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Thread: Do you give second chances?

post 1624984701 12-09-2020, 11:02 AM
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Do you give second chances?

Been speaking to some chick and have arranged to meet up Friday. Yesterday she hits me with “my mum is ill she has to have a covid test” then tells me if they don’t get results tomorrow she’s going to have to cancel. (She’s expecting a 24 hour covid test result when they’re expected to take 3 days minimum) I think she’s lying and has other plans and is keeping me on the backburner. If she cancels I’m looking to just get rid of her....or am I being a bit too harsh? All seems a bit too convenient to not meet up and she’s just putting the wheels in motion to cancel lol.
post 1624985671 12-09-2020, 11:13 AM
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Covid is weird times. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt but make sure she knows the ball is firmly in her court to reschedule. If she isn't eager to do so then you have your answer.
post 1624987293 12-09-2020, 11:25 AM
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
Covid is weird times. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt but make sure she knows the ball is firmly in her court to reschedule. If she isn't eager to do so then you have your answer.
This. You need to calm down. If he mom has Covid she might also.
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post 1624989703 12-09-2020, 11:43 AM
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Originally Posted By dolvioblue⏩
This. You need to calm down. If he mom has Covid she might also.
Something just feels fukky and just a bit convenient it’s all happened now really. Just seems like she’s pre emptively cancelling without actually cancelling with the whole “it needs to come back in 24 hours otherwise I will have to cancel” when covid tests are 3+ days for results
post 1624989963 12-09-2020, 11:44 AM
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Go with your gut feeling. If you think she's playing games, then leave it alone and let it go.
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post 1624990103 12-09-2020, 11:46 AM
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Originally Posted By Austin317⏩
Been speaking to some chick.
Fail.

She already got the attention out of you she needed.
post 1624992433 12-09-2020, 12:06 PM
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Sure this isn't a second chance. She just has low interest in you. I'd play along for a while just to see if I can bang but wouldn't invest much time or thought into it.
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post 1625003553 12-09-2020, 01:47 PM
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Maybe try meeting someone else and coming back to this person next year. At least then you're not constantly nagging, if you leave it a month or so. Sometimes circumstances can come up which leads to a number of flakes which by no fault of your own begin to lower your value.
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post 1625004083 12-09-2020, 01:51 PM
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There is no such thing as second chances, only categories of women.

The woman you are talking to has just been re-categorized as someone good for blowjobs and jizzing on, but not impregnating, spending money on or putting any effort into hooking up with her.
post 1625005553 12-09-2020, 02:02 PM
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Originally Posted By 401Delta⏩
The woman you are talking to has just been re-categorized as someone good for blowjobs and jizzing on, but not impregnating, spending money on or putting any effort into hooking up with her.
Wait, so you think just because someone missed a date or postpones a date, they are automatically meant to be used and abused?

Are you kidding me? O_o Bit harsh don't you think?
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post 1625005853 12-09-2020, 02:06 PM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
Wait, so you think just because someone missed a date or postpones a date, they are automatically meant to be used and abused?

Are you kidding me? O_o Bit harsh don't you think?
You make it sound like getting jizzed on wouldn't be an enjoyable experience. Nobody said anything about abuse.
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Such a weird scenario.

One of my friends gave me the heads up that they went to take a covid test since they were recently around someone that was positive and were waiting results. So they may have to miss one of our friend's planned dinners. Then sent me a picture of the receipt. 24 hours later sent a pic of negative results to all our friends who were going to give everyone peace of mind. Maybe she will be a gem and have the same courtesy and go out of her way to comfort your feelings.
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post 1625007133 12-09-2020, 02:17 PM
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Originally Posted By 401Delta⏩
You make it sound like getting jizzed on wouldn't be an enjoyable experience. Nobody said anything about abuse.
You insinuated that anyone who misses a date, regardless of whether they have a legit reason or not, are meant to be used and discarded. That's a bit harsh for that behaviour when you can just drop the person and move onto others who will give you more importance.
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post 1625007923 12-09-2020, 02:23 PM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
You insinuated that anyone who misses a date, regardless of whether they have a legit reason or not, are meant to be used and discarded. That's a bit harsh for that behaviour when you can just drop the person and move onto others who will give you more importance.
You are reading too much into my post.

I merely said that said sloot was now re-categorized as GOOD for blow jobs and jizzing on.

