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02-03-2017, 02:57 PM
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Originally Posted By daisygirl713⏩
This is why I like daisy. Maybe she is an anomoly. she gets that if I text her after the date/hooking, it doesnt mean I am needy. even If I text her something the next day that reminds me of her, it doesnt appear needy. of course, I am NOT going to send her 100 texts the next day. thats overkill. all I want is a girl that does not get turned off by me sending a few texts the next day or even calling her up, telling her I had a great time, and then setting the next date. That's what I do, I make plans ahead of time.In regards to texting the night of or next day, I find it sweet when a guy says, 'text me to let me know you got home safe', because it shows me he cares about my well-being. My guy did that on our 1st date, and I actually forgot to text when I got home, so he sent a follow-up text asking if I got in safely. I really appreciated his concern...made me feel like I was in good hands with him.
Granted, I'm not the type that likes waiting 2-3 days post date to contact...I prefer to keep the momentum going by either a text saying you got home safely, or the next day, a text saying you enjoyed yourself and would like to do it again. Some people are different, though, and prefer waiting. Don't really think there's a clear 'right or wrong' here, other than to make sure you don't *overdo* contact in the early days. Whichever way you choose to communicate, I always find it's best to keep things lighthearted and fun in the beginning, which means finding the balance between staying in touch but also maintaining independence.
True...better to peel away layers of each other like an onion, over time and not all at once. Allows for a much more organic process of getting to know one another, and doesn't force anything or fall into that 'whirlwind' trap, where things catch fire quickly but burn out even quicker. Always go for the slow burn
Are you engaging with her at all in convo or no?
Granted, I'm not the type that likes waiting 2-3 days post date to contact...I prefer to keep the momentum going by either a text saying you got home safely, or the next day, a text saying you enjoyed yourself and would like to do it again. Some people are different, though, and prefer waiting. Don't really think there's a clear 'right or wrong' here, other than to make sure you don't *overdo* contact in the early days. Whichever way you choose to communicate, I always find it's best to keep things lighthearted and fun in the beginning, which means finding the balance between staying in touch but also maintaining independence.
True...better to peel away layers of each other like an onion, over time and not all at once. Allows for a much more organic process of getting to know one another, and doesn't force anything or fall into that 'whirlwind' trap, where things catch fire quickly but burn out even quicker. Always go for the slow burn
Are you engaging with her at all in convo or no?
Originally Posted By deadliftbrah19⏩
in my mind the attraction vanished the second she saw me. How does a girl go from you phukking her all night and calling you pet names/cuddling you/acting submissive to suddenly acting like she just met you for the first time again? it was extremely incongruent. It was like she was a different person than most of the day that we first met. so I thought it was over by then and had nothing to lose.I haven't read the rest of this thread. Holy cow, is anyone working today or does everyone have Friday off and just posting? I'm lucky to get a break for 10 min at lunch as I receive 100+ emails an hour, plus meetings and deadlines. I need a new job if ya'll have this free time on Friday
$50 for drinks for a 1/2 hour sounds crazy. I assumed the bill was like $20.
But it sounded like if you didn't say anything to her after she said she was tired, then you could have avoided an argument. My $.02
$50 for drinks for a 1/2 hour sounds crazy. I assumed the bill was like $20.
But it sounded like if you didn't say anything to her after she said she was tired, then you could have avoided an argument. My $.02
Of course, pondus' theory was that it was all a giant chit test. I still take his opinion with a grain of salt, but I am willing to try his advice since mine is not working and he has more experience than I do.
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02-03-2017, 03:08 PM
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Originally Posted By psychosylocibin⏩
A lot of girls don't like that sort of behavior (like pre-boyfriend sort of stuff if that makes sense) because they fear commitment due to the immense amount of options they have. Not all, but most. The key to all game is making her want you badly. It's a slow process.This is why I like daisy. Maybe she is an anomoly. she gets that if I text her after the date/hooking, it doesnt mean I am needy. even If I text her something the next day that reminds me of her, it doesnt appear needy. of course, I am NOT going to send her 100 texts the next day. thats overkill. all I want is a girl that does not get turned off by me sending a few texts the next day or even calling her up, telling her I had a great time, and then setting the next date. That's what I do, I make plans ahead of time.
