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post 1568637581 12-14-2018, 09:44 AM
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Breaking up after 3 years

Broke up with my gf of 3 years because she was my first girlfriend, and I wasn't able to commit to her fully without experiencing more in life.

But it hurts SO BADLY. A week after I broke up with her I have so many regrets. We have so many pictures together, so many amazing memories. She was my best friend, and my support. I was hers. I fked up near the end and told her she isn't worth fighting for. Now she's moving on for real.

I have no idea what to do. This was the first girl to show me love like that. My first relationship.I feel like I have this huge void in me now. From seeing somebody almost every day, sleeping together almost every night, to not seeing them at all. To them dissappearing in your life forever.

I'm completely distraught and I don't know what to do. We were trying to stay friends but I lashed out over txt drunk last night and now she blocked me too.

Crazy to think this girl was 150% devoted to me, called me her life partner, and I've pushed her away. Feels.


Open to any advice. Really need some love and help.

2019/09/05 UPDATE:

UPDATING YOU BRAHS like 9-10 months later

Everything is fine, I was overreacting, grieving my first loss. Feelsgoodman I got through it, as soon as I was like 4-5 months in I stopped caring so much, checking her profile, etc.

Actually met up w/ her in person to catch up like two months ago, got some closure. We got back on "friend" terms, though we don't speak. I've slept with like 6-7 girls since then, didn't care for it much. She now has a new man I think, and it feels good not caring at all about it.

On to other things now. Focusing on work and lifting again. My ex was beautiful, smart, but I'm happy we broke up. She's changed a lot since we broke up, I don't think we were a good fit. SHe was pretending to be the girl I wanted, not the girl she is (at least that's how I see it now)

THX FOR THE PREVIOUS ADVICE BRAHS WE ALL GON MAKE IT
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post 1568637781 12-14-2018, 09:47 AM
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you'll be fine. that's really all you need to know and hear right now.
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post 1568637831 12-14-2018, 09:47 AM
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Bruh to be honest this is the same thing most people on misc rage at women for. Breaking up for the arbitrary reason of needing to experience more life? LMFAO. Grass isn't always greener boyo, and some people learn the hard way. You got yourself a 1 way ticket to Regret City; Population:1 (srs)
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post 1568637861 12-14-2018, 09:47 AM
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I did the same because I thought I needed to know what other women would be like eventually, so I didn't want to waste our time any further.

I felt the same as you did for a few weeks..

Once you get your next gf, you'll realize that everyone is interchangeable. You will then also learn that you could've just stayed with your first gf because anyone else wouldn't have done better. But you had to make the experience or else you would've asked yourself your whole life..

keep moving boyo.
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if she was a virgin, you will never forgive yourself, srs, ive ****ed like 45 women, hooked up with 200+, its all bull**** and I would trade it all for the virgin wife quality girls I ran off.

if she wasn't, who cares about some used up whore!!
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Originally Posted By MrAWatts⏩
Bruh to be honest this is the same thing most people on misc rage at women for. Breaking up for the arbitrary reason of needing to experience more life? LMFAO. Grass isn't always greener boyo, and some people learn the hard way. You got yourself a 1 way ticket to Regret City; Population:1 (srs)
This is spot on. Too late now though. Gotta live with the consequences. I would delete her off all social media etc. Youre really gonna feel bad when she starts posting pics of her new Chad.

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post 1568638161 12-14-2018, 09:51 AM
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post 1568638261 12-14-2018, 09:51 AM
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Originally Posted By poolshark472⏩
you'll be fine. that's really all you need to know and hear right now.
Thank you. Seriously.
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I did the same because I thought I needed to know what other women would be like eventually, so I didn't want to waste our time any further.

I felt the same as you did for a few weeks..

Once you get your next gf, you'll realize that everyone is interchangeable. You will then also learn that you could've just stayed with your first gf because anyone else wouldn't have done better. But you had to make the experience or else you would've asked yourself your whole life..
Yeah, I didn't think it was fair to her when she was so devoted and I had thoughts of what other girls might be like. I didn't want to get married and still be thinking "what if". Now I need to make sure Im not stuck in a cycle of what if I stayed with her.

Hardest decision of my life so far tbh. I've never felt pain like this before. So much pain.
Originally Posted By Bracket199⏩
Before I provide advice - how old are you?
I turned 24 last week. On my birthday she came over and had bday sex and an amazing last day together. Then we broke up. Chit is killing me.

I cant believe I pushed her away brah
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post 1568638451 12-14-2018, 09:54 AM
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Originally Posted By martoch⏩
https://forum.obnoxiousbrutes.com/showt...post1568274461

Sorry brah - this comes in waves. I'm getting hit hard by it. She was my best friend... I have nobody to lean on. My guy friends arent supportive like this, we'd just drink and go out. I really need a place to vent.
Originally Posted By HouseOfISRAEL⏩
if she was a virgin, you will never forgive yourself, srs, ive ****ed like 45 women, hooked up with 200+, its all bull**** and I would trade it all for the virgin wife quality girls I ran off.

if she wasn't, who cares about some used up whore!!
She was not - but she was basically a virgin. She has all the qualities of a wife. Cleaned up after me, cooked me food, did my laundry, cared for me every night, was 100% loyal, amazing morals, big heart, etc.

