Log In

Your email is not your username

Register

If you were a member of the old Bodybuilding.com forums and would like to reuse your previous username, you can request it below. We use your email only for registration and do not store it. For more information, please see our Privacy Policy.

Confirm your email

A registration code was sent to your email. Enter it here.

Welcome

You have successfully setup your account.

Sign in

Quick Navigation Bottom Misc
Forum » What would you do? (first date)
  1. Results 1 to 30 of 52
  2. Page 1 of 2
  3. 1
  4. 2
  6. Last

Thread: What would you do? (first date)

post 1616832911 09-17-2020, 05:07 PM
-
#1
  1. naich
  1. naich
  3. Join Date: Nov 2011
  4. Posts: 17,175
  5. Subscribers: 3
  6. Rep Power: 127253

What would you do? (first date)

Friday night dinner date plans and she asks where we are going. I tell her a restaurant name with average entree price ($25). She says "ok, we could go there or go to this place". "This place" has an average entree price of $54 and the cheapest drink is a $9 beer. LMAO how do i smoothly break this whole thing off?

Also we go to the same gym, so there will be future contact.
**Florida Crew**
**Waiting for National Guard Bus Ride to Labor Camp Crew**
post 1616833041 09-17-2020, 05:09 PM
-
#2
  1. Antoine99
  2. Registered User
  1. Antoine99
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Mar 2013
  4. Age: 35
  5. Posts: 14,302
  6. Rep Power: 82218
Fake your death to get out of the date, get massive plastic surgery and completely change your appearance so she doesn't recognize you at the gym, then buy a new car so she doesn't recognize your car, then get a new cell phone number.
Would kick em in the nuts
post 1616833131 09-17-2020, 05:10 PM
-
#3
  1. SteezNuts
  2. Registered User
  1. SteezNuts
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Feb 2010
  4. Age: 38
  5. Posts: 562
  6. Rep Power: 665
Tell her you got coupons for Wendy's (srs, works every time)

But why don't you have a place in mind already? Would have prevented this chit from happening
post 1616833151 09-17-2020, 05:10 PM
-
#4
  1. naich
  1. naich
  3. Join Date: Nov 2011
  4. Posts: 17,175
  5. Subscribers: 3
  6. Rep Power: 127253
Originally Posted By Antoine99⏩
Fake your death to get out of the date, get massive plastic surgery and completely change your appearance so she doesn't recognize you at the gym, then buy a new car so she doesn't recognize your car, then get a new cell phone number.
Surely that will be less expensive than an overpriced dinner.
**Florida Crew**
**Waiting for National Guard Bus Ride to Labor Camp Crew**
post 1616833181 09-17-2020, 05:10 PM
-
#5
  1. Madvillainy
  2. Registered User
  1. Madvillainy
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Apr 2012
  4. Posts: 17,866
  5. Rep Power: 62491
tell her if you go to the $50 place the bill is on her, but if you go to the $25 place, you would be open to splitting it
Official Misc Straight Crew (90% straight and up)
post 1616833201 09-17-2020, 05:10 PM
-
#6
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  3. Join Date: Jun 2012
  4. Location: New Jersey, United States
  5. Age: 33
  6. Height: 6'1"
  7. Weight: 220 lbs
  8. Posts: 38,431
  9. Subscribers: 4
  10. Rep Power: 411438
"i'm not interested in spending $ like that on a first date unless you're splitting the bill with me" the brutal honesty will either offend her and your Friday night just opened up or she'll appreciate it
*Forever Alone Crew*
*Neg FireofAss Crew on SIGHT Crew*
post 1616833231 09-17-2020, 05:11 PM
-
#7
  1. naich
  1. naich
  3. Join Date: Nov 2011
  4. Posts: 17,175
  5. Subscribers: 3
  6. Rep Power: 127253
Originally Posted By SteezNuts⏩
Tell her you got coupons for Wendy's (srs, works every time)