02-03-2017, 03:12 PM
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Originally Posted By xvicknumber7x⏩
that's downright phukking sad if you ask me.A lot of girls don't like that sort of behavior (like pre-boyfriend sort of stuff if that makes sense) because they fear commitment due to the immense amount of options they have. Not all, but most. The key to all game is making her want you badly. It's a slow process.
and then they do stupid chit, on top of that, like to phuck guys on the first date unprotected. the girl this past weekend came across initially as very educated/attractive/good future ahead of her, then she gets wasted, takes me back and try to sex me (First) without protection or asking any questions about my past/etc. of course I brought some. she is putting herself at huge risk for stuff. and she was in a similar major as I was..she knows the consequences of STIs (some last forever), so why did she stop and asked if I had any before?
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02-03-2017, 03:25 PM
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Originally Posted By psychosylocibin⏩
Ya, I think part of why I look for a guy who shows concern for my well being is because my dad and my grandpa, whom I'm very close with, always emphasized safety whenever we were out. They are very protective types, so I subconsciously seek out a guy who is going to be concerned with my welfare and who makes me feel cared for. I'm sure there are plenty of women who would find that to be a turn off, or an insult to their 'independence'...but I have always been drawn to the guys that demonstrate a caring streak.This is why I like daisy. Maybe she is an anomoly. she gets that if I text her after the date/hooking, it doesnt mean I am needy. even If I text her something the next day that reminds me of her, it doesnt appear needy. of course, I am NOT going to send her 100 texts the next day. thats overkill. all I want is a girl that does not get turned off by me sending a few texts the next day or even calling her up, telling her I had a great time, and then setting the next date. That's what I do, I make plans ahead of time.
*Now that I think about it, that could be a result of my biological, evolutionary instincts telling me that he'd make a good father? Even if I'm not actively thinking of him as a longterm partner or even having kids in the near future, it could very well be a factor of why I like someone. Subconsciously seeking out promising mating traits...who knows lol
Originally Posted By xvicknumber7x⏩
Yes, I'd agree that unless she knows immediately after the 1st date that she's into you, it can be a bit much and definitely scare people off...I wouldn't necessarily suggest a phone call the day after either; better to keep plans to texting that early on. Keep in mind that my situation is a bit of an exception, so I wouldn't use it as a standard measuring tool. Prob better to play it safe and tone it down until mutual interest has been established.A lot of girls don't like that sort of behavior (like pre-boyfriend sort of stuff if that makes sense) because they fear commitment due to the immense amount of options they have. Not all, but most. The key to all game is making her want you badly. It's a slow process.
Also, you always have to gauge the situation on a case by case basis. What worked with one girl may not work with another. You have to feel out the individual you're getting to know, and adapt to what communication style resonates best with her. That's why it's good to listen to Vick when he says to take it slow...gives you time to figure out what approach works best and with who.
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Originally Posted By psychosylocibin⏩
Rule 1: Do not treat her like a G/F until she IS your girlfriend no matter what she does or says.that's downright phukking sad if you ask me.
and then they do stupid chit, on top of that, like to phuck guys on the first date unprotected. the girl this past weekend came across initially as very educated/attractive/good future ahead of her, then she gets wasted, takes me back and try to sex me (First) without protection or asking any questions about my past/etc. of course I brought some. she is putting herself at huge risk for stuff. and she was in a similar major as I was..she knows the consequences of STIs (some last forever), so why did she stop and asked if I had any before?
and then they do stupid chit, on top of that, like to phuck guys on the first date unprotected. the girl this past weekend came across initially as very educated/attractive/good future ahead of her, then she gets wasted, takes me back and try to sex me (First) without protection or asking any questions about my past/etc. of course I brought some. she is putting herself at huge risk for stuff. and she was in a similar major as I was..she knows the consequences of STIs (some last forever), so why did she stop and asked if I had any before?
