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post 10000256303 07-12-2026, 10:47 AM
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Pros and cons from my weekend as a 41 yr old single man. Any feedback?

Cons

- Friday I went to a bday celebration after some guy invited me. It was extremely lame and almost no one showed up. It was just 4 people that showed and all kind of losers like me. I tried to invite a girl I know to come but she eventually bailed. Good thing she didn't come because it would've reflected badly on me if she saw how pathetic the group was.
- I got the number of a really cute girl on Friday night because the bday guy said something to her about going to an after-party, and made me exchange contact info with her so I gave her my number and IG. She seemed keen to meet up after the club when I texted her and she was asking for the address (we told her the after party would be at my place) but her and her friends eventually bailed. I texted her next day but she didn't reply.
- Due to some other guy who wanted to pick up girls, I spent the late hours 1-2am on Friday and Saturday night going along with him trying to pick up girls who are straddling out of clubs or walking on sidewalks. I was just going along with that guy who I can tell doesn't get girls. I felt pretty pathetic as a 41 yr old to be doing this, still at clubs, etc.
- Still no girl, no one to bring back to my place, no girl contacting me to meet

Pros

- ChatGPT recommended that I go out to any social event 2x times a week to meet more people/eventually some girls so I met this goal
- I went to a meetup event on Sat (sausagefest) and got numbers of all 4 girls who showed up. I'm trying to just make more friends especially with girls. I don't know if anything will come out of getting these numbers but still glad I asked for it. Kind of interested in 2 of them but again I'm ok with platonic female friends too.
- I barely spent any money all weekend going out as I stopped buying drinks and wasting money. I spent a total of $20 for Fri and Sat nights which was for food afterwards.
- Found possible new income streams as I met a guy who wants me to send him any leads for construction, solar installation, or anything home improvement related and he will pay me for any leads I send to him.
- I was made one of the organizers of a 17,000+ member meetup group. The guy told me that he makes $20K+/year side income by organizing meetup events so I'm thinking of coming up with an event and trying to host one. Plus, he said he meets a lot of women when he hosts an event.

Now I will go to work my Sunday shift at my weekend job then go grocery shopping and do house chores until another wageslave workweek starts
post 10000256307 07-12-2026, 10:51 AM
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that sounds awful. All that work and no poon? I rather just whoremax and gymmax.
post 10000256308 07-12-2026, 10:52 AM
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Originally Posted By imbored21
that sounds awful. All that work and no poon? I rather just whoremax and gymmax.
Agreed, it was awful

Best part of my weekend is probably working my weekend job because I feel productive and make money
post 10000256310 07-12-2026, 10:54 AM
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post 10000256311 07-12-2026, 10:55 AM
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Originally Posted By nevermadeit
Agreed, it was awful

Best part of my weekend is probably working my weekend job because I feel productive and make money
Did you talk about Netflix, vacation plans, and food? Man I hate hanging out with normies. I just want to get laid.
post 10000256312 07-12-2026, 10:55 AM
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It’s over.
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post 10000256313 07-12-2026, 10:56 AM
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Originally Posted By imbored21
Did you talk about Netflix, vacation plans, and food? Man I hate hanging out with normies. I just want to get laid.
Yea shit like that mostly. I was trying to be around the girls more because I'm interested in friendships with them as well.

I got 5 numbers from girls this weekend but not sure if anything will come out of this
post 10000256331 07-12-2026, 11:09 AM
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Attempting to satisfy the desire for women’s attention, or even actually satisfying the desire for women’s attention, only keeps you in a state of existence where you think you need women’s attention.

It is not nearly as valuable as you think it is, even if other simps are acting like it is.

You, and your experience however, are unimaginably valuable.

Throw the unnecessary survival instinct out the fucking window man. It is an obstacle.
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post 10000256336 07-12-2026, 11:12 AM
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Originally Posted By Ironmanlet
Attempting to satisfy the desire for women’s attention, or even actually satisfying the desire for women’s attention, only keeps you in a state of existence where you think you need women’s attention.

It is not nearly as valuable as you think it is, even if other simps are acting like it is.

You, and your experience however, are unimaginably valuable.