But why don't you have a place in mind already? Would have prevented this chit from happening
Powerful reading comprehension. When she asked I told her where we were going. She then countered with a "recommendation".
**Florida Crew**
**Waiting for National Guard Bus Ride to Labor Camp Crew**
post 1616833251 09-17-2020, 05:11 PM
-
#8
  1. Antoine99
  2. Registered User
  1. Antoine99
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Mar 2013
  4. Age: 35
  5. Posts: 14,302
  6. Rep Power: 82218
Originally Posted By naich⏩
Surely that will be less expensive than an overpriced dinner.
Go to a back-alley cosmetic surgeon, and steal the car.
Would kick em in the nuts
post 1616833291 09-17-2020, 05:11 PM
-
#9
  1. AshWar
  2. Registered User
  1. AshWar
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Sep 2013
  4. Posts: 31,092
  5. Rep Power: 483561
Invite her to your place for drinks (srs)
post 1616833421 09-17-2020, 05:13 PM
-
#10
  1. SteezNuts
  2. Registered User
  1. SteezNuts
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Feb 2010
  4. Age: 38
  5. Posts: 562
  6. Rep Power: 665
Originally Posted By naich⏩
Powerful reading comprehension. When she asked I told her where we were going. She then countered with a "recommendation".
Oh I missed that

carry on
post 1616833491 09-17-2020, 05:14 PM
-
#11
  1. naich
  1. naich
  3. Join Date: Nov 2011
  4. Posts: 17,175
  5. Subscribers: 3
  6. Rep Power: 127253
Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
"i'm not interested in spending $ like that on a first date unless you're splitting the bill with me" the brutal honesty will either offend her and your Friday night just opened up or she'll appreciate it
Heres the thing. I am so offended that she would ask to go to an overly expensive restaurant knowing Ill pay, that i want to end the whole relationship. No compromise.
**Florida Crew**
**Waiting for National Guard Bus Ride to Labor Camp Crew**
post 1616833621 09-17-2020, 05:15 PM
-
#12
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  3. Join Date: Jun 2012
  4. Location: New Jersey, United States
  5. Age: 33
  6. Height: 6'1"
  7. Weight: 220 lbs
  8. Posts: 38,431
  9. Subscribers: 4
  10. Rep Power: 411438
Originally Posted By naich⏩
Heres the thing. I am so offended that she would ask to go to an overly expensive restaurant knowing Ill pay, that i want to end the whole relationship. No compromise.
well before you jump the gun are you positive she has no intent of paying her own way?
*Forever Alone Crew*
*Neg FireofAss Crew on SIGHT Crew*
post 1616833681 09-17-2020, 05:16 PM
-
#13
  1. homers54321
  2. Registered User
  1. homers54321
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Sep 2009
  4. Age: 42
  5. Posts: 4,778
  6. Rep Power: 34155
Originally Posted By naich⏩
Heres the thing. I am so offended that she would ask to go to an overly expensive restaurant knowing Ill pay, that i want to end the whole relationship. No compromise.
Why does she assume you'll be paying
post 1616833781 09-17-2020, 05:17 PM
-
#14
  1. BestLifter
  2. Banned
  1. BestLifter
  2. Banned
  3. Join Date: Jun 2018
  4. Age: 56
  5. Posts: 4,921
  6. Rep Power: 0
just be honest

"sry I'm poor haha"
post 1616833881 09-17-2020, 05:18 PM
-
#15
  1. Merc009
  2. Broscience Engineer
  1. Merc009
  2. Broscience Engineer
  3. Join Date: May 2011
  4. Location: Boise, Idaho, United States
  5. Age: 33
  6. Posts: 18,007
  7. Rep Power: 31601
Ask her if the $54 place also includes a blow job
-Some people say good things come to those who wait, truth is, good things come to those who work..... who work later.....who work harder...... who are willing to go further than anyone else to get them. If you're waiting for good things to come to you, you'll be waiting for a pretty long time.

-I'd rather live life saying "I failed" than "I could have"
post 1616833941 09-17-2020, 05:18 PM
-
#16
  1. Imnew1
  1. Imnew1
  3. Join Date: May 2017
  4. Age: 42
  5. Posts: 2,534
  6. Rep Power: 19908
You should be going for drinks on a first date just to see if you even like her vs blowing unnecessary money on feeding her while you're at it. If you like her, then suggest grabbing an appetizer or some food where you're at.