Also, why did you want another date with her? She sounds like a hoe.
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02-03-2017, 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted By xvicknumber7x⏩
This is the purpose of not texting her the next day, so she wonders about you. If she likes you, subconscious attraction is at play. The patience pays off brahs, trust me.The key to all game is making her want you badly. It's a slow process.
Yeah, yeah we all want women to be like Daisy but truth is they are slim to none so you can forget about being genuine in this sense. And for the record, if you connected with a girl like Daisy, she'd be in the bag the same way even if she prefers next day contact. Except she might think your interest in her is low and this will make her step up her game
Miss don't tell me what to do told ME to text her when I get home on date 3 lol. Very sweet, it did touch me for sure. Like she did to me, I would bust this after a few dates so she doesn't know she has me after the first date.
02-03-2017, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted By psychosylocibin⏩
Looking back on my hookup days, it's absolutely mind blowing the amount of chicks that have no issues with taking a random guys raw dick in her no questions asked. Like 1/20 chicks might ask if you have a condom.that's downright phukking sad if you ask me.
and then they do stupid chit, on top of that, like to phuck guys on the first date unprotected. the girl this past weekend came across initially as very educated/attractive/good future ahead of her, then she gets wasted, takes me back and try to sex me (First) without protection or asking any questions about my past/etc. of course I brought some. she is putting herself at huge risk for stuff. and she was in a similar major as I was..she knows the consequences of STIs (some last forever), so why did she stop and asked if I had any before?
and then they do stupid chit, on top of that, like to phuck guys on the first date unprotected. the girl this past weekend came across initially as very educated/attractive/good future ahead of her, then she gets wasted, takes me back and try to sex me (First) without protection or asking any questions about my past/etc. of course I brought some. she is putting herself at huge risk for stuff. and she was in a similar major as I was..she knows the consequences of STIs (some last forever), so why did she stop and asked if I had any before?
The trouble with being punctual is that nobody's there to appreciate it.
02-03-2017, 03:58 PM
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Originally Posted By daisygirl713⏩
This is why I raise the heat slowly.Witty banter is great and I definitely admire a man who can go toe to toe with me, but what melts my heart, lowers my guard and brings out my soft side is kindness. Poking fun requires tact & finesse, because as you learned in the early days of practicing, it can come out differently than intended and cause offense instead of laughter. I would say the best combo is a guy who tempers his witty banter with genuine kindness. It's just enough of give and take to make someone feel engaged and challenged, but also comfortable and cared for.
Originally Posted By psychosylocibin⏩
See bro, you are not quite there yet. You think that daisy is different than other women. She's not. (no offense daisy) When you get your game down, every woman will be like a "daisy" to you.This is why I like daisy. Maybe she is an anomoly. she gets that if I text her after the date/hooking, it doesnt mean I am needy. even If I text her something the next day that reminds me of her, it doesnt appear needy. of course, I am NOT going to send her 100 texts the next day. thats overkill. all I want is a girl that does not get turned off by me sending a few texts the next day or even calling her up, telling her I had a great time, and then setting the next date. That's what I do, I make plans ahead of time.
Of course, pondus' theory was that it was all a giant chit test. I still take his opinion with a grain of salt, but I am willing to try his advice since mine is not working and he has more experience than I do.
I guess, what I haven't made clear enough yet, is that you are constantly being tested. If your value is not rising, its falling. There is no in between, but if you ever find yourself in a situation where you are a bit confused, flustered, or in disagreement, TAKE NOTICE! This is the gift she is giving you to use to your advantage to raise your value (and/or lower hers, by knocking her off her pedestal). I WILL REPEAT, women WANT to perveive you as having higher value than them. THAT is what keeps them interested.Question: If you think she may be playfully attacking your intelligence, does it raise or lower your value to tell her you got straights A's, was valedictorian, and an IQ of 140?
