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10-17-2022, 01:52 AM
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Interested in this girl but she's not long-term material. Should I lay down rules?
She is really my physical type, she's affectionate, and the sex is amazing. I really enjoy the physical side with her and want to spend more time with her for this. She's also fun to go to bars with, go camping, and just hang out with.
But she isn't marriage material due to various red flags, particularly her relationship history/high body count, other promiscuous things she has done partying all the time in the past, etc. She is already placed in the hookup/casual bucket for me.
I know that she talks to multiple guys including some exes but I do want to keep her around for casual fun. I also know a guy she seems to really like is coming into town next month for like a week. I don't know what history they have together.
This isn't my first time having a FWB but I do particularly like this girl more than I've liked other FWBs. I feel a bit territorial, not a jealousy thing. It's a bit disgusting to have her spend a week with some other guy and sleep around with others guzzling cum then I see her afterwards.
Should I lay down some rules at this point even though I only want to keep it casual? We've been seeing each other for 2 months so far
But she isn't marriage material due to various red flags, particularly her relationship history/high body count, other promiscuous things she has done partying all the time in the past, etc. She is already placed in the hookup/casual bucket for me.
I know that she talks to multiple guys including some exes but I do want to keep her around for casual fun. I also know a guy she seems to really like is coming into town next month for like a week. I don't know what history they have together.
This isn't my first time having a FWB but I do particularly like this girl more than I've liked other FWBs. I feel a bit territorial, not a jealousy thing. It's a bit disgusting to have her spend a week with some other guy and sleep around with others guzzling cum then I see her afterwards.
Should I lay down some rules at this point even though I only want to keep it casual? We've been seeing each other for 2 months so far
10-17-2022, 09:05 AM
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Like what?
Monogamy?
Seems like a recipe for catching feels but you might already be on that path regardless.
Monogamy?
Seems like a recipe for catching feels but you might already be on that path regardless.
10-17-2022, 10:31 AM
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what rules do there need to be if she's only a casual hookup?
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10-17-2022, 10:48 AM
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You're def in the feels zone and it's not going to get better for you.
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10-17-2022, 11:22 AM
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Originally Posted By skinnyfat88⏩
I'm thinking something like you can date others but don't sleep with them so sexual exclusivityLike what?
Monogamy?
Seems like a recipe for catching feels but you might already be on that path regardless.
Monogamy?
Seems like a recipe for catching feels but you might already be on that path regardless.
I'm not looking for monogamy and I'm looking to control emotions to just have casual fun
10-17-2022, 12:09 PM
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
The only point of her dating if she can't sleep with them would be for her to go on a few dates with someone and if she thought they had relationship potential then cut you off once she wanted to sleep with them.I'm thinking something like you can date others but don't sleep with them so sexual exclusivity
I'm not looking for monogamy and I'm looking to control emotions to just have casual fun
I'm not looking for monogamy and I'm looking to control emotions to just have casual fun
Kinda doubt she'd agree to it but you never know if you don't ask. More likely you just cut it off or accept she's just a fwb and you guys are not exclusive.
10-17-2022, 12:55 PM
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Originally Posted By azzspankr⏩
This lolYou're def in the feels zone and it's not going to get better for you.
If you're asking questions about laying down rules, you shouldn't get into FWB territory with this girl. Either try and lock her down or find another chick you don't need or want to put rules on.
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10-17-2022, 01:55 PM
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sharing women is one of the ****giest things modern society has foisted on relationships and dating. You are better off just jerking off, theres zero upside once the physical part is done, in fact theres only downsides.
The bottom line is women have broken the social contract and if you are looking for traditional marriage material women the rules have changed and they dont exist in western culture any longer, they are too busy with girl power and work to be a valuable partner.
The bottom line is women have broken the social contract and if you are looking for traditional marriage material women the rules have changed and they dont exist in western culture any longer, they are too busy with girl power and work to be a valuable partner.
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Imo you either go exclusive with her or don’t. Any in between stage is just disrespectful and also pointless. The one thing you could do is ask her to wear a rubber with other guys if you’re hitting it raw
10-17-2022, 03:41 PM
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
Lol and exactly what does she get out of this arrangement?I'm thinking something like you can date others but don't sleep with them so sexual exclusivity
I'm not looking for monogamy and I'm looking to control emotions to just have casual fun
I'm not looking for monogamy and I'm looking to control emotions to just have casual fun
Why would anyone agree to be sexually exclusive with someone who doesn't actually want a relationship with them?
You might have convinced yourself that she's not "marriage material" but you're obviously catching feelings for her already, so no doubt other men will also be interested in her. And one of them will be happy to give her everything that you don't think she's worthy of.
Either give her a proper chance, or let her find someone who will. But you can't expect her to put her life on hold for your convenience only.
10-17-2022, 04:09 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with asking for sexual exclusivity with someone you're having sex with. She can either agree to it or not. If she doesn't and you still want to see her just make sure you use protection if you're concerned she's out there whoring it up.