Men are supposed to lead vs letting women make the decision, especially on a first date. So tell her where you want to take her and if she's not down then bail without any care whatsoever. She should be excited about meeting you and wants to go anywhere just to be with you. Not her picking some $150+ tab for a first date. I would guess that she does this to a lot of men who don't man up and take the lead.
post 1616833961 09-17-2020, 05:18 PM
-
#17
  1. GrimRep_er
  2. The Dark Man
  1. GrimRep_er
  2. The Dark Man
  3. Join Date: Feb 2008
  4. Location: New Jersey, United States
  5. Posts: 11,736
  6. Rep Power: 89534
Take her to a local dive bar. Get a few beers and share an order of poppers from the kitchen.
USMC 95-2000

Do or do not, their is no try! (I made this up myself)
post 1616834061 09-17-2020, 05:19 PM
-
#18
  1. naich
  1. naich
  3. Join Date: Nov 2011
  4. Posts: 17,175
  5. Subscribers: 3
  6. Rep Power: 127253
Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
well before you jump the gun are you positive she has no intent of paying her own way?
Originally Posted By homers54321⏩
Why does she assume you'll be paying
I invited her out to dinner. If you invite, you pay. Also the guy pays on the first date, what world is everyone living in? Any dates beyond that is up for discussion.

What i am asking is ways to cancel knowing ill see her in the squat rack next to me in a week.
**Florida Crew**
**Waiting for National Guard Bus Ride to Labor Camp Crew**
post 1616834181 09-17-2020, 05:21 PM
-
#19
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  3. Join Date: Jun 2012
  4. Location: New Jersey, United States
  5. Age: 33
  6. Height: 6'1"
  7. Weight: 220 lbs
  8. Posts: 38,431
  9. Subscribers: 4
  10. Rep Power: 411438
Originally Posted By naich⏩
I invited her out to dinner. If you invite, you pay. Also the guy pays on the first date, what world is everyone living in? Any dates beyond that is up for discussion.

What i am asking is ways to cancel knowing ill see her in the squat rack next to me in a week.
i would agree with the inviting her out there may be some obligation on you to pay. just etiquette. but i really don't think an expensive restaurant is an ideal first date with a girl you're not even sure you like either lol
*Forever Alone Crew*
*Neg FireofAss Crew on SIGHT Crew*
post 1616834361 09-17-2020, 05:24 PM
-
#20
  1. donblaximus
  2. Registered User
  1. donblaximus
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Jul 2010
  4. Age: 50
  5. Posts: 12,396
  6. Rep Power: 70954
Originally Posted By naich⏩
I invited her out to dinner. If you invite, you pay. Also the guy pays on the first date, what world is everyone living in? Any dates beyond that is up for discussion.

What i am asking is ways to cancel knowing ill see her in the squat rack next to me in a week.
So just tell her "hey yo, great suggestion but that place is a bit stuffy for a first date no? Lets just go chill and get to know each other"

Something like that. How she reacts to that will tell you what you need to know.
post 1616834501 09-17-2020, 05:26 PM
-
#21
  1. Austanian
  2. IDDQD
  1. Austanian
  2. IDDQD
  3. Join Date: Jul 2009
  4. Location: Coeur D Alene, Idaho, United States
  5. Posts: 22,120
  6. Rep Power: 89692
Originally Posted By naich⏩
I invited her out to dinner. If you invite, you pay. Also the guy pays on the first date, what world is everyone living in? Any dates beyond that is up for discussion.

What i am asking is ways to cancel knowing ill see her in the squat rack next to me in a week.
Don't be a b*tch...

You don't know if she is just milking you for an expensive dinner or not. You asked her and were going to take her to X. She said I want to go to Y.


"Nothing personal, but I don't spend that amount of money on a first date. If you want to split the bill that is something we can do." Is a perfectly valid excuse.

Beyond that you just discovered if she was a gold digger upfront. Not bad.
post 1616834541 09-17-2020, 05:26 PM
-
#22
  1. homers54321
  2. Registered User
  1. homers54321
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Sep 2009
  4. Age: 42
  5. Posts: 4,778
  6. Rep Power: 34155
Originally Posted By naich⏩
I invited her out to dinner. If you invite, you pay. Also the guy pays on the first date, what world is everyone living in? Any dates beyond that is up for discussion.

What i am asking is ways to cancel knowing ill see her in the squat rack next to me in a week.
Tell her you got the rona. Wear shades and a hat when you go to the gym indefinitely
post 1616834711 09-17-2020, 05:28 PM
-
#23
  1. billclintonnn
  2. Registered User
  1. billclintonnn
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Jun 2013
  4. Posts: 4,628
  5. Rep Power: 30017
Tell her you’re into men. Works 100% of the time.
I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Miss Lewinsky. I never told anybody to lie, not a single time; never. These allegations are false. And I need to go back to work for the American people. Thank you.
post 1616834731 09-17-2020, 05:29 PM
-
#24
  1. naich
  1. naich
  3. Join Date: Nov 2011
  4. Posts: 17,175
  5. Subscribers: 3
  6. Rep Power: 127253
Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
i would agree with the inviting her out there may be some obligation on you to pay. just etiquette. but i really don't think an expensive restaurant is an ideal first date with a girl you're not even sure you like either lol
Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
So just tell her "hey yo, great suggestion but that place is a bit stuffy for a first date no? Lets just go chill and get to know each other"

Something like that. How she reacts to that will tell you what you need to know.
Originally Posted By Austanian⏩
Don't be a b*tch...