Originally Posted By Nedo⏩
Abuse filter, locked and loaded. :PWell said. Always use humour to not make it seem so serious and she will usually pick up on the hint. If she doesn't, I like to say chit like "Still doing (insert what she is doing wrong). REMEMBER what happened last time you didn't listen to me?? Just WAIT till we get home, BRENDA (insert squint with smirking look)!"
Hopefully she was never beaten by a man. I push the envelope IDGF.
Hopefully she was never beaten by a man. I push the envelope IDGF.
Psy, re-read my attraction thread before you go out tonight.
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02-03-2017, 04:54 PM
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
interestingI guess, what I haven't made clear enough yet, is that you are constantly being tested. If your value is not rising, its falling. There is no in between, but if you ever find yourself in a situation where you are a bit confused, flustered, or in disagreement, TAKE NOTICE! This is the gift she is giving you to use to your advantage to raise your value (and/or lower hers, by knocking her off her pedestal). I WILL REPEAT, women WANT to perveive you as having higher value than them. THAT is what keeps them interested.
Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
I wouldnt even mention it, just saying something back handed back. maybe tickle her, something silly. because she is being silly. kind of like your bratty little sister? I dunno.Question: If you think she may be playfully attacking your intelligence, does it raise or lower your value to tell her you got straights A's, was valedictorian, and an IQ of 140?
I would say it would lower my value because it is me trying to prove myself to her. now if we were in a relationship for 6 months and she asked in a serious matter, I would tell her.
Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
already read it earlier today.Psy, re-read my attraction thread before you go out tonight.
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Originally Posted By psychosylocibin⏩
Good. Exactly right. You raise your value by making her prove her value to you, not the other way around. The moment you've "defended" your value, you actually just lowered it.interesting
I wouldnt even mention it, just saying something back handed back. maybe tickle her, something silly. because she is being silly. kind of like your bratty little sister? I dunno.
I would say it would lower my value because it is me trying to prove myself to her. now if we were in a relationship for 6 months and she asked in a serious matter, I would tell her.
I wouldnt even mention it, just saying something back handed back. maybe tickle her, something silly. because she is being silly. kind of like your bratty little sister? I dunno.
I would say it would lower my value because it is me trying to prove myself to her. now if we were in a relationship for 6 months and she asked in a serious matter, I would tell her.
Now, if you are having a general discussion about scholarly achievements, then stating you were valedictorian , etc, would raise your value.
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02-03-2017, 05:14 PM
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Originally Posted By FU3L⏩
Checking in.Looking back on my hookup days, it's absolutely mind blowing the amount of chicks that have no issues with taking a random guys raw dick in her no questions asked. Like 1/20 chicks might ask if you have a condom.
02-03-2017, 05:17 PM
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Can you imagine if two Pondus' dated each other?Good. Exactly right. You raise your value by making her prove her value to you, not the other way around.
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
I do your style it is what is should be no beating around the bush, mind games and no you're not a fuking beta like misc seems to think however it is truly mature and "alpha" if you ask the relationship question first as you're making the moves and are confident in knowing what you want. Women will actually appreciate that more than stringing it along over several dates or mind games A) they'll know what you're for and they agree B) they know you have your chit together and you're impressed with what you've seen/gained from her on that date C) they know you're not their material as they want to smash n dash or string you along so they can date multiple people.Ok, the age thing makes sense I guess. Here's how I see it, I know what I want and I know what I'll tolerate. I don't buy into multi-dating (I despise the modern dating scene), I believe in dating one person exclusively and giving it a fair chance before moving on. If she doesn't agree, she can move on too. Saves us both time.
I think the confusion here is about delivery. I communicate my dating requirements quickly, not necessarily specifying her. It isn't a desperate act of oh-I-don't-wanna-lose-you; it's - I'm not going to be another chump option and I believe in giving things a decent chance to succeed if things go well.
I think the confusion here is about delivery. I communicate my dating requirements quickly, not necessarily specifying her. It isn't a desperate act of oh-I-don't-wanna-lose-you; it's - I'm not going to be another chump option and I believe in giving things a decent chance to succeed if things go well.