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10-17-2022, 04:45 PM
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Sometimes you just have to enjoy your turn whether it be for a few days, weeks, or even months. **** her as much as you can and get enough images of your babies all over her face to look back on, but realize that as soon as she cucks you you gotta forget her.
You should be looking to use her in every which way before he friend comes to town, and then you cut her off. In that way you are the one cucking her friend, not the one getting cucked.
You should be looking to use her in every which way before he friend comes to town, and then you cut her off. In that way you are the one cucking her friend, not the one getting cucked.
10-31-2022, 08:42 PM
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Originally Posted By Islandboyo⏩
That guy is going to be in town in 2 weeks. I found out that they met back in April whereas I met her in August. I saw her texts with him and they texted daily for months including phone calls and facetiming. I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet whether I cut her off completely or just continue using her until I find someone to replace her.Sometimes you just have to enjoy your turn whether it be for a few days, weeks, or even months. **** her as much as you can and get enough images of your babies all over her face to look back on, but realize that as soon as she cucks you you gotta forget her.
You should be looking to use her in every which way before he friend comes to town, and then you cut her off. In that way you are the one cucking her friend, not the one getting cucked.
You should be looking to use her in every which way before he friend comes to town, and then you cut her off. In that way you are the one cucking her friend, not the one getting cucked.
I've been giving her the facial cum shots, sex, her swallowing my cum, etc and all that
11-01-2022, 08:40 AM
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just skimming over all this here but OP it sounds like you like the girl and you're talking yourself out of it
just give it a shot and date her, she probably wishes you'd try that. see what happens. stay a bit skeptical but you clearly don't want her with other people while being with you. so go exclusive and see if she's trustworthy.
maybe her past is a red flag. maybe she grew up since then? find out. otherwise you'll probably always wonder.
just give it a shot and date her, she probably wishes you'd try that. see what happens. stay a bit skeptical but you clearly don't want her with other people while being with you. so go exclusive and see if she's trustworthy.
maybe her past is a red flag. maybe she grew up since then? find out. otherwise you'll probably always wonder.
11-02-2022, 12:46 PM
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Originally Posted By Murph0408⏩
She's fun to hang out with but I don't think I can look past her history. A bit too much for me to consider as a life-long partner.just skimming over all this here but OP it sounds like you like the girl and you're talking yourself out of it
just give it a shot and date her, she probably wishes you'd try that. see what happens. stay a bit skeptical but you clearly don't want her with other people while being with you. so go exclusive and see if she's trustworthy.
maybe her past is a red flag. maybe she grew up since then? find out. otherwise you'll probably always wonder.
just give it a shot and date her, she probably wishes you'd try that. see what happens. stay a bit skeptical but you clearly don't want her with other people while being with you. so go exclusive and see if she's trustworthy.
maybe her past is a red flag. maybe she grew up since then? find out. otherwise you'll probably always wonder.
She also has not brought up the exclusivity talk at all
11-02-2022, 01:16 PM
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Take this from a guy that once lived a really similar situation to yours a while back.
Idk enough about this girl to say anything for certain but imo establish what you want because like others have said it sounds like you actually like this girl outside of the sex or enough to feel conflicted. If she's down to actually date/commit to more than what ya'll have going on rn than explore it and see where it goes. By the sounds of it though, if you really can't get past her sexual history and what sounds like her promiscuity/refusal to be locked down to one guy then do yourself a favor and remind yourself that you're on a rollercoaster at the amusement park. It's wild, it's fun but at some point you've gotta get off the ride/it will end, you say to yourself "that was fun, she was cool" and move on. It's your *car* that gets you home, not the rollercoaster. If that makes any sense. If she's the kinda girl that likes to circle around to/with a bunch of guys she's a joyride (just putting it plainly), not the dependable car that's gonna get you home. In which case, just ride it til the wheels come off and don't think of the arrangement as more than what it is no matter how cool you think she is. Because there could be like 5 other guys thinking the same thing you are. Out of respect for yourself and your own manhood you don't want any part of that sweepstakes. It's weak.
So no. As things stand, if the two of you are just FWB's then there's no need to lay down rules or overthink things.
Idk enough about this girl to say anything for certain but imo establish what you want because like others have said it sounds like you actually like this girl outside of the sex or enough to feel conflicted. If she's down to actually date/commit to more than what ya'll have going on rn than explore it and see where it goes. By the sounds of it though, if you really can't get past her sexual history and what sounds like her promiscuity/refusal to be locked down to one guy then do yourself a favor and remind yourself that you're on a rollercoaster at the amusement park. It's wild, it's fun but at some point you've gotta get off the ride/it will end, you say to yourself "that was fun, she was cool" and move on. It's your *car* that gets you home, not the rollercoaster. If that makes any sense. If she's the kinda girl that likes to circle around to/with a bunch of guys she's a joyride (just putting it plainly), not the dependable car that's gonna get you home. In which case, just ride it til the wheels come off and don't think of the arrangement as more than what it is no matter how cool you think she is. Because there could be like 5 other guys thinking the same thing you are. Out of respect for yourself and your own manhood you don't want any part of that sweepstakes. It's weak.