I hope one day I find another.
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post 1568638691 12-14-2018, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted By Ampedlift⏩
Sorry brah - this comes in waves. I'm getting hit hard by it. She was my best friend... I have nobody to lean on. My guy friends arent supportive like this, we'd just drink and go out. I really need a place to vent.



She was not - but she was basically a virgin. She has all the qualities of a wife. Cleaned up after me, cooked me food, did my laundry, cared for me every night, was 100% loyal, amazing morals, big heart, etc.

I hope one day I find another.
You got out at the right time boyo.

Trust me (10 yr relationship that came to an end)...my situation was similar for first 7 years.

All younger girls eventually go through a phase and you beat her to it.

Time will heal it...as will other pzy.

Stay strong dude, sorry youre hurting.
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post 1568638711 12-14-2018, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted By Ampedlift⏩
Sorry brah - this comes in waves. I'm getting hit hard by it. She was my best friend... I have nobody to lean on. My guy friends arent supportive like this, we'd just drink and go out. I really need a place to vent.
Don't apologize, just stick to one thread so we can keep track of your tears.


Seriously though, my advice from the first thread still stands. Now take it and stop this pity party! It's FRIDAY!!! The weekend is your playground.
post 1568638731 12-14-2018, 09:56 AM
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post 1568638901 12-14-2018, 09:58 AM
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Originally Posted By MrAWatts⏩
Bruh to be honest this is the same thing most people on misc rage at women for. Breaking up for the arbitrary reason of needing to experience more life? LMFAO. Grass isn't always greener boyo, and some people learn the hard way. You got yourself a 1 way ticket to Regret City; Population:1 (srs)
This lol what life experiences are you looking for that she can't be a part of?

If that's your actual reason, you dun goofed, unless she was actively holding you back from doing those experiences, in which case you'll eventually move on and be fine.


Read some more of your responses. You'll be alright man. Once those thoughts start, enough to push you as far as it did, you gonna always be wondering what if and might even resent her for it despite it not being her fault.

Dwelling on the "what if" about her is purely up to you. You can either stay stuck in the past, or move on and find a new girl.
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You dun goofed.

If you can any girl with value she should be locked down in this age.

Enjoy your your worthless tinder skanks and STDs OP I hope it was worth it

Whats her number ill hit her up for a date sounds like a solid chick...
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Originally Posted By MrAWatts⏩
Bruh to be honest this is the same thing most people on misc rage at women for. Breaking up for the arbitrary reason of needing to experience more life? LMFAO. Grass isn't always greener boyo, and some people learn the hard way. You got yourself a 1 way ticket to Regret City; Population:1 (srs)
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OP sounds like a woman.
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Thank you for response.

You'll be in a cycle of regret just because it was a long-term relationship, and you gave a solid part of your life to her. 21 - 24 is definitely a time of growth: graduation through university, employment, moving out, etc.

It's hard to think about right now because she was your closest person (next to family) where you experienced that unconditional love - and now it's all gone. The feelings you get are completely normal - especially because it's your first GF for a long time.

Everyone will have those doubts, and its hard not to think about it when you haven't had much experience. Unfortunately for most miscers, they may be incels so for them it's harder to grasp having life experience for a better judgment.

The best advice you can get is honestly No Contact. It really is the simplest solution. Venting here is fine, but I guarantee you are still keeping tabs on her, and that's the worst thing. You'll still have temptation to go visit her profile, social media, etc. and that's fine...but it needs to become less and less. That's why the best thing to do is eliminate it altogether so you can make it easier.

You're still fairly young, and you'll bounce back np. You'll look back at this thread after a year and realize how funny it was you were acting. Once you start dating again, you'll realize that there's more out there for you.
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c'est la vie

three years is three years brother. it's not the end of the world. you'll both meet new people and get on with your lives. new relationships will follow same trajectory as this one did.. honeymoon phase is all the same. recycled QandA period, new set of "firsts" with another person. the older you get the more disenchanted you will become vesting so much time/interest into what inevitably becomes flavor of the week.

I'd say you held onto this ltr longer than necessary out of habit and naiveté. the odds you found your most compatible/best genetic choice for longterm partnership on first drop in bucket are pretty delusional. as cliche as it may sound don't lose hope. almost everybody just wants to love and be loved in return..

spend as much time as possible finding who you are/would like to become independent of anyone else. you'll figure out what you love and how to love yourself more as the years pass. god willing a person that compliments you well/vice versa will appear on your path back to creator.


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She would have done the same to you eventually.
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OP, you were supposed to find Chad before dumping your gf. It's like you know nothing about proper slootin'.
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