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Correct, I recognize my value and I won't submit to 'modern dating' trends because I don't like them for several reasons. Thanks for understanding my argument.There's a subtle level of pandering going on here with guys whose only goal is to maximize attraction of the woman towards them.I do your style it is what is should be no beating around the bush, mind games and no you're not a fuking beta like misc seems to think however it is truly mature and "alpha" if you ask the relationship question first as you're making the moves and are confident in knowing what you want. Women will actually appreciate that more than stringing it along over several dates or mind games A) they'll know what you're for and they agree B) they know you have your chit together and you're impressed with what you've seen/gained from her on that date C) they know you're not their material as they want to smash n dash or string you along so they can date multiple people.
Would rep but you're still on spread sorry brother.
Would rep but you're still on spread sorry brother.
I can admit that my strategy may not, on average, maximize attraction levels; just like strategically going NC for periods could also maximize attraction. But I will date on my terms, and if she doesn't recognize how messed up the modern dating scene is, then I don't wanna continue dating her anyway.
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Originally Posted By Luc1fer⏩
My only goal is to find the perfect woman for me.Correct, I recognize my value and I won't submit to 'modern dating' trends because I don't like them for several reasons. Thanks for understanding my argument.There's a subtle level of pandering going on here with guys whose only goal is to maximize attraction of the woman towards them.
I can admit that my strategy may not, on average, maximize attraction levels; just like strategically going NC for periods could also maximize attraction. But I will date on my terms, and if she doesn't recognize how messed up the modern dating scene is, then I don't wanna continue dating her anyway.
I can admit that my strategy may not, on average, maximize attraction levels; just like strategically going NC for periods could also maximize attraction. But I will date on my terms, and if she doesn't recognize how messed up the modern dating scene is, then I don't wanna continue dating her anyway.
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
Once you find your perfect woman, you better hope she stays that way throughout the subsequent years to come.My only goal is to find the perfect woman for me.
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Originally Posted By rawdawgg⏩
No one stays the same, but if we are aligned enough, we will change together.Once you find your perfect woman, you better hope she stays that way throughout the subsequent years to come.
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Probably ruined my relationship last night, I escalated a nothing argument into something bigger for no reason. We'll see what happens, been texting her but no response.
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
If that's really how you feel, you need to dump her. Why does she need to dump you first?Probably ruined my relationship last night, I escalated a nothing argument into something bigger for no reason. We'll see what happens, been texting her but no response.
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
Idk, I want to stay together and I really love her, I just know she's going to dump me at some point anyway so kind of want to get it over with if that makes sense. If not now, 3 months from now or whatever its going to hurt the same.If that's really how you feel, you need to dump her. Why does she need to dump you first?
02-04-2017, 09:47 AM
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
Yep, I get it, and I think it is sad. If you always feel this way, then just end it. You are not giving it 100% and it is not fair to her. If you are just feeling this way now because you ****ed up, then fix it.Idk, I want to stay together and I really love her, I just know she's going to dump me at some point anyway so kind of want to get it over with if that makes sense. If not now, 3 months from now or whatever its going to hurt the same.
If a woman ever told me she expects it to end at some point. I'd dump her right on the spot because I know she will never give me her all and she will end up just sabotaging the relationship.
What it comes down to is low self-esteem and what you are going to end up doing is constantly test her to see if she really does want to be with you. (If you are not already doing it.) This will push her away. Self fulfilling prophecy, bro.
No, you can never guarantee it will last, but it's definitely not going to last with that attitude, so why waste her youth when she can find someone that is actually worthy of her time?
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02-04-2017, 10:49 AM
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
I am at a funeral currently (which is why I haven't responded to your text yet) but I've told you in the past that you are thinking too much about the end and letting it dictate your mood and your actions. Before getting into another relationship, you need to master yourself and your emotions.Probably ruined my relationship last night, I escalated a nothing argument into something bigger for no reason. We'll see what happens, been texting her but no response.
