At a crossroads in my life where I’d love to tell him to F off and possibly never talk to him again. A little background: parents got divorced when I was 8. My dad got divorce raped. Always felt like a burden to him. Nothing ever good enough even at 40 years old. Every conversation on the phone leaves me pissed off. He got remarried to a woman who hated kids. My sister and I had to go to their house every other weekend. Super awkward, never felt comfortable. His wife was a total bitch. Treated us like vermin. Now that they’ve reached their late 60s they’ve moved closer to me in a more rural, recreational area. I helped them move into their new house even though I wanted to murder my step mom with all her complaining. Bottom line is my dad is a moron and gave up a relationship with his kids for this miserable kunt. Would you tell him to F off if it meant cutting off your inheritance?

Yes, I had a similar experience growing up

Looks like this still upsets you so you haven't forgiven him yet

If you can't forgive him then move on, but I think it's a good idea to talk to him about it first

Not the best relationship

Mommas boy checkin in

blame your whore mother. not him.

sometimes

I haven’t talked to her in over 20 years. She’s on her 4th marriage. She’s got her own problems

Step mom hates kids = she's spending your inheritance lol

Don’t know those feels dad is amazing he would take a bullet for me

I was a dorky kid played video games and magic the gathering. My dad is more of an outdoorsy kind of guy used to hunt and fish a lot but in my youth he leaned how to play magic and would take me to tournaments all over. He has always spoiled me too made sure my college was paid for and I had an allowance, told me to have a good time and get my dick wet and party hard. Still slips $300-500 in my wallet anytime I see him even though I’m almost 40 and making 150k. I don’t see him enough bc life is so busy but I talk to him for my entire 1 hr commute to and from work 16x a month. Trying to move closer to him in the near future right now I’m 4 hrs away want to cut that travel time in half

I get along with my dad, but he's kind of a chitbag and has definitely done quite a bit of damage to my life. Fairly low functioning Narcissist, and is argumentative and a fan of gaslighting as a means of staying in control(even at the age of 70, even though it's obvious he doesn't know what he's doing anymore).

Should have found a way to get away from him like 10 years ago, and tried to go away for college but he would always manipulate the situation so I was prevented from leaving. I'll inherit probably $10M from him, but honestly that won't happen until I'm like 55 years old and I likely won't even need the money at that point.

I haven't talked to mine since 1 year, he's a toxic manipulative piece of chit. Sad to say but for me he's dead even if oldcel is still breathing. I probably can kiss goodbye my inheritance (6 figures) but fook him (srs).

Feels, same situation here. Just disowned my dad actually. He is the textbook definition of a psychopath (checks the boxes for ALL characteristics) who made our family's life a literal living hell. Good riddance. He can shove my 6-7 figure inheritance where the sun doesn't shine ded fkn srs.

Mirin srs. Complete opposite for me

my dad:
too proud to admit i know something he doesnt
too proud to pretend he could ever learn something from any of his kids
too proud to call in to question his intelligence even the slightest
too proud to ever act like ive done anything he ever wanted to do
brb everything's a "bad idea wouldnt do it" unless its his idea

hate to say it but mental midget comes to mind. even though he's a damn near genius srs. so is my brother but bro will ask questions and isnt afraid to be inquisitive. they are night and day different my bro and my dad.

basically my dad will do anything to look good, to look cool, and to be liked. he'll treat his step kids one way and his biological kids, me and my bro, different. why? cuz hes a cuck and bows down to the step mom who is f****** evil

he actually talked chit to me one time in front of a guy trying to lowball me when selling my house.

he has to know how fukked up he is. he hasnt changedso i would say dont ever expect it to get better. just know he has something mentally wrong and to some extent it isnt his fault.

Wow many guys here who have chitty dads. Well that's what happens when girls get with bad boys and have kids with them. And of course the cycle continues as evident here

Yep, not gotten on with him for 20 odd years and stopped seeing him for good a year ago. Feels liberating

Nah, I got on just fine with my dad until he died, which sucked.

For your situation, family matters but being related to someone isn't a free pass to be a complete butthole. I personally wouldn't be involved with someone who makes me miserable on every possible interaction, never mind family and never mind if there's money down the track. It's your call, but this isn't something where you are a bad person if you turn your back on him.

I will say, I have no idea about the ins and outs of your relationship but when you are an adult, I think setting rules and boundaries if they want to interact with you is a better starting point than just going NC out of the blue. But again I'm not in your shoes.

just stick it out man he will probably cark it soon

Yeah.. He's a stranger to me.