Me and my gf have been together since February.

She is Latin and loves to go out dancing with her gfs once every 5 weeks. Other times I go with her.

It was her birthday last week and I took her out to a nice resturaunt and get her a nice gift.

She mentioned she wants to go for a girls only night for her birthday and get a hotel with them.

She went out but never contacted me after she was done like she said she did.

Here is our text convo the next day after she called me in the morning and applogized.

Me:Hey, I want you to have fun with your friends but I don’t feel good about you not checking in with me last night. I don’t think it’s right and it makes me feel disrespected. Especially if you are gonna go out drinking and dancing and get a hotel.

Her: I’m sorry I was tired and fell asleep.

Me: I know you can say you’re sorry but this issue needs to be addressed with actions because we had this conversation before.

Her: I promise it won’t happen again love please don’t be mad

Me: I’m not mad it just really disappoints me when this happens because I trust what you tell me.

Her: But babe I was gonna call you

Me: I know but you didn’t.

Her: I’m sorry.
(I don’t reply)
Her: I love you

Me: I know that you keep telling me that but actions speak louder then words and I just want you to respect what I say because I’m putting a lot of effort into our relationship.

So she hasn’t replied yet cuz she sleeping and I work nights.

I just feel disrespected and I can’t accept it.

Am I over reacting or handling it good bros?

Just need to get it off my chest cuz my gut doesn’t feel right.

What do you bros think?

This issue needs to be addressed imo.

If real then OP has serious trust issues and is a control freak .

This, she's probably getting advice from her girlfriends right now telling her that her bf is a control freak...

Just chill out OP, you make a point once on how you disappointed you feel then no contact...

You've made your point. She gets it. Stop rephrasing it in different ways. In future if she 'forgets' this conversation and does what she wants then you next her.

Fair enough I will chill out bros thank you for the advice.

You need to have this convo in person. Doing it over text is not gonna solve anything. Do you trust your girl? You sound need and quite insecure

she needs to put some respeck on your name op

I trust her 100 from the start but once I’m lied to I lose it all. Just don’t want gf To take my kindness for a weakness.

cringing

Unless she got trashed, I wouldn't be buying this story.

Its never just girls only nights boyos. Its variety night, hence hotel room and "falling asleep"

What is this nonsense?

Check in with you?
"Issue needs to be addressed"?
Don't want your gf to take your "kindness" as weakness? Kindness in what? That you "let" her go out with her friends?

Good Lord bro, that's level 10 clinger chit. Calm down and stop trying to be controlling or she's gonna listen to her friends when they start telling her to ditch you

Honestly OP it's a bit of a **** area, it's a lose/lose as you aren't happy with her not giving a **** about you. I'm assuming you're nice to her in a way where you text her etc/communicate with her while you're out so you expect the same in return. Personally if she does it a lot and you can't handle it ur just gona have to move on as she won't change I can promise you that.

And don't give a **** about the controlling/insecure crap, most guys who say that are either bitches or don't truly care about the girl and will play games with her/start talking to other women. Either that or they've never been on the other end where a married girl offers to have sex with you cuz she's on a night out with the girlies. You obviously must have reasons for your trust with her being slightly off. If she's doing this every 5 weeks then yeh I'd get the **** out of there.

Don't ever start drama with a women over text. She will re-read it a thousand times: each time making it even worse trying to figure out "what you meant by that". Then she shows it to her friends and...just don't.

This and most importantly so you can interrogate in person to see if she is lying. She has time to think over text and especially with her girls dictating "the nights events"

You should have played it cool, then felt her out the next time you see her.

If it were me though, I would just abort mission given she requires "girls" nights so often. Are her friends single? Even worse then.

Glad to see someone understands I’m just trying to communicate with her normal.

Cuz if I wanna go out and get a lot of females I can but I’m passed that stage and it gets old man...

are you her dad or her BF lol

insecure much?

She gets a hotel with her girlfriends without you and you think that's all it is?

You keep scolding her over and over even after she apologizes?

Wow quality substance in this relationship

She is gonna dump you dude. Your texts makes it clear that you are an insecure passive aggressive control freak.

Update: she keeps saying she loves me. I let it go and will let it slide but if it happens again I’m gonna end it.

This is where you went wrong.

Which couple doesn't want to be with their SO on major holidays & birthdays? lol. The fact that she wanted to go and then you let her, is beyond understandable.

If she wanted to hang with them and then come back, cool. But getting a hotel and staying out with them? O_o ... err yea, you goofed.

Gather up your dignity and let her know this is NEVER to happen again. And that if she wants to hang overnight with her homies, she can do it as a single lady.

BRUH. She got a hotel?! What's the reasoning behind that? Makes 0 sense to me. You said she's done this before (no contact when on a night out despite saying she would). That would be one strike too many for me....I'm out.

This honestly. Its cool she went out with her friends and whatever but she got a hotel and this isn't the first time she didn't call you?

Shouldve confronted her in person too

OP your are needy, controlling, insecure, and mostly BETA as fuk

You need to chill the fuk out OP

Ghost this stupid bitch. Join a gym and a local fascist organization. Read everything you can about Enrico Corradini, Julius Evola, and Corneliu Codreanu.

Start banging her like you don't respect her, like the guy in the hotel room is doing. She'll love it. She'll be out of your life soon anyway.

yeah, because spending 24 second sending a good night text to your boyfriend of almost a year is totally way too much effort and means OP is clingy.

I've been in enough relationships to know that when behavior deviates from the norm, its probably not just chance.

when it does, its usually because she is focusing on another guy. she may not have cheated, but the concept is the same.

yeah......bad news OP, your girl is cheating on you.

How long does it take to call / text someone....the "I forgot, I fell asleep" excuse is as bad as what girls used to say waaaaay back in the day "the battery died on my phone!"

She's basically calling your bluff - just from your text I can see she has all the power in this relationship, she goes out, does whatever she wants, has casual sex on the side, and doesn't even have to come up with a better excuse than "I forgot" when you've obviously talked about this before? LOL

OP she doesn't respect you....and I don't blame her, you're trying hard to come off "alpha" and stern in your texts but its so obvious you are her little lap dog.

How does Tyrone's ass taste?

girls really try to rationalize those things..
A girl I was seeing was planning on going to montreal with me for halloween weekend. We were super close up to the day we were supposed to go.
She goes silent suddenly and does so for a few days. Turns out she went with "her cousin and sister"
Yet apparently she thinks its ok to completely go silent for a few days.
Ends up ending it when she gets back, just lol