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post 1647506823 09-21-2021, 05:42 PM
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Dealing With Misery

I’m completely miserable, I do these odd jobs like landscaping, fencing, cleaning houses, etc. I work much of day, sometimes my body is in pain, I have almost no energy to workout. On top of that my permit expired so I need to renew my permit, so I can attempt the driving license test again since I failed the first time.

Nothing brings me joy besides sexual things, no regular activities evoke any real emotion in me. I think I have a personality or development disorder. Aside from caring about certain family members, I feel incapable of anything other than superficial feelings like pleasure, arousal, disgust, amusement, hatred, etc.

I find it hard to find meaning in anything anymore, the last few years have been some of the toughest times of my life. Despite all this I have remained unbroken, but the stress and repetitiveness of work..the pressure of getting things together, it is really wearing me down.

Also my relationship of 5 years ended a few months ago, that is a long story. I’m talking to another girl now, she is the biggest positive thing in my life right now.
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post 1647506933 09-21-2021, 05:45 PM
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Well landscaping is one of the toughest jobs out there at times , so wonder your sore and burnt out .
Is there any opportunity to learn a new trade , or government assisted programs to help a person in need advance , or student loans etc ?
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post 1647506943 09-21-2021, 05:45 PM
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Life is meaningless.

You have have to cope with that.
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post 1647507013 09-21-2021, 05:46 PM
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Originally Posted By OPGenesis⏩
Life is meaningless.

You have have to cope with that.
Or life is anything you make of it, you could find tons of meaning in anything you do if you so desire.
post 1647507053 09-21-2021, 05:47 PM
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Originally Posted By chalup⏩
Or life is anything you make of it, you could find tons of meaning in anything you do if you so desire.
That's called cope.

Yea, you can create whatever synthetic meaning you want.

At the core it's all meaningless.

That has to be accepted.
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post 1647507173 09-21-2021, 05:49 PM
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Originally Posted By MajorTendonitis⏩
Well landscaping is one of the toughest jobs out there at times , so wonder your sore and burnt out .
Is there any opportunity to learn a new trade , or government assisted programs to help a person in need advance , or student loans etc ?
I’m just desperate for cash, I don’t really have time to go to trade school. I made bad decisions when I was younger and I’m playing catch up at 24.
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post 1647507263 09-21-2021, 05:51 PM
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Originally Posted By OPGenesis⏩
That's called cope.

Yea, you can create whatever synthetic meaning you want.

At the core it's all meaningless.

That has to be accepted.
The meaning of life is what we assign it, even that is arbitrary. But I’m having a hard time even assigning that arbitrary meaning at this point.
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post 1647507443 09-21-2021, 05:53 PM
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
The meaning of life is what we assign it, even that is arbitrary. But I’m having a hard time even assigning that arbitrary meaning at this point.
I hear you.

Just stay busy, and try to avoid thinking about it.

Time will pass, and so will your current circumstances.
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post 1647508023 09-21-2021, 06:00 PM
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Originally Posted By OPGenesis⏩
I hear you.

Just stay busy, and try to avoid thinking about it.

Time will pass, and so will your current circumstances.
I think I’m going to take off till Monday, I’m burn out physically and mentally.

Probably going to go on a bike ride to some place peaceful and relaxing tonight, I need to clear my head, I feel like I’m going crazy.
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post 1647508183 09-21-2021, 06:02 PM
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I think you made a similar cry for help thread recently before and we gave you some advice there
post 1647508363 09-21-2021, 06:05 PM
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
I think you made a similar cry for help thread recently before and we gave you some advice there
That was mainly how the political situation effected my mental health.
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post 1647508393 09-21-2021, 06:06 PM
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That sux bro. Unfortunately that's the life of many ppl
post 1647509143 09-21-2021, 06:17 PM
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Have you tried meditation
post 1647509273 09-21-2021, 06:20 PM
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
I’m talking to another girl now, she is the biggest positive thing in my life right now.
This, right here, is your biggest problem.

You will end up needy or codrpendant

You need to find a hobby you can work at semi consistently.
post 1647509383 09-21-2021, 06:21 PM
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Have you tried actually thinking about what you want in life? Career wise, pick a profession. Find out how to get it. Do smaller goals etc to help get u there. None of your activities have purpose that lead to something bigger. You're just moving through life with little existence. Change it.
post 1647509633 09-21-2021, 06:24 PM
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Originally Posted By orangetide⏩
This, right here, is your biggest problem.

