What’s up brahs any advice?? I had to friend zone this girl because she wants my attention all the time and I told her many times even the moment we met is I’m
Not down for relationship or marriage or even having kids. I tried to break it off but her sad face made me say we can stay friends. She seems to respect that but will still ask me to come over we have sex now that’s cool and all but I’m feeling guilty af mane. She’s awesome and ready to date and I’m coming out of a break up and need to heal. Am I jerking her around? should I cut it off for good or remain friends who have sex occasionally (which is phucking with my head honestly)

ANY ADVICE IS APPRECIATED, HAVE YALL BEEN IN A SIMILAR SITUATION??

You already know the answer. It's messing with both of your heads.
Tell her it's too soon since your last relationship and you're not over it and you should stop seeing each other so you can heal and so she won't get hurt.

If you can stay friends without having sex, you can do that (if you're even interested in that), but otherwise, you're just leading her on and messing with both of you, so it would be best to go NC.

I had a similar situation, but where I was the girl.

Just cut contact if you have negative feelings about the situation and if you can't handle it.

For my situation as the girl, I honestly didn't want/seek a relationship with him after he made it clear he wasn't looking for a relationship--but he was a chill person and we both had interesting discussions, so I was good with being friends (with the occasional extras if the need hit).
But I don't think he was able to handle it and then tapped out later--I would have liked to continue for the extras but be honest with yourself if it's not for you

She thinks you'll come around, 100%.

These situations are an ethical gray zone. If you've made it super clear to her that nothing will come of this, but she's still pursuing it, an argument can be fairly made it's on her now. But I still think the right thing to do is to break it off because she's definitely interested in more and she'll get wrecked emotionally the longer you go on. That's why you feel guilty.

Feels like women can't separate sex from relationships like men can. Once you've had sex with them being friends seems impossible lol. I've been witnessing it with my friend and his ex, I talk to them both and she is obsessed with 'getting back together' and he isn't. So they are constantly friends, enemies, friends, enemies lol. It's been funny af to watch.

i did this to a girl a few months back except being friends wasn't an option she ever considered possible

i told her i didn't want a relationship so many times. but she kept pushing for one

in the end she basically said 'what are we doing' in the heat or an argument and i was just like 'erm.. seeing each other'? and she flipped her sh*t as if we had been dating seriously all this time and id been stringing her along

in truth she had just been convincing herself we were together (unofficially, cos i never said we were) and she was just the fantasy she had painted

id have loved to keep seeing and smashing her, but then she told me she loved me (srs) and i didn't say it back - so its like, if i go back to her now, chances of her smashing are super slim cos she probably feels rejected af

sorry for thread hijack
my opinion is that you've told her you don't want a relationship, you've done your bit

I’m in a similar situation. Liked the girl at first. We mostly stayed at my place and had a blast. I come to her house now and almost moved in but she has 2 kids and they all are different from me. I’m way organized. I mean I eat and instantly wash my dishes and put them up. My clothes are organized. She all of the sudden has let herself go. They have cats abc her boys don’t even clean up after them. There is cat **** everywhere. I also have no privacy. They stay in her room. I came here for Christmas and there is like no food. My apt is filled with food so now Christmas we have no food. I’m upset. I like them where I don’t want to lose them but I don’t see myself moving in with them. I would have a nervous breakdown