How you could take that as anything but a compliment is beyond me. You are not entitled to being treated like a queen if you're just a piece of roadkill.
post 1625009133 12-09-2020, 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted By 401Delta⏩
You are reading too much into my post.

I merely said that said sloot was now re-categorized as GOOD for blow jobs and jizzing on.

How you could take that as anything but a compliment is beyond me. You are not entitled to being treated like a queen if you're just a piece of roadkill.
I don't think categorizing anyone (male or female) good for nothing but being a sex toy is a compliment. Perhaps that's why I took offense to your post. *shrugs*

Opie should go NC with chick. Ain't nobody got time to play games.
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post 1625009643 12-09-2020, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
I don't think categorizing anyone (male or female) good for nothing but being a sex toy is a compliment. Perhaps that's why I took offense to your post. *shrugs*

Opie should go NC with chick. Ain't nobody got time to play games.
You sound like a pessimistic person.

I say someone is GOOD for doing stuff with, but all you can see is the things that aren't on that list.

Typical entitled sloot.
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Originally Posted By S0LID⏩
Maybe try meeting someone else and coming back to this person next year. At least then you're not constantly nagging, if you leave it a month or so. Sometimes circumstances can come up which leads to a number of flakes which by no fault of your own begin to lower your value.
I’ll see what happens Friday, she could be telling the truth, I think misc has just taught me to trust nobody so I’ll see what happens and act from there. There’s been a couple of times where something has happened and have stopped speaking to said girl and then a few months later they pop back up.
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I wouldn't even bother with "maybe" plans either.

How much notice is she going to let you know ahead of time?

I'd just retract and and say "If you can't make concrete plans we should just do it some other time when you can commit for sure."

She expecting you to have "maybe" plans, in which you are likely a back up if her main choice falls through, is rude and disrespectful.

Teach her you value and respect your time and that she has to as well.
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sounds like you're the one who's not interested, not her.
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
I don't think categorizing anyone (male or female) good for nothing but being a sex toy is a compliment. Perhaps that's why I took offense to your post. *shrugs*

Opie should go NC with chick. Ain't nobody got time to play games.
its a complement considering most women and men are ugly as sin

assuming you aren't settling for your girl, filling her orifices with jizz is a massive complement. a guy ( of good value) has many options. and he chose you to be the one to come on and in.
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Originally Posted By Austin317⏩
Been speaking to some chick and have arranged to meet up Friday. Yesterday she hits me with “my mum is ill she has to have a covid test” then tells me if they don’t get results tomorrow she’s going to have to cancel. (She’s expecting a 24 hour covid test result when they’re expected to take 3 days minimum) I think she’s lying and has other plans and is keeping me on the backburner. If she cancels I’m looking to just get rid of her....or am I being a bit too harsh? All seems a bit too convenient to not meet up and she’s just putting the wheels in motion to cancel lol.
Don't take it too seriously, just dun think too much and continue to work on yourself. The more you think about it or try to react to "revenge" on it the more she gain over you.
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Originally Posted By LargePeter⏩
You're 28?

Holy fuk
Actually 28 but won’t let me change it
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So she canceled once? Dude chill. Just tell her: "no problem, hit me when it's all settles down". She might come back to you or not, w/e. Date som1 else meanwhile
if she cancels 2 times tho... Dating is done, now she can come over or gtfo
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Originally Posted By randomuser12345⏩
So she canceled once? Dude chill. Just tell her: "no problem, hit me when it's all settles down". She might come back to you or not, w/e. Date som1 else meanwhile
if she cancels 2 times tho... Dating is done, now she can come over or gtfo
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Always abort after a 2nd cancellation.

Sounds like you are jumping the gun a little though, dont some of the rapid tests complete in a day?
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Originally Posted By redliner9⏩
X2

Always abort after a 2nd cancellation.

Sounds like you are jumping the gun a little though, dont some of the rapid tests complete in a day?
Said the test didn’t come back and now said she felt ill too so cancelled, sounds like ****ery to me. I’ll keep her there by dropping a text now and again but not looking to invest anything in this.
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Originally Posted By Austin317⏩
Actually 28 but won’t let me change it
How did you change your age?
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Depends how many times she’s done it. If this behaviour is persistent just go no contact and completely forget the sloot. Been there before just gets worse
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