More and more I've found in the last few years, say the last five years or so.. People are increasingly uncivil and dare I say abusive towards single men. Like, let's say you are working on yourself, saving money, learning, growing etc, and waiting for the right girl.. it's like, people want you to hurry up.. like, oh you're taking too long, like it's a crime to be single. Why are people so nosy, why do they feel the need to concern themselves with the personal lives of others? Why don't people mind their own fucking business?

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Lol, I disagree. Being a single man is way less of a crime than its ever been right now.

I think most Boomers have essentially wised up to the fact that today's crop of females are absolutely horrible, and it's completely understandable to not be willing to participate.

they assume we're gay

and i think they're right

which why i always say with a bert stare " oh, i spend my all my money on prostitutes and drugs"

never hear from them again. love it.

right in the feels

That's the spirit!

Telling people you're working on yourself just begs questioning imo

I move in silence and if anybody asks, I tell such an absurd but straight faced lie that they know to not ask again; DFS

Being single and middle aged is GOAT.

Being a whole person without the incessant need for external validation is a super power.

Nowhere did I say "I tell people I'm working on myself"

and just to reiterate, I have never said that to anyone.

Am I working on myself? Of course I am..

I'm not doing too bad at all

Maybe that's why people are uncivil etc, some kind of jealousy. They see you making money, being happy, looking good, and not being in a rush to get into a relationship and it drives them crazy?

Perhaps

Yeah there are some deep seated survival instincts that drive subconscious psychology which manifests in that specific behavior.

It is a form of jealousy, not because of what a person has, but because they are comfortable displaying themselves authentically without relying on external validation.

There is a script everyone goes by. I know it, but I do not use it. Everyone, everywhere, is always validating everyone else. People will refrain from communicating what they know the truth to be, just to adhere to this unspoken societal contract. It can be as simple as an uncontrolled smile when you walk by someone, up to and including sacrificing every aspect of your own human nature to appease others.

They are not mad that you are confident, they are mad they are not. When they see you doing it, they see that is possible, but they haven’t given themselves permission to do it. They don’t understand they could, and they absolutely don’t want to do the difficult inner work it takes to reach that point, so they try to drag you down to their level.

It is emotional immaturely and it is probably the most significant limiting human trait, on the individual and collective levels.

Single, past 30 and a manlet, might as well rope.

Sadly this is what some people think

However at the end of the day, most people understand by 30, hopefully, that if you work on yourself, that is you train and try to be a better person every day, results do happen. And at 30 you still have A LOT of time to turn things around. There are people who turn things around at 50 and 60 years old, and they sure are glad they didn't give up.

That's not to say you are guaranteed to be successful if you keep plugging away, some people work all their life and wait for things to get better and they never do. You have to make the effort in the right places, for some, you really have to try hard, to push and figure everything out and get going

Workout, don't eat too much junk food, put in your 40 hours every week, and don't be too trusting of people. Over the course of time statistically things are gonna improve. Again, not a guarantee, you gotta find a way though somehow