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post 1641960523 07-01-2021, 07:55 AM
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What exactly is "hanging out" for women?

Basically Ive been chatting to this girl in her late 20's and I was planning to ask her out
Then she seemed to be kind of closing the conversation by saying "goodluck with bla bla"
So I read it as a sign that she wasnt really wanting to meet up or keep the conversation up
But after I said similar stuff, SHE asks me if I want to hang out sometime.

Now Ive done this twice with another girl which had 2 really different outcomes
The first time we "hung out" it was an awkward date and lowered my expectations for the next.
In my mind it was sort of a date but not really, for her it definetely wasnt
The second "hang out" I ****ed up because I had low expectations and she had high expectations

So what exactly is hanging out for girls? Is it a date or does it differ from person to person
I don't wanna misunderstand the situation this time, so hopefully I can be more smooth
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post 1641960753 07-01-2021, 07:59 AM
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Uh it means you are gonna fuk...

But somehow you seem to be fukking this up.

Really badly.
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its going to mean something different for every single girl




detach yourself from expectations and the outcome, and try to 'hang out' with as many girls as possible until one is worth legitimately pursuing (ded fkn Srs)
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its going to end up being you watching her texting her boyfriend and then her asking for a ride to go meet him.

what you do from there is up to you
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Originally Posted By Duckliver
Uh it means you are gonna fuk...

But somehow you seem to be fukking this up.

Really badly.
Bro is there a way I can invite myself to her house? that way I can know if shes DTF or not.

Honestly hang out is so broad it could mean so many things
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Originally Posted By Poodleman
Basically Ive been chatting to this girl in her late 20's and I was planning to ask her out
Then she seemed to be kind of closing the conversation by saying "goodluck with bla bla"
So I read it as a sign that she wasnt really wanting to meet up or keep the conversation up
But after I said similar stuff, SHE asks me if I want to hang out sometime.

Now Ive done this twice with another girl which had 2 really different outcomes
The first time we "hung out" it was an awkward date and lowered my expectations for the next.
In my mind it was sort of a date but not really, for her it definetely wasnt
The second "hang out" I ****ed up because I had low expectations and she had high expectations

So what exactly is hanging out for girls? Is it a date or does it differ from person to person
I don't wanna misunderstand the situation this time, so hopefully I can be more smooth
Originally Posted By Poodleman
Bro is there a way I can invite myself to her house? that way I can know if shes DTF or not.

Honestly hang out is so broad it could mean so many things
Bro you need to relax
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post 1641961103 07-01-2021, 08:06 AM
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Originally Posted By badbl00d
Bro you need to relax
Why man? Im just trying to learn. Give me your advice
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Don't worry about it. Just make your intentions known while you are out with her. Have a "more than friends vibe" with her and she will pick up on it. Women are good at that. Be calm and confident however. If you are not vibing her as a romantic interest you can still hang out, but don't set the precedent as more than that.

If shes not feeling it, she'll make that known or if you've already established you are into dating her, she won't even ask to hang out if she isn't feeling it. Most women would rather not deal with the drama of feeling like they led the guy on, unless they just want attention(most women have tons of options now or can get it easily if they wanted, so despite what the Misc will say, they won't do it just to **** with you). So if you've flirted(even a little bit) she won't ask or agree to hang out if she isn't looking for the same.

Regardless, if you get a woman out somewhere and are "hanging out" just focus on having a good time. You can't go wrong in either situation with that.
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Originally Posted By Poodleman
Why man? Im just trying to learn. Give me your advice
Because a overly eager guy will turn a "yes" into a "no" real quick. Hanging out with girls isn't about expectation...It's about reading and reacting based on what you're given. If the girl is out with you, she thinks you're attractive.What happens after that is purely circumstantial, and you building up a date in your mind almost always ends in disappointment. Your focus should be having a good time. Nothing more... As she has more fun she will become flirty, and give off signals, and it's up to you to pounce on that.

Read, react, adjust.
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post 1641961693 07-01-2021, 08:17 AM
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Originally Posted By badbl00d
Because a overly eager guy will turn a "yes" into a "no" real quick. Hanging out with girls isn't about expectation...It's about reading and reacting based on what you're given. If the girl is out with you, she thinks you're attractive.What happens after that is purely circumstantial, and you building up a date in your mind almost always ends in disappointment. Your focus should be having a good time. Nothing more... As she has more fun she will become flirty, and give off signals, and it's up to you to pounce on that.

Read, react, adjust.
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Originally Posted By Poodleman
Why man? Im just trying to learn. Give me your advice
Just take it easy, man. Don't overthink it. You could make her some dinner or something.

She's definitely into you, so you don't have to overanalyze all of this.

Just play it by ear, you could end up hooking up or something.
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Originally Posted By PenorBrahNoHomo
Reading a social situation accurately is difficult for autismo miscers
After all these years I keep setting the bar too high.
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Set the tone from the beginning of the "date". One of the First words out of your mouth, look her dead in the eye, and tell her with a smile, "OMG look at you. You look so ****ing sexy". Make sure to smile, and eye contact, otherwise you will come off creepy.

Now you have a more romantic rapport the rest of the date instead of just being friends. After that, just vibe and try to read her signals like everyone else is telling you to, but you have to be the one that takes the lead. Practice makes perfect and don't get high expectations. Just enjoy yourself and let the girl want to be a part of your world not the other way around.
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Originally Posted By SSM12
Don't worry about it. Just make your intentions known while you are out with her. Have a "more than friends vibe" with her and she will pick up on it. Women are good at that. Be calm and confident however. If you are not vibing her as a romantic interest you can still hang out, but don't set the precedent as more than that.

