What’s the longest you’ve been in a casual thing with someone where you fuk every couple of months but other than that don’t talk?

Girl I know invited me over for Christmas Eve to “play house” this year. Which basically means I come over, she cooks dinner, we have a civilized evening together before getting feral in the bedroom and then I leave the next day and act like nothing happened until a month or two later when she wants a repeat. I realized this has been going on for 6 years now.

I also realized there’s 3 other women that have been doing something generally similar to me for almost as long, however the breaks have been longer. One girl hits me up every 9 months or so, we go on a weekend sex and alcohol bender, and then don’t hear from her for close to a year. Occasionally we’ll string a few weekends together, but inevitably she goes silent and stops hitting me up only to repeat it some random time down the road.

The other two basically the same thing, zero contact and then randomly they’ll ask me if I can pack a weekend bag and come over. Usually they’re celebrating something or just got out of a breakup.

All of these women are in their mid 30’s to 42 at the oldest. Yoga/gym maxxing, very successful (2 have a Maserati, 1 has a Bentley GT3R other has a newer Ferrari, etc., other two women are high level professionals but not car maxxing).

Is this normal? Kind of feels like successful, attractive women prefer to keep younger guys as Dick on Demand that they know won’t interfere with their professional/social/family lives, rather than seriously looking for a partner.

I've been casually banging your mom for 32 years.

When I was going through divorce with my first wife I started seeing this chick who was living in Chicago. She would fly out and meet up with me for a weekend here and there. Once she sent me a roundtrip plane ticket in the mail and I flew out there. We talked sometimes otherwise but it was strictly casual and fun. That lasted for about 4 years until I met my current wife. I told her plainly that I was getting serious with someone and wasn't going to see her anymore, that was 14 years ago. Haven't talked to her or heard from her since.

I think it depends on frequency. If you see once a week it's almost impossible to keep casual longer than 6 months.

I have a hotwife that I see and bang with her husband watching, only about once every three months. She's smoking hot, 50 with a killer body and blonde hair. Also loves to be tied up and BDSM stuff so the sex is amazing. Been going on two years now.

But in between it is zero contact, then randomly I'll get a message on a Wednesday that they want to hook up with me Friday. Of course, I always clear my calendar.