I have a female coworker ( shes 23 beautiful 5'10 im 32 5'8 ) that im very attracted to , i dont know much about her personality but everytime i see her its like my heart starts racing , its never happened to me before . One night our shift ended later than usual and i ask her for a ride ( we live very close to eachother , 5 min of walking ) , she agreed and on our way home i was going to ask her out but she asked my why dont i drive , i told her that driving just isnt my thing , im an very active person , i walk 10km everyday + 2 hours of weighlifting , i took her question as a bad sign so i droped the ask her out plan .

I made up my mind that i should just mind my own business and not ask her out but another coworker that knows that i like her very much said that i shouldnt be discouraged about the driving thing and i should ask her out , i said no but said "dont worry i will do it for you" when she entered the room my coworker said "hey can you take JohnDoe with you on ur way home , hes too shy to ask" and she said "yes ofc , he can ask me anytime" , then my coworker said " see ? now you can ask her out for coffee " and she started giggling

On our way home we started talking about different things , she asked about my fasting program , how often do i eat , whats my schedule , stuff like that . I told her that the next day im gonna binge House of the Dragon and she said that game of thrones is her favorite tv show but she cant watch HoD because she doesnt have HBO go anymore . I was going to to tell her that i can give my account but in a couple of seconds we got at my place and i had to get out fast because there was alot of traffic

My cowoker said that i should ask her to come over at my place and watch HoD together because she most likely hinted that

Now here is the nitpicking part , im in a place in my life where im looking for a serious relationship and she has a couple minor things that i dont like , she vapes and when other cowokers ask her to share her vape she doesnt say no , she likes to rest her head on other guys's shoulder , she loves Temptation Island and i think its a show for idiots , some guys even slap her upper leg ( i think its called thigh i dont know english very much ) and it didnt bother her , very active on snapchat/instagram , like she can be hours on her phone

Are these valid red flags or minor things ?

Yup serious red flags bro.. dudes slapping her and chit.

Addicted to her phone.. Social media addict.

Bro I recently dumped my ex, she is 24 years old hot 🔥 Russian girl. She was addicted to social media.

I asked her not to use her phone at the dinner table, she went into a rage, combative, argumentive.

I told her to leave my house. Social media is an addiction to these chicks.

They will disrespect you for it.

I wouldn't take this one seriously

If they're serious to you then they're serious.

Nothing extremely out of the ordinary (especially for someone who is 23) but if being a touchy/feely type isn't something you can handle + vaping + maturity difference will probably equate to it not working out.

I think you are indeed nitpicking my man, sounds like a nice girl srs

the biggest red flag is probably the social media/on her phone

the vaping part is kinda on for you to decide

if she is touchy around other people, depends if it is something you can handle

but also lol @ having your coworker ask

You can make excuses by saying you want something serious and she's got a couple of "red flags" in your mind, but that's not what's going on here. You have feelings for her and you're acting beta as ****. You were going to ask her out and didn't, not because she's on her phone all the time (99% of 23 year olds) but because you thought she'd reject you. So the first step is being honest with yourself.

The truth is, as guys we don't know what a woman is like until you start getting closer. Maybe she's a vapid sloot, maybe she's just young, directionless, and needs a strong man to lead her. You just don't know. But it sounds like at the very least you had a chance with this chick, and maybe you still do. Protip, when a girl says she wants to watch a show and you have it, do not offer to share your account. Have her come over to your place and watch it with you. I don't know if this is trolling or if this really needs to be explained? If you're for real, good luck brah srs.

edit: I may have been overly harsh. On re-read I see you mentioned your English skills, they're good but may not paint the full picture.