So no. As things stand, if the two of you are just FWB's then there's no need to lay down rules or overthink things.
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11-05-2022, 10:40 AM
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I was going to end it with her this weekend before the other guy comes to visit. But I found out that other guy cancelled the trip. It would've been better if she was the one who stopped the trip though.
I've been filling her mouth, face, and everywhere else with my cum in preparation for the guy's visit then was going to let her go. Since that other guy's visit was cancelled, I think I'll stick around a little bit longer and enjoy it.
I've been filling her mouth, face, and everywhere else with my cum in preparation for the guy's visit then was going to let her go. Since that other guy's visit was cancelled, I think I'll stick around a little bit longer and enjoy it.
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
You've got good sex and you enjoy her company... Why let her history get in the way? "Because I can meet a girl that gives me good sex, enjoy her company WITHOUT the history"... There's a reason she's good in bed. She doesn't **** well because she's read a lot of books.She's fun to hang out with but I don't think I can look past her history. A bit too much for me to consider as a life-long partner.
She also has not brought up the exclusivity talk at all
She also has not brought up the exclusivity talk at all
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This.You've got good sex and you enjoy her company... Why let her history get in the way? "Because I can meet a girl that gives me good sex, enjoy her company WITHOUT the history"... There's a reason she's good in bed. She doesn't **** well because she's read a lot of books.
Get over yourself, and grow up. You arent fooling anybody with how you how cool and distant you THINK you are being.
Everyone has a past, and it has helped shape them into the person they are today.
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11-11-2022, 12:27 AM
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Latest update is that I told her to let me know if she sleeps with anyone else so I can get out of the picture
I don't want to sleep with a girl who is sleeping with other dudes with her mouth guzzling cum
We are planning to go on a trip next month and I told her to let me know if she can keep this agreement until then. She's talking to the other guy so she said she isn't sure.
Best scenario would be that she doesn't meet the other guy until after our trip so we can go on the trip and I'll let her go afterwards. If she says she can't keep the agreement before the trip, then I'll see her right until that guy comes to visit then I'll end it with her. I do eventually need to end it with her and start focusing my time on someone who is LTR material so I'm fine either way.
On a positive note, I spent last night with her and she spent the night so she swallowed my cum 3 times as I prepare her for the other guy
I don't want to sleep with a girl who is sleeping with other dudes with her mouth guzzling cum
We are planning to go on a trip next month and I told her to let me know if she can keep this agreement until then. She's talking to the other guy so she said she isn't sure.
Best scenario would be that she doesn't meet the other guy until after our trip so we can go on the trip and I'll let her go afterwards. If she says she can't keep the agreement before the trip, then I'll see her right until that guy comes to visit then I'll end it with her. I do eventually need to end it with her and start focusing my time on someone who is LTR material so I'm fine either way.
On a positive note, I spent last night with her and she spent the night so she swallowed my cum 3 times as I prepare her for the other guy
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Originally Posted By sf813⏩
guy before you also cum on her face mouth and prepare for youLatest update is that I told her to let me know if she sleeps with anyone else so I can get out of the picture
I don't want to sleep with a girl who is sleeping with other dudes with her mouth guzzling cum
We are planning to go on a trip next month and I told her to let me know if she can keep this agreement until then. She's talking to the other guy so she said she isn't sure.
Best scenario would be that she doesn't meet the other guy until after our trip so we can go on the trip and I'll let her go afterwards. If she says she can't keep the agreement before the trip, then I'll see her right until that guy comes to visit then I'll end it with her. I do eventually need to end it with her and start focusing my time on someone who is LTR material so I'm fine either way.
On a positive note, I spent last night with her and she spent the night so she swallowed my cum 3 times as I prepare her for the other guy
I don't want to sleep with a girl who is sleeping with other dudes with her mouth guzzling cum
We are planning to go on a trip next month and I told her to let me know if she can keep this agreement until then. She's talking to the other guy so she said she isn't sure.
Best scenario would be that she doesn't meet the other guy until after our trip so we can go on the trip and I'll let her go afterwards. If she says she can't keep the agreement before the trip, then I'll see her right until that guy comes to visit then I'll end it with her. I do eventually need to end it with her and start focusing my time on someone who is LTR material so I'm fine either way.
On a positive note, I spent last night with her and she spent the night so she swallowed my cum 3 times as I prepare her for the other guy
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11-11-2022, 08:55 AM
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Originally Posted By yakuza233⏩
Of course, that's all girlsguy before you also cum on her face mouth and prepare for you
heheeheh you think you special
heheheh very dumb
heheeheh you think you special
heheheh very dumb
But no one was in the same timeframe as I dated her
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just so we make this clear
you are her FWB not the other way around chief
you are keeping her lubricated until chad arrives next month
you can taste his cum after he leaves
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you are her FWB not the other way around chief
you are keeping her lubricated until chad arrives next month
you can taste his cum after he leaves
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