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post 1637947893 05-06-2021, 07:06 PM
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Am I a prick for not wanting to deal with this girl?

Matched a girl on Tinder, went out and had a really good date. Walked her back to her car after a good 4 hours or so, heavy making out etc, I let her go home.

Today we went out on another date, I tried to smoothly invite myself back to her apartment. No dice. Same kissing touching and all that jazz, at this point I know something is up. I text her, she sends a sexy pic (bait) and I’m a few beers deep after I got home so I just lay it on her and ask what’s up. She goes, “are you expecting the third date to be the one where we have sex” and I was like honestly I was expecting today but hey whatever. It’s cool....

She then replies that she was raped. Now I’m full stop, put on the brakes and realize I just wasted 4 days of my time. I told her I was sorry if that happened to her, but I’m just not equipped to deal with it, and wished her the best.

Maybe this makes me an ******* but that’s the one thing that if a woman says that to me, I immediately lose interest because number one, I don’t know if it’s even true, and if it is, she’s obviously extremely damaged and most likely not in a good place to be dating. So I told her good luck but damn. Am I a prick?
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Not a prick boyo. What are you supposed to do, date her out of sympathy? Also gotta watch out for yourself these days unfortunately, never know if you might be the subject of the next story she spins for the next guy.
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Originally Posted By FastBack6⏩
Matched a girl on Tinder, went out and had a really good date. Walked her back to her car after a good 4 hours or so, heavy making out etc, I let her go home.

Today we went out on another date, I tried to smoothly invite myself back to her apartment. No dice. Same kissing touching and all that jazz, at this point I know something is up. I text her, she sends a sexy pic (bait) and I’m a few beers deep after I got home so I just lay it on her and ask what’s up. She goes, “are you expecting the third date to be the one where we have sex” and I was like honestly I was expecting today but hey whatever. It’s cool....

She then replies that she was raped. Now I’m full stop, put on the brakes and realize I just wasted 4 days of my time. I told her I was sorry if that happened to her, but I’m just not equipped to deal with it, and wished her the best.

Maybe this makes me an ******* but that’s the one thing that if a woman says that to me, I immediately lose interest because number one, I don’t know if it’s even true, and if it is, she’s obviously extremely damaged and most likely not in a good place to be dating. So I told her good luck but damn. Am I a prick?
you did the right thing. i once had a tinder date come straight over to my place, and while my dick is in her mouth, tell me her boyfriend was abusive towards her. instantly lost my wood and she left. lol.
post 1637948273 05-06-2021, 07:10 PM
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Originally Posted By Archangel_Lost⏩
Not a prick boyo. What are you supposed to do, date her out of sympathy? Also gotta watch out for yourself these days unfortunately, never know if you might be the subject of the next story she spins for the next guy.
That’s my fear. I always save and back up all of the convos I’ve had with them after the fact when they say this stuff because who knows...
post 1637948403 05-06-2021, 07:13 PM
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na if i was shot and had major mental issues and some girl bounced because of that id understand 100%. i would tell you to chill with the i expect sex on the second date though youre gonna get burnt publicizing that to women eventually, even if you back up those conversations you gotta be slicker than that.
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post 1637948473 05-06-2021, 07:14 PM
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post 1637950043 05-06-2021, 07:36 PM
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Originally Posted By DrugsToGetBig⏩
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I’m not gonna post 4 days worth of text messages. Just the usual. Talk a big game with me, tell me how hot I am and what she wants to do, drop some suggestive photos; and then when the rubber meets the road and we’re face to face she gets standoffish, and “tired” after kissing and hanging out for a while . Then me basically calling her out because I’ve got other irons in the fire and don’t give AF, and her dropping the rape bomb. You know, typical 2021 Tinder woman drama.
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Good move. DOn't mess with that even if she invites you to proceed into her pantaloons after a night of alcohol consumption a few days from now
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post 1637950483 05-06-2021, 07:42 PM
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Good job dave man

"I was raped"

"I do drugs"

"My father is X or did Y (negative things)"

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It's possible she made some poor choices as a teenager, put herself in a bad situation where she was taken advantage of so now she is more careful with who she fks.

Of course if you were Chad you'd have been in on the first date but that's neither here nor there.
post 1637951053 05-06-2021, 07:50 PM
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Originally Posted By EndofGame⏩
Good job dave man

"I was raped"

"I do drugs"

"My father is X or did Y (negative things)"

Like are there any normal people anymore? I feel like the most boring fuker on earth compared to most of these people I meet. I have absolutely 0 drama and baggage.
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You did the right thing. Did she text back and shame you?

