I was 31 years old at the time of this story.

I was in my first year of business in my current profession, and this was when I worked in an office with other people and wasn't self employed working at home like I am today. It was a Friday, and I went out and got decently blitzed for happy hour at like 3pm with my coworker and his longtime girlfriend(who propositioned me for sex a few times, but that's not part of this story).

So after happy hour ends, everybody went home and I'm sitting outside of my house at like 6:00pm on a Friday with a BAC of like .13 and super horny and decided to fire up Tinder. This was 2016 Tinder, so back when it was still really good, and there was a 100% chance of having easy sex with someone after about 20 minutes of effort.

I started talking to this girl who was 22ish, and she lived about 45 minutes away. After about 15-20 minutes of messaging she was ready for action, so I decided to hop into my car and make the drive to her house. It was mostly highways and I was decently drunk(but not dangerously so), so I decided to have some fun with the drive. I had my BMW at the time, which was fast and fun to drive and I was mostly going somewhere between 100-120mph passing cars on the left and just having a great time on the highway.

There was a point in the drive where I slowed down and went into the right lane on the highway and was chilling at 85-90 for a bit, and all of a sudden I see this silver car barreling fast by me in the left lane going like 105 miles per hour and then the car got into the right lane right in front of me. I decided to pass this car on the left, and looked over and saw the silver car was driven by a solo super cute blonde girl who was probably like 20 or 21 years old and I got up to like 115mph and went over to the right lane, and then she would pass me and look over and smile, and we kept playing this game of passing each other for like 20 miles on the highway while going over 100mph for the entire time. She was having a great time, and I was having a great time. Eventually the blonde girl had to exit the highway, so I continued on my way to the Tinder girl's house and went and had one of my most forgettable smash experiences ever.

So about 5 days later, I'm back on Tinder messing around, and I get a new Match. It's a blonde girl who is a senior in college. We start chatting, and she says, "are you the guy that was racing me on the highway?" and of course I said yes. She was in her final year of college, and super sweet and definitely an A+ type of female in the perfect age gap at that time. As we talked more and tried to arrange meeting up, she eventually revealed that she was Catholic and had never had sex, and was saving herself for marriage. At the time I was just entering my Degen arc, and although I am also Catholic and she was exactly my type and like a 7.5/10 there's just no way I was willing to enter into a serious relationship with a girl who I couldn't have sex with. We chatted for a bit longer, but I think I started getting pushy about trying to get her to do a bunch of sexual stuff, and she got turned off and things eventually fizzled out.

So my question to the misc, did I make a massive fuckup by doing this? She was perfect in every way(except sex), and we had this great story about "how we met" by going 120 miles per hour on the highway for 20 minutes, and then she found me on Tinder the next week and was super into me. Would you have accepted the fact that she's a virgin and gone along with it in this situation?

OP are you sure this story is only 10 years old?

Mission Impossible 2 came out in 2000

It's probably better for you to keep your options for pu$$y open. I've tried being monogamous but I always relapse into polyamory. I can't imagine having to spend lots of time with a hot woman who is actually chill and a good personality but having to wait years to have sex with her. And I'd probably feel pretty bad about fxcking random sloots on the side until the wedding, which is what I would have to do.

On the other hand, if she was actually a virgin and untouched by BBC then she would be far less likely to cheat on you since she hasn't been exposed to that lifestyle. So if you could have survived celibacy and then monogamy, it could have been a good choice for you.

Yeah, it's a tough quandary. I'm sure you can at least get BJs and pretty much everything but sex from that type of girl before marriage, but was I really interested in that at the time? It's certainly a nice thought, but if she ends up being absolute shit at sex(which is likely, although the pussy is probably super tight) and I was in a position where I wanted to play the field some more, there's a 100% chance of me cheating on her at some point.

Regardless, I think if a girl knows you're the one, she should start giving out her pussy. And I think the reason I kinda pushed her boundaries was that I needed confirmation that if I'm going to commit to her I need her to break her boundaries for me. And that includes having sex before marriage.

That's the gamesmanship involved in dating. A lot of guys use it to psychologically dominate women and leave their mark on them even if it's not a permanent relationship. For example if a woman has never had anal if you break her in before any other guy then you have marked her and you own a part of her.

It's not as callous or primal with someone you actually care about, but a relationship necessitates compromise so like you said she has to be willing to break boundaries for her and vice versa. Not sure how long you two were talking but her refusal indicates one of three things:

1) She didn't think you are the one
2) She liked you but had reservations about your reliability and it was too early for her to be sure so she was testing you
3) She really liked you but wanted to be dominant and set boundaries for you from the get go

It was more than likely #2 but the last thing you want is to end up in a sexless relationship that leads to a marriage with a woman who is bad at sex and thinks she calls all the shots for you.