Throw the unnecessary survival instinct out the fucking window man. It is an obstacle.
This

I didn't do much this weekend, but yours sounds exponentially worse with your chase for something that doesn't really exist. Some day you will find a girlfriend and realize you are no better off.
post 10000256392 07-12-2026, 11:52 AM
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Lol at using chatgpt and even worse following its advice
post 10000256411 07-12-2026, 12:04 PM
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Did you have a decent time or were you miserable the entire time you were out? If it was decent to good and you didn't blow money that you don't have then I'd say that's a success. Going out to meet people/expand your social circle is a good thing to do. It's way better than dating apps.
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post 10000256468 07-12-2026, 12:31 PM
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post 10000256481 07-12-2026, 12:41 PM
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I stopped caring about "getting laid" as the one and only goal for socializing and nightlifemaxxing at like 20 op. There are lots of other things to enjoy while going out at night (having a laugh with friends, dancing, degenmaxing doing drugs, etc)
post 10000256507 07-12-2026, 01:03 PM
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What are your hobbies? I find it far more rewarding to find a friend group through hobbies, then you can find someone to date more naturally.

an event about meeting people is dumb imo. get a hobby

try paintball
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post 10000256521 07-12-2026, 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted By suave2000
I stopped caring about "getting laid" as the one and only goal for socializing and nightlifemaxxing at like 20 op. There are lots of other things to enjoy while going out at night (having a laugh with friends, dancing, degenmaxing doing drugs, etc)
I go to these social events to expand my social circle. Im trying to meet both guys and girls as friends. That’s why I asked for numbers from all 5 girls I met even though I’m slightly interested in only 2 of them. I talked to random guys as well to see if some lifemaxxing and moneymaxxing opportunities can happen.
post 10000256523 07-12-2026, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted By Legz422
Did you have a decent time or were you miserable the entire time you were out? If it was decent to good and you didn't blow money that you don't have then I'd say that's a success. Going out to meet people/expand your social circle is a good thing to do. It's way better than dating apps.
It was a decent time. I only spent $20 during the entire weekend at the clubs and hotel bar where the meetup happened. I met 5 new girls so hoping to be friends with some of them if they’re interested and expand my social circle.
post 10000256530 07-12-2026, 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted By Zere0wn
What are your hobbies? I find it far more rewarding to find a friend group through hobbies, then you can find someone to date more naturally.

an event about meeting people is dumb imo. get a hobby

try paintball
My hobbies are just going to the gym, traveling, and trying to learn a new language. Rest of my life revolves around trying to save as much money as possible to meet my financial goals I have/retire early, and dating.

Some of the girls I met this weekend mentioned bachata dancing they go to which is free on some nights so I might do that or go to language exchange opportunities for the language I’m interested in.
post 10000256532 07-12-2026, 01:24 PM
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no offense but you sound very needy, creepy, and socially and culturally awkward. what do you look like and where are you from?
post 10000256543 07-12-2026, 01:32 PM
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Originally Posted By nevermadeit
My hobbies are just going to the gym, traveling, and trying to learn a new language. Rest of my life revolves around trying to save as much money as possible to meet my financial goals I have/retire early, and dating.

Some of the girls I met this weekend mentioned bachata dancing they go to which is free on some nights so I might do that or go to language exchange opportunities for the language I’m interested in.
just my opinion but I think a real hobby would do wonders for you. you could also try to make friends through the gym but I don't think that's a great place for that
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post 10000256734 07-12-2026, 03:45 PM
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Originally Posted By nevermadeit
My hobbies are just going to the gym, traveling, and trying to learn a new language. Rest of my life revolves around trying to save as much money as possible to meet my financial goals I have/retire early, and dating.

Some of the girls I met this weekend mentioned bachata dancing they go to which is free on some nights so I might do that or go to language exchange opportunities for the language I’m interested in.
Latin dancing is a GREAT way to meet people. I would recommend paying for classes to start out. From what I remember it's not that expensive. Learn some basic stuff then go out to the local latin nights at bars. I did Salsa for about a year and 1/2 and did a couple Bachata lessons too. The latin nights around here were usually work nights so I didn't go to many of them. But if you don't mind staying up late on a work night def go. Lots of people to meet.