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
02-04-2017, 11:51 AM
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
Well don't keep texting incessantly. If you made a mistake, admit fault and apologize and leave it at that. Except we all know that this doesn't mean sh*t - some time will pass and her mood will change.Probably ruined my relationship last night, I escalated a nothing argument into something bigger for no reason. We'll see what happens, been texting her but no response.
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
hoping she dumps me and just gets it over with. I love this girl but its gotta happen sooner or latter, if its sooner at least I wont be so goddamn stressed. I'm not fit for a relationship
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02-04-2017, 01:22 PM
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Broke up with her, we were supposed to hangout out today, she said she didnt want to, I told her I was done. Deleted and blocked number.
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
02-04-2017, 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted By xvicknumber7x⏩
Assuming its for your aunt? RIP to her and hope all is well for the fam. Ignore my ******* textI am at a funeral currently (which is why I haven't responded to your text yet) but I've told you in the past that you are thinking too much about the end and letting it dictate your mood and your actions. Before getting into another relationship, you need to master yourself and your emotions.
02-04-2017, 02:25 PM
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
Real mature, bro...Broke up with her, we were supposed to hangout out today, she said she didnt want to, I told her I was done. Deleted and blocked number.
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
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02-04-2017, 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
Why would you sabotage yourself like that when you had a good thing going brah?Broke up with her, we were supposed to hangout out today, she said she didnt want to, I told her I was done. Deleted and blocked number.
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
02-04-2017, 02:40 PM
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
Strong sabotage, but probably for the best. You clearly have esteem issues. I'd suggest you set some life goals for yourself and achieve them to derive some fulfillment and value.Broke up with her, we were supposed to hangout out today, she said she didnt want to, I told her I was done. Deleted and blocked number.
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
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02-04-2017, 02:43 PM
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Originally Posted By jamesbwbevis⏩
Have you ever seen a therapist regarding your issues with commitment, trust and self esteem?Broke up with her, we were supposed to hangout out today, she said she didnt want to, I told her I was done. Deleted and blocked number.
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
Was a fun ride that I am thankful for, but I could not do this
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02-04-2017, 03:06 PM
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Originally Posted By FU3L⏩
He needs to, I tell him all the time. However he doesn't see any value in it from the conversations we have had.Have you ever seen a therapist regarding your issues with commitment, trust and self esteem?
I told him two weeks ago he was sabotaging himself when he explained his thoughts and he needs to stay in control. A lesson learned. Hopefully he can face them and fight them since he's a good dude.
Just a quick update on me: Last night I heard from a girl I've known for years who I always suspected has wanted me. She told me as much last summer when we would hang out here and there however she just... isn't it for me. She's beautiful, tall, fit, educated, looks great. It's just something about her personality I don't like. Anyway, she hit me up last night with an inside joke between us. I didn't really give her too much.
K also hit me up last night. I kept it brief and ignored a text she had sent me an hour or so later after I ended our conversation.
I saw Girl 7 (B) at the gym today. She looked at me and smiled. I didn't really pay her any mind. I left shortly after seeing her. I'm expecting a text or contact from her later tonight which I will either respond with "who is this" or just no response, haven't decided yet.
It's funny how when you slowly stop caring completely then this sort of thing happens. Also laid my aunt to rest today. She was very old so we knew it was going to happen. The story surrounding her and her death sort of is pulling that part of my family apart from me because they handled it in an extremely sloppy way. Basically they had her in hospice since fuucking May for physical therapy (she fell and broke her shoulder.) Her daughter, who is my aunt, decided to not get her the therapy she needed and instead just kept her in hospice to rot until death. My aunt was fully aware, had all her "marbles" so to speak, and was aware of what her daughter was doing to her. She finally died and now my aunt can leave the area we are in and get her inheritance, two things she has wanted for quite a while.
It makes me sick and none of the other men in my family were man enough to tell her off about it. So I did. She ought to pay for what she did. My grandma is of course very close to my aunt and her death and the situation surrounding it really made my grandma sad. I am really hoping that they pay for what they did somehow, someway. She ought to pay for it.
J, I hoe you are alright bud.
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