You are wrong however for not posting pics fgt
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post 1637951323 05-06-2021, 07:55 PM
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Originally Posted By FastBack6⏩
Like are there any normal people anymore? I feel like the most boring fuker on earth compared to most of these people I meet. I have absolutely 0 drama and baggage.
You're saying that like it's a bad thing?
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Great call. Why even go on dates if you're still internally dealing with being a rape victim.
Jeez.
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Originally Posted By EndofGame⏩
You're saying that like it's a bad thing?
No but I haven’t met a woman with a normal BMI and no baggage since I was in high school. It’s insane.
post 1637951623 05-06-2021, 07:59 PM
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Originally Posted By gwg77⏩
That really isn't something she should be telling you via text message. Very personal to just float on a text message. You didn't happen to pay for her meal on both dates?
Food and drinks first date, free outdoor activity second date
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Originally Posted By FastBack6⏩
No but I haven’t met a woman with a normal BMI and no baggage since I was in high school. It’s insane.
Well you are meeting girls off tinder lol? In my experience most garbage women end up on tinder because no other men want them. Also in my experience - just not worth dealing with women who have major issues.
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Originally Posted By EndofGame⏩
Well you are meeting girls off tinder lol? In my experience most garbage women end up on tinder because no other men want them. Also in my experience - just not worth dealing with women who have major issues.
That’s most likely my main problem. The other problem is that working 55 hour weeks, I don’t really have the time to hang at the bars like I did in college. I’m going to have to change it up. My fear is that I’ll just meet the same type of women in person. This girl had a smoking body and is at least a 7 in the face, but yea if she was all that she wouldn’t need an app to meet men.
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Originally Posted By FastBack6⏩
That’s most likely my main problem. The other problem is that working 55 hour weeks, I don’t really have the time to hang at the bars like I did in college. I’m going to have to change it up. My fear is that I’ll just meet the same type of women in person. This girl had a smoking body and is at least a 7 in the face, but yea if she was all that she wouldn’t need an app to meet men.
Exactly brah, women on tinder doesn't even make sense (srs)

An attractive, smart, educated, social women would have many men hitting on her in her social groups/work or her day to day life.
So when a women is on tinder it is a red flag in itself.
Unless they just got out of a relationship and trying something new OR she's young (e.g. 21) and just looking for fun.

I've had tinder for years and i've seen women I matched with 3-4 years ago STILL on tinder. In 3-4 years think of all the dates and guys they've ****ed and still.. SINGLE .. on tinder. LOL.
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Originally Posted By EndofGame⏩
Well you are meeting girls off tinder lol? In my experience most garbage women end up on tinder because no other men want them. Also in my experience - just not worth dealing with women who have major issues.
Where do you meet women at, red?
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Originally Posted By Droopdx⏩
Where do you meet women at, red?
You can still meet women off tinder but obviously be weary you're dealing with trash..
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No lol

Been there, waste of time. Don't give her sympathy and act like you don't care. If you want to smash act like an *******.

Listen, no matter how nice you are to her its not going to change anything....
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Originally Posted By WishIWasJawBrah⏩
No lol

Been there, waste of time. Don't give her sympathy and act like you don't care. If you want to smash act like an *******.

Listen, no matter how nice you are to her its not going to change anything....
yea this is what i realised with damaged girls/girls with issues it doesn't matter what you do they need to get a psychologist to get fixed. No amount of love or 'trying to fix them' will work. Leave them for the betas.
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Originally Posted By FastBack6⏩
Matched a girl on Tinder, went out and had a really good date. Walked her back to her car after a good 4 hours or so, heavy making out etc, I let her go home.

Today we went out on another date, I tried to smoothly invite myself back to her apartment. No dice. Same kissing touching and all that jazz, at this point I know something is up. I text her, she sends a sexy pic (bait) and I’m a few beers deep after I got home so I just lay it on her and ask what’s up. She goes, “are you expecting the third date to be the one where we have sex” and I was like honestly I was expecting today but hey whatever. It’s cool....

She then replies that she was raped. Now I’m full stop, put on the brakes and realize I just wasted 4 days of my time. I told her I was sorry if that happened to her, but I’m just not equipped to deal with it, and wished her the best.

Maybe this makes me an ******* but that’s the one thing that if a woman says that to me, I immediately lose interest because number one, I don’t know if it’s even true, and if it is, she’s obviously extremely damaged and most likely not in a good place to be dating. So I told her good luck but damn. Am I a prick?
Risk dating her, she might love you, and you don't (even) sound unthoughtful.
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You’re never a prick for not wanting to deal withanygirl.
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way to dodge that on OP...
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If she brings up rape on the second date run. She's cuckoo. You probably remind her of her pump n dumper aka rapist and she's going to put a charge on you too.
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I've cancelled some crazy girls from my life too OP, only I had let them get further with me for longer chunks of time than I should've. Would've been a waste and you know it OP.
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