You don't know if she is just milking you for an expensive dinner or not. You asked her and were going to take her to X. She said I want to go to Y.


"Nothing personal, but I don't spend that amount of money on a first date. If you want to split the bill that is something we can do." Is a perfectly valid excuse.

Beyond that you just discovered if she was a gold digger upfront. Not bad.
Great suggestions, except I am no longer attracted her after she recommended this place. Not interested in dinner anymore, interested is ways to say im not interested.
**Florida Crew**
**Waiting for National Guard Bus Ride to Labor Camp Crew**
post 1616834931 09-17-2020, 05:32 PM
-
#25
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  1. DrugsToGetBig
  2. So it begins
  3. Join Date: Jun 2012
  4. Location: New Jersey, United States
  5. Age: 33
  6. Height: 6'1"
  7. Weight: 220 lbs
  8. Posts: 38,431
  9. Subscribers: 4
  10. Rep Power: 411438
Originally Posted By naich⏩
Great suggestions, except I am no longer attracted her after she recommended this place. Not interested in dinner anymore, interested is ways to say im not interested.
just tell her straight up! don't be aggressive or mean just be honest
*Forever Alone Crew*
*Neg FireofAss Crew on SIGHT Crew*
post 1616835021 09-17-2020, 05:33 PM
-
#26
  1. Antoine99
  2. Registered User
  1. Antoine99
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Mar 2013
  4. Age: 35
  5. Posts: 14,302
  6. Rep Power: 82218
Originally Posted By naich⏩
Great suggestions, except I am no longer attracted her after she recommended this place. Not interested in dinner anymore, interested is ways to say im not interested.
It might have actually been a harmless suggestion though
Would kick em in the nuts
post 1616835031 09-17-2020, 05:33 PM
-
#27
  1. Fozzy13
  2. unregistered user
  1. Fozzy13
  2. unregistered user
  3. Join Date: Jan 2007
  4. Posts: 38,659
  5. Rep Power: 41514
More info needed..

was the palce you recommended italian and she recommended another italian spot?

Or does she just want to eat a different type of food?
n4l
Rayaarito
fappin
r32gojirra
post 1616835181 09-17-2020, 05:36 PM
-
#28
  1. bretfarve24
  2. Registered User
  1. bretfarve24
  2. Registered User
  3. Join Date: Jun 2012
  4. Posts: 611
  5. Rep Power: 342
ask her why she suggested that place or say you arent into that type of food
or just ghost her and tell her your phone got stolen
post 1616835191 09-17-2020, 05:36 PM
-
#29
  1. KathleenRyan
  2. lol
  1. KathleenRyan
  2. lol
  3. Join Date: Jun 2017
  4. Posts: 4,576
  5. Rep Power: 33569
Originally Posted By naich⏩
Heres the thing. I am so offended that she would ask to go to an overly expensive restaurant knowing Ill pay, that i want to end the whole relationship. No compromise.
Ok, so say this, srs -

"Thanks for the suggestion, but I actually think it's best if we cancel our date. I don't think the compatibility is there."

EZ
drvillain PM's mods to do his bidding - CONFIRMED.
post 1616835261 09-17-2020, 05:38 PM
-
#30
  1. MustardTiger17
  1. MustardTiger17
  3. Join Date: Dec 2012
  4. Location: United States
  5. Posts: 38,603
  6. Subscribers: 7
  7. Rep Power: 238919
First date is always either coffee or drinks m8
Not in the AM
  1. Page 1 of 2
  2. 1
  3. 2
  5. Last
Quick Navigation Top Misc
Bookmarks
Digg.com
Digg
del.icio.us
del.icio.us
Stumbleupon.com
StumbleUpon
Google.com
Google
Facebook.com
Facebook
Posting Permissions
  1. You may not post new threads
  2. You may not post replies
  3. You may not post attachments
  4. You may not edit your posts