Let's say you go out on dates with someone but realize that there are red flags so she's not gf/wife material. You're not in the phase of looking for just casual sex anymore and don't want to go on random dates which take money and effort.

But she's attractive so you still bring this girl back to your place and smashed. Sex was nice but how do guys continue to go out on dates with her just to get laid? I live in a high cost of living city and dates cost money. Am I just a cheap ass?


Unless the girl makes it super low effort like always just coming straight to your place after this, I don't bother or is there a better move to keep this group of girls around super low effort for sex? Eventually they'll still want to be taken out on dates instead of just staying in all the time and getting tossed out after smashing

I'd have to imagine you only have to date the first time. After then, she can come straight over.

If you only want to smash and she keeps requiring dates, you're being played.

i dont date girls I don't genuinely enjoy going out with. If I'm just tryna smash, I just invite them straight over. If they want a date first, I just move on. I'm not jestermaxing. Rather just fap.

I mean yeah let's say you took her out the first or two times and had sex

You can have her come straight over but these more attractive girls with options and generally looking for something more serious will push for some kind of outside dates here and there at least in my experience

shut up lol, you know dam well no female will go out with you unless you pay them a chit ton of money... lol who would want to be seen in public with your creeper ass

I don’t understand you can’t meet someone for a drink? That’s too much?

What type of women are meeting you at the park at first for free water from the water fountain ?

The state of men in 2022 SMH. Wtf is jestermax?

So what guys are doing is to continue to take them out on dates as long as sex is there? That's what I see happening. Dating without exclusivity because the guy doesn't want it but still take them out on dates to spend time with them.

But for me it's such a waste of money and effort to spend on someone I don't see long-term potential with. I'd rather save this money for something else. I guess I'm just a cheap ass.

no man. these guys are just jesters.

hmm... why don't you just try juggling both

honestly its pretty funny if a girl drops you and youre trying to do chit for her. obviously she's not worth the effort

i mean just cause you posed the question why don't you try going on a series of cheap dates if not doing so isn't working out. i doubt [most] women [and of caliber] would have a problem with you creating up dates that dont cost money if they were actually creative
then try out just asking them over

but really as i said, i feel like if women are ghosting you cause you're not taking them on dates then good riddance. doesn't really seem like they enjoy your presence but are after what you provide

don't underestimate putting your foot down either

those same girls might very well be testing you to see if you put them in their place

Any chick I dated hated when I spent money, or at least acted like they hated it and would always ask to split bills

In college, me and my exgf both lived with parents so couldn't rly go home together. I would offer to rent a motel but she would stop me and just smash in my car.

One day, I bought wet wipes to help clean up after smashing. She thought it was the cutest thing ever and I was "caring."

fkn lol @ u losers who need to betabuxx every date.

And I'm no gigachad either so I know other guys have similar experiences

No I split from time to time. Many do offer to pay or we take turns paying.

But even if I'm paying only for myself, a dinner or drinks will cost me in this high cost of living city. I don't even like spending money on myself. I'd rather save this money, invest it or do something more useful with it.

Phucking lol at
Romantic dates.

Just do a drink or coffee or park and if the sloot calls you cheap then phuck her.

I I’ve in cities where the woman are all sloots and busy with their lame careers.

Lol, I never do romantic dates

Coffee or drinks is exactly what I do for the first and second date. But I prefer drinks if I'm trying to smash and this still costs money.

Hanging out with them on future dates, you'll eventually have to eat too. Whether at home, after a park walk, need dinner, etc. Trust me, expenses will be there eventually when hanging out with someone.

Strong this. I have learned my lesson and only do coffee dates for the first couple of dates. There's plenty of woman out there that will take a free meal and go no call, to get piped out after by their regulars or their current boyfriends. (Ded fkn Srs)

it's called enjoying someone's presence, you should try it sometime lmao


















people in general are pretty good at picking out when someone's faking. it's an instinctual reaction that's engrained into our biology and gut feelings over millions of years of evolution. if you're going out on a date and you're not enjoying the experience because you just wanna smash, she's gonna be able to tell, so might as well be up front and say you don't wanna date you're just looking for someone to come over and fukk, because at least you'll find someone on the same page as you

she should be splitting the bill and dont take her to expensive places. also try to do things you wanted to do anyways.


people literally do this chit all the time. probably 80% of marriages and families were created from two people who thought they could do better but found someone just "good enough for now" and then the sloot ended up pregnant and it was over.

Why don't you split bills or have them pay for a change?

I've never dated anyone where I've had to pay for 100% of everything.

This lol. I hangout with a chick I don't ever see myself dating seriously but I still take her out and bring her to events I'm going to because she's super fun to be around. We're both on the same page that we don't want anything serious. Going on dates with women should be fun not a daunting task just to get your piece wet.

jester

Phase 1: Do kinda fun traditional dates where money is involved. Bonus points if she's the type to pay for her own, or offer to split the bill. Things like a little dinner cruise, fancy restaurant, arcade, golfing, amusement park, etc.

Phase 2: Get more intimate to the point of spending time at eachother's places.

Phase 3: Future dates can involve food that is grocery-based if you're clever about it (picnic, beach outting, simple house date). Play video games, watch netflix, board games, get tennis balls and rackets, go swim at a local pool, etc.