The strange part is that I genuinely want a wife and kids. I like the idea of building a family, giving gifts, celebrating birthdays together, and having someone to grow old with. But when marriage or a relationship becomes real instead of hypothetical, I get overwhelmed with fear about losing my peace, making the wrong decision, or ending up in another painful situation.Right now I feel caught between two futures: staying single forever and grieving the family I'll never have, or getting married and constantly worrying that I'll regret it. Neither option feels peaceful.Has anyone else gone through this? Did you eventually realize it was anxiety talking, or did you decide marriage or family buidling just wasn't for you?

you've idealized the perfect situation in your mind...truth is neither situation is often perfect and it's kinda on you to let go of fantasy and be at peace with whatever

Try men.

thats haram

So is ur mum.

i really want to let go. I really do. But the thought having to grow old and die alone really depresses the hell out of me. Not having any kids and letting my bloodline also makes me super depressed. But having to deal with modern women also depresses the fuck out of me.

If you don't get to have a wife and children at all, then why work at all? Get on disability and videogamemax for the rest of your days. You arent obligated to cointribute to society in a positive way if it doesn't also benefit you the same way it does others.

Sounds peaceful as fuck. You're already there. Stay single gents.

i still have a purpose to chase. Staying inside and playing videogames is gonna amplify the problem in my head even more so.

extremely peaceful bro. No debt, no rent, no mortgage. Own my own car, have rental properties, a s six figure job, work life balance. I literally have it all except for a family.

Get a career and a dog. And more importantly slam some tight kunt. You were meant to spread seed. Stop being a sadkunt.

Just bc all the people you see that have a wife or gf right now doesn’t mean they’ll have one in 6 months. I’ve had a few friends that were married or with a long term gfs and acting so happy and talked all kinds of advice like they had made it and never had to worry again and wanted some magical thing of love happen to me and a buddy.

Lol most all got divorced or dumped and are in the same boat now.

have a great career already

Then shut the fuck up and get your dick wet buddy

i just want one child that can carry on my name and legacy. i dont care if the bitch stays or not.

lol savage bro.

I can't even get a female right now. Haven't even went on a date since Aug 26th, 2023....

All of this can be blamed on Zuckerberg and FB ruining Myspace.

Ok cool. You got that word sadkunt from Zyzz in his motivational video from 2012.. I remember that word from that video..

And that exact line that Zyzz says about being a sadkunt....

Try Mario

the "legacy" stuff is a delusion we somehow imagine will allow us to escape death.

i agree. I was out vacationing in Key West last week and thought struck me: Even if i have a child, what gaurantees my child will have a child and that child will be any good. Its all going to shit.

My boyfriend Peter and I have wild threesome sex with booze and cocaine till 5am in the hot tub every weekend

I will disregard that you're red.

I have some questions and some insight for you.

As someone who has had several girlfriends, I can tell you its nothing special, I luckily dodged the bullet of accidentaly having kids, my life would likely be a lot different now if I did, it wouldn't be all about me anymore if I did, I don't want that to change.

Sometimes I think maybe I would want kids when I'm so old I wouldn't care anymore when my life is at least stable, when I'm like 50 or something and find someone who is like 25, obviously a sloot that age probably wouldn't know what she wanted and I would just end up regretting it.

How old are you? Have you ever had sex or at least a girlfriend? You may be lamenting never having a girlfriend because you don't know the experience, its exhilirating at first having a new partner but when you have a girlfriend you can't just rot laying in your bed all day, and if you do get a girlfriend who is like that too shes probably a bum, you have to deal with idiots making moves on her and wondering if shes cheating on you as well, despite having several girlfriends I feel that those years were wasted that I spent with a girlfriend, in my youth I was concerned about chasing women and not making a good life for myself, my advice is forget women and get a good career so you can possibly retire at like 35 or 40 and then worry about a girlfriend.

i already have everything except a relationship and children. im 34 yo at this point

It's true. The only woman who will ever love you to the end of the earth and never give up on you no matter what if she's a decent woman is in fact your own mom.

These dudes talking all this bs came from good families of mom's and dad's married 40+ years where nobody just says "we need to talk I'm not happy and want a divorce" one day like their girls did. They wanted that and all that they saw around of their friends like they had recreated what those people's parents had done and watched theirs fail and are really messed up about it.

One is a medical doctor that dated a girl for 7 years long distance. He probably makes a million dollars a year running about 4 practices, bought a million dollar home on a lake, remodled it, built a double decker dock that cost 70k, paid for all of her law school studies. She was always long distance prior, but went through marriage counseling for a year with a priest, all she did was study, but one weekend he threw a lake day for a friend's bday. About 20 people. They cooked burgers after the day ended and he got everybody a burger. She never really let loose and liked to party or even get in the water. She jumped off the top deck of the deck and they were arm and arm face to face holding and kissing that day. On Father's Day the very next weekend she told him she needed to talk. "The spark is gone, I"m not in love with you anymore and haven't been even before I moved here. I just wanted to see after all this time if I could recreate it." He said please give me some reasons as to why and what can I do? She told him it was little things that really irk her about his ways and mannerisms and behavior that she was starting to resent but didn't want to bc he was a great husband, but "last weekend at that party you made sure everybody got a hamburger but you didn't make sure I had one.......and you know I love flowers...........you never buy me flowers." Ummmmm wtf??????

Luckily he had a solid prenup and she got nothing other than a car and her ring and even told him he built all that he did and never married him to try and take his money. When she moved here it only took 1 year for him to saying they had hit a rough patch. She immediately goes to law school in an apt he set her up in where she was gone about 4-5 nights a week just to not be around him. She then said she missed her family and didn't feel like she had built anything and that she didn't belong here long term and wanted to be with her family back in California. He told her he would sell his home, his business, everything and move there with her if it was what she wanted. She said no bc it wasn't what he wanted and he would probably resent her.

LOL yeah buddy. She met another dude in Law School. She last called him up 2 years later for financial advice bc she only had 2k left in savings. He told her sell the SUV and sell your ring and figure it out. He's still pretty messed up about it but dating some Brazilian chick that seems really cool and way cooler than she ever was.

Thank you for answering my questions.

NOT.

What do you mean how? Life does not guarantee you shit....you just deal with it. You put your numbers out there like a job application and whoever sticks will stick. Fuck the rest.

You want a better chance? get a passport to a country where tradition and family is the norm.

Gf is from my homeland and I'm NEVER going back to a westernized woman. Srs

All girls are lesbians or gold diggers that only want the top millionaires.

If this was the 90s or 00s you may get a girlfriend but now you can’t because all the girls are lesbians

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