If shes not feeling it, she'll make that known or if you've already established you are into dating her, she won't even ask to hang out if she isn't feeling it. Most women would rather not deal with the drama of feeling like they led the guy on, unless they just want attention(most women have tons of options now or can get it easily if they wanted, so despite what the Misc will say, they won't do it just to **** with you). So if you've flirted(even a little bit) she won't ask or agree to hang out if she isn't looking for the same.

Regardless, if you get a woman out somewhere and are "hanging out" just focus on having a good time. You can't go wrong in either situation with that.
Haha man thats the thing
In my example with the other girl, I didnt enjoy our first date but the second date I just went to enjoy myself which I did. But I could tell she wasn't really into it because she had higher expectations than me.
So basically I should just enjoy myself no matter what, and if she is more interested she will give off vibes.
Thanks man
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Originally Posted By DesiredUser****
LMFAO how pathetically beta can dudes get these days
When I was his age. You find out if they like to party drink alcohol.

Tell em you’d like to hang. They’ll say what should we do hehe. Guy says Ill grab a bottle we’ll have a drink listen to music talk chill by park or beach.

Teheee you aren’t going to kill me right ?

Hey if we vibe we vibe if not I’ll drop you home no hard feelings I really don’t care it’s all good

Her;teeeheee ok he seems cool no pressure

Meet up. Bring a chaser for her of course. Have some music clean vehicle be relaxed

2 shots in you are making her laugh and if she thinks you are attractive you get the “I usually don’t do this I really don’t but can I sit on you I wanna just kiss you” (or something like that)

Now she’s giving you head and you are fuking her until 7am a few times in the car music on alone

That’s how it went for me countless times at that age

Wow I miss being 18-24 lol
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Originally Posted By Poodleman
Haha man thats the thing
In my example with the other girl, I didnt enjoy our first date but the second date I just went to enjoy myself which I did. But I could tell she wasn't really into it because she had higher expectations than me.
So basically I should just enjoy myself no matter what, and if she is more interested she will give off vibes.
Thanks man
Yes. The more you start to care and the more you build it up in your mind the more you'll be anxious and that ruins the tone.

Just be in the moment really. Only good can come from that.
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She wants to see your dink.
Hanging out is a euphemism for dropping your britches and dangling your twig and berries in front of her for inspection to see if you're a suitable mate.
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Originally Posted By JustMoved24
When I was his age. You find out if they like to party drink alcohol.

Tell em you’d like to hang. They’ll say what should we do hehe. Guy says Ill grab a bottle we’ll have a drink listen to music talk chill by park or beach.

Teheee you aren’t going to kill me right ?

Hey if we vibe we vibe if not I’ll drop you home no hard feelings I really don’t care it’s all good

Her;teeeheee ok he seems cool no pressure

Meet up. Bring a chaser for her of course. Have some music clean vehicle be relaxed

2 shots in you are making her laugh and if she thinks you are attractive you get the “I usually don’t do this I really don’t but can I sit on you I wanna just kiss you” (or something like that)

Now she’s giving you head and you are fuking her until 7am a few times in the car music on alone

That’s how it went for me countless times at that age

Wow I miss being 18-24 lol
Wow man that seems like the dream life... so jealous right now
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You’re the man. Why don’t you set the terms of the date and you will know what’s up
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First dates in 2021 should be sipping wine together at your place while watching a movie and fuking/sucking at some point AKA "Hanging out"
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I mean I honestly think women view this as just passing time until they clog your toilet with a bodacious booty viper
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What do guys do when they hang out?

Just hang out and stop trying to fk the moment you hang out with women.
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Originally Posted By Poodleman
Haha man thats the thing
In my example with the other girl, I didnt enjoy our first date but the second date I just went to enjoy myself which I did. But I could tell she wasn't really into it because she had higher expectations than me.
So basically I should just enjoy myself no matter what, and if she is more interested she will give off vibes.
Thanks man
You are right hang out could mean 50 different thing and we are not able to know since we could not hear the phone conversations for clues or insight.
But, because she suggested it(hang out), it at least means investigate you a bit more and see what is up, which is a good thing.
If she is into sports, i like a simple baseball game or something casual to see how she is.
If you want a date, dinner, and if you want more a movie.
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Originally Posted By JustMoved24
When I was his age. You find out if they like to party drink alcohol.

Tell em you’d like to hang. They’ll say what should we do hehe. Guy says Ill grab a bottle we’ll have a drink listen to music talk chill by park or beach.

Teheee you aren’t going to kill me right ?

Hey if we vibe we vibe if not I’ll drop you home no hard feelings I really don’t care it’s all good

Her;teeeheee ok he seems cool no pressure

Meet up. Bring a chaser for her of course. Have some music clean vehicle be relaxed

2 shots in you are making her laugh and if she thinks you are attractive you get the “I usually don’t do this I really don’t but can I sit on you I wanna just kiss you” (or something like that)

Now she’s giving you head and you are fuking her until 7am a few times in the car music on alone

That’s how it went for me countless times at that age

Wow I miss being 18-24 lol
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could be wanting to smash, could be friendzoning you.

depends on the tone


girl: " hey babe, lets hanggg tonight" = tonight you getcha dink wet

vs

girl: " yes, thatd be fun to hang out" = friendzoned to the bowling alley you go
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Autismos still have no idea what the purpose of alcohol is.

Its' pretty simple. Sloots like wine. Flavored wine. Strawberry Boonesfarm. Buy some. Get her buzzed. Stuff will happen. If she shows up to hang out and she's shaved her legs and pits, then she WANTS stuff to happen. She is expecting you to do all the work. If you make no effort in that regard, she will next you for someone who will.
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