Originally Posted By GordonXXX
no offense but you sound very needy, creepy, and socially and culturally awkward. what do you look like and where are you from?
I dont think he sounds needy and creepy. He's just trying to get out there and meet people.
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Originally Posted By Legz422
Latin dancing is a GREAT way to meet people. I would recommend paying for classes to start out. From what I remember it's not that expensive. Learn some basic stuff then go out to the local latin nights at bars. I did Salsa for about a year and 1/2 and did a couple Bachata lessons too. The latin nights around here were usually work nights so I didn't go to many of them. But if you don't mind staying up late on a work night def go. Lots of people to meet.



I dont think he sounds needy and creepy. He's just trying to get out there and meet people.
This is your motherly instincts talking.
post 10000256755 07-12-2026, 03:53 PM
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People actually ask for numbers? I've gotten a girl's number like twice in my life, at least its 100% success rate I guess.
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post 10000256820 07-12-2026, 04:27 PM
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Originally Posted By johnvee73
People actually ask for numbers? I've gotten a girl's number like twice in my life, at least its 100% success rate I guess.
Yea people prefer numbers nowadays to text and have become more anti-social media
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Originally Posted By nevermadeit
Yea people prefer numbers nowadays to text and have become more anti-social media
Dear ChatGPT, what can I do to meet new people?

LMFAO

What do you think people did before ChatGPT and social media? They went out and met people.

The internet has made all you phaggots socially retarded and porn has taught you that women will fall all over you because you have a c0ck and all they want to do is suck it and get railed in the ass.

A heap of my mates all clowned on me in my 20s and 30s because I was out most weekends, banging sex starved divorcees or older frustrated married women just wanting dink - so long as they weren't heifers it was good practice - while they were engaged or married to awkward chicks from school or, worse, MySpace.

I was also one of the kids that spent lunch breaks at school outside playing sports, not inside the computer labs browing internet pages for dodgy porn or playing games.

All those clown friends are now either unhappily married and trapped with 2-4 kids, or they took the leap and divorced the wife and have share custody of their 2-4 kids and don't seem to realise that 20 year old blonde virgin unicorns aren't turned on by chubby 40+ years olds with an ex wife, kids and a child support bill every month on a less than 6 figure IT job but they are convinced they are the prize anyway and they buy into all the incel shit that exists out there. Meanwhile, I got no kids, settled down with a gf I love and set myself up financially before all of this.

tl;dr - you're a 41 year old socially retarded incel with few options that are decreasing every day - just go out in public and talk to people, lose that fear. Otherwise we'll see the same thread in 10 years about this shit when you're 51.
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post 10000257052 07-12-2026, 07:01 PM
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Originally Posted By LargePeter
Dear ChatGPT, what can I do to meet new people?

LMFAO

What do you think people did before ChatGPT and social media? They went out and met people.

The internet has made all you phaggots socially retarded and porn has taught you that women will fall all over you because you have a c0ck and all they want to do is suck it and get railed in the ass.

A heap of my mates all clowned on me in my 20s and 30s because I was out most weekends, banging sex starved divorcees or older frustrated married women just wanting dink - so long as they weren't heifers it was good practice - while they were engaged or married to awkward chicks from school or, worse, MySpace.

I was also one of the kids that spent lunch breaks at school outside playing sports, not inside the computer labs browing internet pages for dodgy porn or playing games.

All those clown friends are now either unhappily married and trapped with 2-4 kids, or they took the leap and divorced the wife and have share custody of their 2-4 kids and don't seem to realise that 20 year old blonde virgin unicorns aren't turned on by chubby 40+ years olds with an ex wife, kids and a child support bill every month on a less than 6 figure IT job but they are convinced they are the prize anyway and they buy into all the incel shit that exists out there. Meanwhile, I got no kids, settled down with a gf I love and set myself up financially before all of this.

tl;dr - you're a 41 year old socially retarded incel with few options that are decreasing every day - just go out in public and talk to people, lose that fear. Otherwise we'll see the same thread in 10 years about this shit when you're 51.
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