It's true that grass is greener on the side other for both sides

What I dislike about being single are the variability of the weekend and not getting to focus more on other aspects of life. When I was dating my ex-gfs, I liked how I always could rely on her for weekend times and it was fun during the weekends hanging out together. I dumped my recent ex a few months ago and she has tried to come back a few times so it's not that I have no options. I have a lot of girls I'm always talking to but just picky about who I want to invest my life with, go out on dates which takes money, etc. I'd rather be single than settle for someone I'm not completely excited about and don't see future potential with.

1) Variability of the weekend - the point I was making is that after I broke up with my ex-gf, I had 4 girls on rotation just to keep me busy when bored. They all faded out over time. I was supposed to meet this 21 year old tonight who "needs cuddling" so I'm trying to rebuild my rotation but she has not replied to my text today. I was supposed to have plans this weekend with another girl I went on 3 dates with but she also didn't reply to my last text about staying in for the next date and meeting at my place.

So when some plans like this fall through, some weekends end up being not so great. Some great weekends and some busted weekends. The variability and inconsistency sucks.

2) Not getting to focus more on other aspects of life. When you have a wife/girlfriend, you're not worried about women. You can focus your time, effort, and money on other aspects of life instead of girls. For most single guys, girls take up a lot of headspace and it's better to be focused and communicating with one girl to focus on more important parts of life.


Welcome to hear your thoughts

Yeah, it's a grass is greener thing

Question is what's a net positive, and the answer is gonna be different for everyone

Respectfully disagree

You see OP, It's true that grass is greener on the side other for both sides

What I dislike about being single are the variability of the weekend and not getting to focus more on other aspects of life. When I was dating my ex-gfs, I liked how I always could rely on her for weekend times and it was fun during the weekends hanging out together. I dumped my recent ex a few months ago and she has tried to come back a few times so it's not that I have no options. I have a lot of girls I'm always talking to but just picky about who I want to invest my life with, going out on dates which takes money, etc. I'd rather be single than settle for someone I'm not completely excited about.

1) Variability of the weekend - the point I was making is that after I broke up with my ex-gf, I had 4 girls on rotation just to keep me busy when bored. They all faded out over time. I was supposed to meet this 21 year old tonight who "needs cuddling" so I'm trying to rebuild my rotation but she has not replied to my text today. I was supposed to have plans with another girl I went on 3 dates with but she also didn't reply to my last text about staying in for our next date and meeting at my place.

So when some plans like this fall through, some weekends end up being not so great. Some great weekends and some busted weekends. The variability and inconsistency sucks.

2) Not getting to focus more on other aspects of life. When you have a wife/girlfriend, you're not worried about women. You can focus your time, effort, and money on other aspects of life instead of girls. For most single guys, girls take up a lot of headspace and it's better to be focused and communicating with one girl to focus on more important parts of life.


Welcome to hear your thoughts

Most recent gf broke up a few weeks ago.

I was doing nothing except working, seeing her, going away some weekends. No reading, no working out, no real family time.

Yeah it's nice having a consistent lay, someone who makes you food, back massages, but really beginning to realize that's just surface chit. At least for me.

btw I didn't read a single word of that novel you wrote op

Pretty much

you sound lowkey like a cuck srs

I finally got a gf like 5 months ago after banging tinder sloots for years and I really wanna go back to banging tinder sloots tbh

i feel like I lose the will to live when Im in a relationship, everything seems pointless

just cheat on her occasionally with a random slut srs

life is a 1-player game and at the end you'll only regret when you didn't happinessmaxx

srs

As a single man, I have the freedom to do anything on the weekend I phukking want. I can book a golf tee time Friday night, I can book a golf tee time Saturday, I can book a golf tee time Sunday....

BRB

You can do the same when in a relationship unless you're a beta cuck who gets controlled by a girl

Relationship should be the extra bonus and addition to your life keeping everything else the same

Now you're back to swiping through fatties, uglies and tranx "girls" on tinder, on top of reading, working out and family time.

Wish you the best though, srs

The following weekend I went to italy with an 8, now banging a posh british sloot, hitting the gym hard, sleeping like a baby

Ex was great, don't get me wrong, but man do I need to learn to balance things

Dear Diary,

Its what you make it

Single life you get into wild experiences but you technically can still get a girl to cook and clean for you because they want to be exclusive

When you’re in a relationship you can still do what you want if you’re comfortable with the girl and she knows that YOU’RE THE CATCH
You always have companionship, stability, and a friend thats always around

Personally though…I like being single because it makes me hustle harder. But I hate being a dick to girls, literally and figuratively

Interesting take. I've often heard the reverse expressed. When you are with a girl you have to spend a lot of time paying attention to her emotional needs. When you are single you can focus on work or whatever area of your life you want to improve. But I guess that only applies if you are single and not looking.

You got lucky
Love fu king my wife but most of the time she just annoys and always needs something

Happy Relationship >>>> Happy Single >>> Unhappy Relationship.

I'd rather be single than in an unhappy relationship, but I'd much rather be in a happy relationship than be happy single. And when that happy relationship is your best friend - the one you have coffee with in the morning smiling, holding hands, I mean...elation doesn't get much better.

The 21 year old did get back to me to confirm the meet. But I thought she ghosted me so I made other plans to go visit my parents for the weekend. She got pissy but she's fine to postpone.

The other girl never replied to my text... this is really odd