Its hard for me to be alone, anytime I talk with someone ( especially women ) and they show little interest all of a sudden my mood changes and I feel better / in a better mind state, then when they stop responding i get emotional like a bitch and my anxiety kicks in until they respond, I always check my phone to see if they responded or if they are online and stupid stuff like that.After they respond I feel good all of a sudden and my anxiety magically disappears.


Probably the root problem is that I was raised mainly by the female side of my family ( father was always out for work ) and that is how they react I guess.
Also has something to do with dopamine I guess but I dont know how to change it.

What do I need to do in order to change this ?
Anyone is or been in this situation ? I keep thinking about this but cant find a solution

you dont have options when it comes to women and friends, so any sliver of interest is gold to you. i know because ive experienced it myself, but im aware of whats going on. there is no solution, except awareness so you dont get desperate

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Try men

makes sense, I will tryhow does one get that validation fulfilled and stop this validation seeking ?

do you have any goals or ambitions that you work toward that provide you with a sense of fulfillment and accomplishment? sounds like you get your validation from other people, rather than creating it yourself.

Find something else to obsess over, it’s the only way, srs.

Whether you make it a vidya game, driving places, walking, gym, whatever it is you make yourself obsess over make sure it’s something you won’t be using a phone around. Stops you looking at your phone that way, eventually you’ll end up stopping caring about the gal as much.

Alternatively date other girls, your validation will come from other women at the same time you’re waiting for validation from the girl you like

I’ve been there myself, the exact same behaviour, checking to see if my message was read, checking social media to see if she posted, then cogs start turning and I start thinking of dumb things.

In addition to this it’s also worth noting the whole mentality of “if she cares then she would make time to message you back” or something like that. Maybe she doesn’t care enough and you’re digging a deep hole for a girl that isn’t interested. Maybe she’s just like that and isn’t on her phone often, there’s nothing that can really help you get out of this mindset, I think it’ll just happen one day and you’ll snap out of it

I'll never understand male drive for codependence

I dont have many friends that I talk to on a regular basis, I am mainly lonely so especially when I get a girl messaging me I get super excited.
No I dont really and I found that to be one of the problem, I go to gym, I train for armwrestling but other than that nothing going for myself. I have a family business that my father started and I do the main job to say so but I find it to be more like a regular 9-5.
I joined hustlers university in hopes to change that and do something for myself.


I find myself thinking about this a lot, like I think that i dont really need validation from someone else like I get those urges but then I kind of slip back to that old weak mindset and start getting anxious again and chit.


Thank you guys a lot for the answers.

Know that you are enough, just as you are. Love yourself, love your own company, don't seek happiness outside of yourself.

As you improve at this, which can be done just by closing your eyes for a while each day, then others will naturally be drawn to you. And ironically, you won't need it when it happens.

I bet you’re a really nice and reliable guy.

STEM magnet school 7-12th grade. It was coed, but definitely selected for white male autists and male ****** Literally every girl left the school after sophomore year, 11th and 12th grades were all dudes and I graduated in an all-male class of about 20.

I still talk with a lot of those guys, and I would say that about half are still virgins into their late 20s.

Undergrad was in electrical engineering. Once the major classes started, it was over. I remember walking into day 1 of a sophomore digital circuits lab. There were 20 benches, and 19 of them had dudes.

Grad school was the same. Instead of 9 guys and 1 girl in lecture, it became 9 ****** men and 1 white man.

Job is an extension of grad school (can't get it without an EE masters), and really it's just an extension of high school. All these ****** at work are like "how do you know so much about India?". I'm like bish, I've had a lot of practice.


Now I identify as a ******




Brb chitting in the street SRS

It's because you are ghey and you need a big strong man to wrap his arms around you, protect you from this world. Don't keep pretending op, go get him