You will end up needy or codrpendant

You need to find a hobby you can work at semi consistently.
I started to feel I was becoming needy but I was aware of the issue so I put a stop to it before it became obvious. It’s not an issue at this time, I have some hobbies though.
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post 1647509813 09-21-2021, 06:27 PM
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This won’t get any better as you get older if you don’t find a purposeful way to make cash. Go back to school get a degree in a subject you have (at least some small amount) of passion for
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post 1647509923 09-21-2021, 06:29 PM
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Originally Posted By windchimesilo⏩
Have you tried actually thinking about what you want in life? Career wise, pick a profession. Find out how to get it. Do smaller goals etc to help get u there. None of your activities have purpose that lead to something bigger. You're just moving through life with little existence. Change it.
No because I don’t care, I’m just trying to accumulate enough money to get a decent apartment or a small house. I used to have dreams and aspirations to be a high level boxer, I used to box from the time I was 16-20, was training with some really good guys at a well respected gym. But circumstances took me elsewhere, only a very small percentage of people can make a living in that sport and there is so much risk involved. I still hit the bag and train here and there to keep the dust off but any chance of me going anywhere with that as a career had sailed. I think I realized that years ago and once I realized I wasn’t going to be able to pursue my dream it lead to me caring very little about any other work I did, because no matter what I wouldn’t be passionate about it.
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That’s life son
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Originally Posted By Sophus⏩
Have you tried meditation
No I haven’t.
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Originally Posted By gorex⏩
This won’t get any better as you get older if you don’t find a purposeful way to make cash. Go back to school get a degree in a subject you have (at least some small amount) of passion for
I don’t have the motivation to grind through more school. Plus I need money now. I don’t have time to stop working and go to college.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
I don’t have the motivation to grind through more school. Plus I need money now. I don’t have time to stop working and go to college.
Part time
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Originally Posted By OPGenesis⏩
That's called cope.

Yea, you can create whatever synthetic meaning you want.

At the core it's all meaningless.

That has to be accepted.
This, we are a very short blip in the cosmos and then back to nothing. Try and make the best of it.
A million miles away - I don't.. feel.... anything.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
No I haven’t.
I've always had trouble getting myself to sit still and meditate but it's supposed to be good for you
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Originally Posted By lexbishop⏩
OP headspace is a meditation made easy app. If it's still the same as 5 years ago the first ten are free for unlimited use. It's helpful.
Thanks, I’ll check it out..worth a try anyway.
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Romans 8:19-23
19 For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the children of God; 20 for the creation was subjected to futility, not of its own will but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope 21 that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to decay and will obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. 22 We know thatthe whole creation has been groaning in labor pains until now; 23 and not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the first fruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly while we wait for adoption, the redemption of our bodies.
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Originally Posted By BrosefMengele⏩
Romans 8:19-23
19 For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the children of God; 20 for the creation was subjected to futility, not of its own will but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope 21 that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to decay and will obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. 22 We know thatthe whole creation has been groaning in labor pains until now; 23 and not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the first fruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly while we wait for adoption, the redemption of our bodies.
I don’t understand this, can you translate this into layman's terms?
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
I don’t understand this, can you translate this into layman's terms?
Life is pointless and all of creation suffers.
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Originally Posted By SicilianPower⏩
No because I don’t care, I’m just trying to accumulate enough money to get a decent apartment or a small house. I used to have dreams and aspirations to be a high level boxer, I used to box from the time I was 16-20, was training with some really good guys at a well respected gym. But circumstances took me elsewhere, only a very small percentage of people can make a living in that sport and there is so much risk involved. I still hit the bag and train here and there to keep the dust off but any chance of me going anywhere with that as a career had sailed. I think I realized that years ago and once I realized I wasn’t going to be able to pursue my dream it lead to me caring very little about any other work I did, because no matter what I wouldn’t be passionate about it.
Get certified to be a coach give lessons etc. Pass what you know onto someone younger and see where it goes. Start it off as a side thing. I'm not sure how to go about that, but anywhere involving action is a start. It sounds better than chit side jobs right?
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Originally Posted By windchimesilo⏩
Get certified to be a coach give lessons etc. Pass what you know onto someone younger and see where it goes. Start it off as a side thing. I'm not sure how to go about that, but anywhere involving action is a start. It sounds better than chit side jobs right?
That’s a good idea, I’ve considered it before. That might be my best bet.
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