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post 1664989873 07-26-2022, 10:06 AM
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Coworker keeps asking me why I'm so quiet

Every time he sees me he says stuff like "why are you so quiet" or " did I make you mad" or smarts off when I just tell I'm doing good saying that's the most positive I've ever seen you be

Why do people do this? It's very awkward working with someone who keeps saying that kind of stuff just because I don't talk much to them
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post 1664995693 07-26-2022, 11:59 AM
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Sounds like you're around some extrovert who doesn't know how to shut up and let people be.
post 1664995823 07-26-2022, 12:00 PM
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Sounds like a workplace crush brah.
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post 1664995853 07-26-2022, 12:01 PM
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Why not just talk to them about Netflix?

Next time when you get into the office, try asking “you watch anything good recently?”

Consider watching something so you can talk about it at work
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post 1664995933 07-26-2022, 12:02 PM
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At this point you should just tell to shut the fuk up or you will kill her.
post 1664996063 07-26-2022, 12:04 PM
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Originally Posted By JayJ350⏩
Sounds like you're around some extrovert who doesn't know how to shut up and let people be.
that's me i'm the extrovert, is this really how incels feel?
post 1664996553 07-26-2022, 12:11 PM
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Originally Posted By inkie77⏩
that's me i'm the extrovert, is this really how incels feel?
You sound like the kinda extrovert that is blind to how big of a loser you are to people who don't give a chit about your little world. If people don't have anything to say to you, that might be because you aren't that interesting to talk to.
post 1664996923 07-26-2022, 12:16 PM
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post 1664997093 07-26-2022, 12:20 PM
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I get asked the a question sometimes. Just tell them you were molested when you were young. That'll shut em up
post 1664997323 07-26-2022, 12:23 PM
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post 1664997363 07-26-2022, 12:23 PM
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Probably because he knows you’re a sad, pathetic, uneducated and unsuccessful person.

Moping around mumbling about 2013, you’re likely to be the next miscer to make the headline news for 5 seconds
post 1664997503 07-26-2022, 12:25 PM
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Sounds like somebody's got a case of the Mondays
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post 1664997793 07-26-2022, 12:28 PM
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Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
I know that type. The person who always has to be talking. Silence to them is nails on a chalkboard. They're usually loud and immature but lack self awareness.

Nothing you can say or do will appease them. There's a dude like that at my gym. One night I just snapped at him and asked him what the fukk his problem is and why he behaves like that. Hasn't bothered me since. Probably can't do that at work though. Even if you do it in a nice, calm matter, they'll still get butt hurt because everyone's super sensitive these days. Anything that's not in a light hearted "reddit" type tone or a safe convo like tv shows and the weather is deemed threatening and hurts their feelings.

Idk how we got to this inverted clown world so fast man.
At work you can't say anything that's not super nice or agreeable or the soy males get offended. I mean it's why i just stay to myself for the most part, especially if i try talking to people and don't relate to them. Like i'm not gonna just keep trying to have those awkward conversations lol.
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post 1664998503 07-26-2022, 12:38 PM
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Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
I know that type. The person who always has to be talking. Silence to them is nails on a chalkboard. They're usually loud and immature but lack self awareness.

Nothing you can say or do will appease them. There's a dude like that at my gym. One night I just snapped at him and asked him what the fukk his problem is and why he behaves like that. Hasn't bothered me since. Probably can't do that at work though. Even if you do it in a nice, calm matter, they'll still get butt hurt because everyone's super sensitive these days. Anything that's not in a light hearted "reddit" type tone or a safe convo like tv shows and the weather is deemed threatening and hurts their feelings.

Idk how we got to this inverted clown world so fast man.
Yeah honestly that's the main reason why I don't try to get too social with people. You really gotta feel them out to know what kinda chit they might take offense to, because everyone is so hyper-sensitive these days. I just like to avoid unnecessary conflict, and it simply comes down to that. I don't want to be arguing with someone over some bullchit, I would much rather just have a simple casual conversation and leave it at that unless we are hanging out a lot and I can get a real feel for them.
post 1664998673 07-26-2022, 12:40 PM
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Talk about shows on Netflix and MySpace brah
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post 1664998983 07-26-2022, 12:45 PM
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been there like 100 times

once someone asks you that.. its over..
theres no good answer and then you cant build that "relationship" back because they think youre a freak and you resent them as well
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Sounds like he's brimming with confidence due to a very well fitting shirt
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Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
All companies are like that now. They just control the narrative and establish a dystopian environment. It's like real life reddit, except instead of being down voted, you get fired or demoted for not thinking like them.

They get a rush of dopamine over it. I bet if you started a *positive* conversation about lgbt rights, they'd get all giggly and wet.
I think it's because of this man. David says it literally came out of nowhere around 2013-2014. Everyone has anxiety issues and other issues which is why they need to bubble wrap everything. Talk to any people in their 20's, they are all like this now.

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post 1664999323 07-26-2022, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
I avoid conflict too. Everyone's so on edge, you never know when someone's off their meds and snaps. Most have nothing to lose too, which is a deadly combo.

10/15/20 years ago, you could crack a joke, do the locker room talk, etc. Now I just keep my head down, go about my business and save it for people I'm comfortable with. Plus like EOD says, most don't have much to offer in conversation these days. It's all social media, news or tv shows.
For real, even when I am chatting it up with friends, I can be a bit on edge in public at times because you never know when there will be some massmedia Karen wokescold type trying to easedrop as an excuse to start chit with you or take something out on you. It's a dangerous world we are living in, where some extremely intolerant, narcissistic people are all around.
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Originally Posted By Nicklol⏩
been there like 100 times

once someone asks you that.. its over..
theres no good answer and then you cant build that "relationship" back because they think youre a freak and you resent them as well
Honestly, I'd probably just be casual friendly. It's kind of confrontational thing to do, so I would probably get a little confrontational right back. Like just ask them a question, something like "well what do you like to talk about" or "how's it going with you." It can be a good ice breaker if they turn out to be nice.
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Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
I avoid conflict too. Everyone's so on edge, you never know when someone's off their meds and snaps. Most have nothing to lose too, which is a deadly combo.

10/15/20 years ago, you could crack a joke, do the locker room talk, etc. Now I just keep my head down, go about my business and save it for people I'm comfortable with. Plus like EOD says, most don't have much to offer in conversation these days. It's all social media, news or tv shows.
Yeah you can't say anything random anymore it all has to be in PC code. I've had people legit freak out on my just from being my assertive/cocky self. But i don't act like that anymore because i can't really. I've just learned to stay to myself and not get involved with anything. That's my attitude everywhere now. I used to be very social but all of this has thrown me off srs.
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This only happened to me with women at the office. Never had a dude ask me why im so quite lol. I just kept hustlin cuzz
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I've had people legit freak out on my just from beingmy assertive/cocky self.
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To be fair I would also freak out if the mute roboautist would suddenly sperg out and start rambling about shadow demons from the evil dimension.
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Try and be normal and tell her that her head would look good on a stick.
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Give them a break OP they’re just trying to get on your good side in case you go postal
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Extroverts can’t even fathom that someone can sit there in silence and be at peace. A lot of them are running away from their own thoughts.
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