics or selfies.Women: how many men pose shirtless or flex in their pics on the apps? Just saw a vid where it showed some profiles and it was cringe how many guys are flexing etc.
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10-23-2020, 08:47 PM
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I have zero idea how to guage this. We went on a nice third date walked around the local conservatory and went to get some drinks and a bite to eat after. She offered to pay this time which was good. We hit it off great, flirted and I escalated as much as I could. She's getting out of the car and not even a kiss. I atleast got a kiss last date. She mentioned she has a lot of fun with me but I just don't have an idea how to Guage this. This maybe a case of me needing to let her reach out to me if she wants to hang out again. Thoughts?
10-23-2020, 09:08 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
lmao truthMisc: Can you believe this sloot didn't let me smash on the first date?! She's playing games!
Also Misc: She let me smash on the first date. What a sloot!
Also Misc: She let me smash on the first date. What a sloot!
I think that's perfect for a first date. And really you wouldn't hold hands until you're exclusive? Why? I like holding hands so if I like a guy I'm good with it if he takes my hand.
I might be just conditioned to believe that holding hands is for couples.Hmmmmm...... There have been some but not as many as it seems I used to see 5 years ago. I've always thought it was pretty cringey. Unless it's a beach pic or sports or something where it would be normal to be shirtless. When someone is in good shape you can tell with a well fitted shirt, so no need for shirtless gym pics or selfies.
Yes, I use shirt pics, but not blatently.The guys I saw don't even have very good bodies, you're right.
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10-23-2020, 09:12 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
This is why we can't have nice thingsMisc: Can you believe this sloot didn't let me smash on the first date?! She's playing games!
Also Misc: She let me smash on the first date. What a sloot!
Also Misc: She let me smash on the first date. What a sloot!

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10-24-2020, 10:05 AM
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If I was on a 3rd date with a guy I liked and was attracted to I would def kiss them by that point. Actually, I wouldn't be on a 3rd date with someone if I didn't want to kiss them. Did you discuss seeing each other again while you were together?I have zero idea how to guage this. We went on a nice third date walked around the local conservatory and went to get some drinks and a bite to eat after. She offered to pay this time which was good. We hit it off great, flirted and I escalated as much as I could. She's getting out of the car and not even a kiss. I atleast got a kiss last date. She mentioned she has a lot of fun with me but I just don't have an idea how to Guage this. This maybe a case of me needing to let her reach out to me if she wants to hang out again. Thoughts?
Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Yeah, I've seen plenty of that. Not great shape but shirtless. There was one who said on his profile he was in an open relationship and had a shirtless pic with no head. He really should have had a shirt on. lollmao truth
I might be just conditioned to believe that holding hands is for couples.
Yes, I use shirt pics, but not blatently.
The guys I saw don't even have very good bodies, you're right.
I might be just conditioned to believe that holding hands is for couples.
Yes, I use shirt pics, but not blatently.
The guys I saw don't even have very good bodies, you're right.
Originally Posted By Mr
I know, right?!This is why we can't have nice things

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10-24-2020, 11:19 AM
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Originally Posted By Midi77⏩
i created a fresh account and i'm getting about 1 match per day but either they dont respond or it was on an accidental right swipe.Toronto is a GOLD MINE man for Bumble, you should be cleaning up.
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weird. seems to be a widespread issue after searching google.My friend and I both had this happen to us initially when using hinge, but after a while it essentially stopped showing us whales. Think u might need to build up some matches/msgs before getting "value." Idk.
10-24-2020, 11:20 AM
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I'm considering paying to win on bumble. The algorithm seems to make a big difference or maybe it's just a coincidence.
Alot of times I feel like I'm on a dry spell on bumble then once a sloot matches with me it's like a domino effect and 2 or 3 more will see me and match with me.
Anyways, off to a date in 30 minutes
Alot of times I feel like I'm on a dry spell on bumble then once a sloot matches with me it's like a domino effect and 2 or 3 more will see me and match with me.
Anyways, off to a date in 30 minutes
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10-24-2020, 12:12 PM
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Originally Posted By ScottTil⏩
good luck brah, you got this.I'm considering paying to win on bumble. The algorithm seems to make a big difference or maybe it's just a coincidence.
Alot of times I feel like I'm on a dry spell on bumble then once a sloot matches with me it's like a domino effect and 2 or 3 more will see me and match with me.
Anyways, off to a date in 30 minutes
Alot of times I feel like I'm on a dry spell on bumble then once a sloot matches with me it's like a domino effect and 2 or 3 more will see me and match with me.
Anyways, off to a date in 30 minutes
10-24-2020, 12:31 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
No but she reached to me today to come over some day this week and cook dinner. That answers that question.If I was on a 3rd date with a guy I liked and was attracted to I would def kiss them by that point. Actually, I wouldn't be on a 3rd date with someone if I didn't want to kiss them. Did you discuss seeing each other again while you were together?
Yeah, I've seen plenty of that. Not great shape but shirtless. There was one who said on his profile he was in an open relationship and had a shirtless pic with no head. He really should have had a shirt on. lol
I know, right?!
Yeah, I've seen plenty of that. Not great shape but shirtless. There was one who said on his profile he was in an open relationship and had a shirtless pic with no head. He really should have had a shirt on. lol
I know, right?!
10-24-2020, 12:44 PM
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I think the woman is coming over later, I haven’t dated any others.
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10-24-2020, 01:14 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
I have had positive comments from the women I’ve dated how attractive it is that I have a great body but don’t show off on the app or IG etc. It’s usually a bonus for them (I’ve had mouths drop, and others later say they were trying to hide their surprise).Yeah, I've seen plenty of that. Not great shape but shirtless. There was one who said on his profile he was in an open relationship and had a shirtless pic with no head. He really should have had a shirt on. lol
But then it becomes intimidating to some. I’m obviously not gonna adjust just because they find it intimidating though. I’ve never made any of them feel bad about their body and I compliment them.
I don’t expect everyone to be into fitness like I am and that’s perfectly fine, I actually prefer it. But I do want them to care about their health, beyond fitting into clothes.
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10-24-2020, 01:17 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Coming over to your place?!I think the woman is coming over later, I haven’t dated any others.
Online dating in 2020 before an election in CA. Pretty much everyone says "swipe left if you voted for Trump" and political views are listed as "Liberal".
10-24-2020, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
Yeah some get intimidated, especially if they have body image issues. They think that you expect them to look like a female fitness model.I have had positive comments from the women I’ve dated how attractive it is that I have a great body but don’t show off on the app or IG etc. It’s usually a bonus for them (I’ve had mouths drop, and others later say they were trying to hide their surprise).
But then it becomes intimidating to some. I’m obviously not gonna adjust just because they find it intimidating though. I’ve never made any of them feel bad about their body and I compliment them.
I don’t expect everyone to be into fitness like I am and that’s perfectly fine, I actually prefer it. But I do want them to care about their health, beyond fitting into clothes.
But then it becomes intimidating to some. I’m obviously not gonna adjust just because they find it intimidating though. I’ve never made any of them feel bad about their body and I compliment them.
I don’t expect everyone to be into fitness like I am and that’s perfectly fine, I actually prefer it. But I do want them to care about their health, beyond fitting into clothes.
10-24-2020, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted By DustinTheHuss⏩
My impression is that women are generally insecure, and will find stuff to be insecure about regardless.Yeah some get intimidated, especially if they have body image issues. They think that you expect them to look like a female fitness model.
I think it’s just part of female nature, and doesn’t mean it’s some broader problem unless it’s extreme.
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