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post 1665933233 08-11-2022, 12:38 PM
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How long after an S/O passes do you think its okay to start a relationship?

theres no hard rule but whats your take?

the marriage/relationship was 4yrs (hypothetical)

1yr? 1 month? never?
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post 1665933303 08-11-2022, 12:40 PM
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At the burial ceremony. Get at that sympathy poosay.
post 1665933553 08-11-2022, 12:44 PM
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Just go with your feelings

If you meet the love of your life the day after, why tf would you not pursue it?
post 1665933753 08-11-2022, 12:48 PM
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there is no limit. if you want to smash the cutie on a bulk at the funeral reception to keep your focus away, then go ahead. Alls fair in love and war.
post 1665933803 08-11-2022, 12:49 PM
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One month for every year.

Four years of marriage = you have to wait at least four months.
post 1665933943 08-11-2022, 12:51 PM
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However long you feel in your heart is needed. If youre looking to others for the answer youre not asking the right question.
post 1665934113 08-11-2022, 12:54 PM
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I'd check for a pulse first to see if I'm single again
post 1665934383 08-11-2022, 12:58 PM
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post 1665934503 08-11-2022, 12:59 PM
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Originally Posted By Breathliser⏩
Just go with your feelings

If you meet the love of your life the day after, why tf would you not pursue it?
Originally Posted By cloudnin3⏩
there is no limit. if you want to smash the cutie on a bulk at the funeral reception to keep your focus away, then go ahead. Alls fair in love and war.
Originally Posted By TheTwilightZone⏩
One month for every year.

Four years of marriage = you have to wait at least four months.
Originally Posted By Underwrought⏩
However long you feel in your heart is needed. If youre looking to others for the answer youre not asking the right question.
Originally Posted By SirLoinSr⏩
I'd check for a pulse first to see if I'm single again
would ya care if your S/o gave ya these responses?

she'd wait 4 months after you died etc
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post 1665935293 08-11-2022, 01:16 PM
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Originally Posted By DandyDink⏩
would ya care if your S/o gave ya these responses?

she'd wait 4 months after you died etc
Well youve played right into my trap:

1. I dont have a SO.
2. Id be dead I dont care
post 1665935533 08-11-2022, 01:19 PM
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There is no time frame. All depends on how long it takes you to heal. Some people can move on really quick, other struggle for years. All depends on how much of a bond you two shared. Losing someone you'd classify as your soul mate could crush you for a very long time.
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Op, I broke up with gf of 4 years. Been a little over a month now. Apperantly she is already on tinder, I can't say it bothers me much at all. Probably due to the fact that I don't have feelings for her
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post 1665935643 08-11-2022, 01:23 PM
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Originally Posted By JUGGERNAUT1333⏩
There is no time frame. All depends on how long it takes you to heal. Some people can move on really quick, other struggle for years. All depends on how much of a bond you two shared. Losing someone you'd classify as your soul mate could crush you for a very long time.
trust me, i know. she was the best, man. shes still alive tho
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post 1665935653 08-11-2022, 01:23 PM
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At the funeral
post 1665935793 08-11-2022, 01:25 PM
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Not sure about the widow but there is no way in hell I’d date a chick that just recently lost her husband. Would not end well for either person involved.
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Originally Posted By 0rders⏩
Op, I broke up with gf of 4 years. Been a little over a month now. Apperantly she is already on tinder, I can't say it bothers me much at all. Probably due to the fact that I don't have feelings for her
Pff. She was just your girlfriend. That's not even a real relationship.

Legally, if you're not married, then you're single. Your relationship was fake and made up and it's no wonder she moved on quickly.

If you get married, then the rule is one month for every year of marriage.

You marry for four years, you have to wait at least four months to get back on the market.
You marry for 10 years, you have to wait at least 10 months.
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Originally Posted By DandyDink⏩
theres no hard rule but whats your take?

the marriage/relationship was 4yrs (hypothetical)

1yr? 1 month? never?
This is from psych, it takes an average of five years to get over a major relationship loss and death certain qualifies.

Meanwhile, the psychology of men tend to make them want to jump into another relationship after a divorce or death. However, that tends to result in bad outcomes because it's a very extreme form of "rebound relationship" and the man has unprocessed grief and stuff they haven't dealt with.

Women tend to avoid relationships after a death and are doing themselves a favor.

If you are a man or know a man who experienced a death of an important loved one, you might want to advise them to be honest and deal with the death. Life needs to go on but not without thinking about life first. Also, you don't want to use an innocent person to get over grief, which you can't get over like that to begin with.

I have noticed that men can get crazy with spending, hookers, etc after a girlef situation. They are trying to feel "alive" but that is not going to make the dead person they miss come back, so it's dangerous behavior that won't help.
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