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12-07-2022, 10:13 AM
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Are relationships ever made outside of dating apps these days? srs
One of my good friends who I'd never imagine using online dating is with a girl he met on a dating app. Lately I've been asking a few couples I know where they met and it's always Bumble, Hinge, Match.com etc. Met this Chad and even he was balls deep in all the dating apps. Few weeks later he pulls up with a 7 that he met on one of the apps.
Are you guys seeing the same pattern? Where did you meet your gf?
Are you guys seeing the same pattern? Where did you meet your gf?
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12-07-2022, 10:18 AM
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I haven't made a friend since 2014 when social media and dating apps became the norm. I think it's next to impossible.
I met my gf irl like 10 years ago before all of this social media and online dating stuff
I met my gf irl like 10 years ago before all of this social media and online dating stuff
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12-07-2022, 10:21 AM
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12-07-2022, 10:23 AM
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It's a bit of the norm these days
But I try other avenues to get girls and it's been working out pretty well
- social media but not dating apps
- random cold approach pick up . Find dog parks work well for this
But I try other avenues to get girls and it's been working out pretty well
- social media but not dating apps
- random cold approach pick up . Find dog parks work well for this
12-07-2022, 10:30 AM
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Scope out a restaurant / bar with a decent sized staff / has females you may be attracted to.
Apply to be a bartender there once or twice a week on weekends, You sound like your rotting anyway so you may as well be getting paid to be out in the sea.
You will find a romantic relationship in that setting provided you are charismatic and decent looking.
Restaurant relationships and even friendships as a whole are some of the best I have ever seen. Itโs just the nature of it all.
Apply to be a bartender there once or twice a week on weekends, You sound like your rotting anyway so you may as well be getting paid to be out in the sea.
You will find a romantic relationship in that setting provided you are charismatic and decent looking.
Restaurant relationships and even friendships as a whole are some of the best I have ever seen. Itโs just the nature of it all.
12-07-2022, 10:31 AM
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I can find dates everywhere because I'm an in shape mid 30's guy so to other "single" late 20 and early 30 women, I'm a catch at this point and I also am a cop so when I work the bar area girls just constantly hit on me and are easy targets.
But I have a nice GF I met as a coworker. We were all out to drinks one night, around 6 of us, one co-worker (girl) had just gotten engaged so we all cheers'd to her and congratulated her. She started crying and it broke my heart. She was always happy at work when everyone else was pissed or having a bad day and I had never seen her anything other than happy. Totally broke my heart seeing her cry over thinking of her engagement. She ended her engagement, we hooked up, started dating, and I couldn't be happier. Only girl I've ever dated who I haven't gotten sick of and actually want to spend extended time with after the honeymoon phase.
So basically, you never know when it's gonna find you. Looking in your inner circles is always good. Work connections. Other social connections. There's a lot more to life than dating apps.
But I have a nice GF I met as a coworker. We were all out to drinks one night, around 6 of us, one co-worker (girl) had just gotten engaged so we all cheers'd to her and congratulated her. She started crying and it broke my heart. She was always happy at work when everyone else was pissed or having a bad day and I had never seen her anything other than happy. Totally broke my heart seeing her cry over thinking of her engagement. She ended her engagement, we hooked up, started dating, and I couldn't be happier. Only girl I've ever dated who I haven't gotten sick of and actually want to spend extended time with after the honeymoon phase.
So basically, you never know when it's gonna find you. Looking in your inner circles is always good. Work connections. Other social connections. There's a lot more to life than dating apps.
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12-07-2022, 10:31 AM
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Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
Agree with this guy that the girls I meet not on the apps MOG the girls on the apps heavyYou can try leaving your basement and getting a social life or better yet some charisma, sense of humor and personality.
Meet most of the chicks I smash/date through friends, the gym, running errands, work, etc. Much smoother when organic. They've all mogged the chicks I met through dating apps too. The app chicks are usually bitter, career obsessed, insecure, talking to other dudes, jaded, not as attractive as their pics, single moms, etc. Plus requires a bit more up front work, pointless/forced small talk and too much sorting out.
So much easier when you chat up a cutie at the gym, crack a few jokes, grab some food afterwards and clap cheeks. You get a feel for her mannerisms and you can show personality assuming you aren't an autist. On apps, it's more random. Only down side is if it doesn't work out then you might see this person in your day to day routine or friend circle but again if you're not a sperg, you can play it off cool and still avoid awkward interactions but it's less likely to go sour because you've already vetted them before investing time unlike dating apps where you really don't know shiit about them yet continue to pursue.
The friends/social circle is the best because assuming you're not a fukking loser, you should attract people similar to yourself. This includes girls, their friends, cousins, whatever and provides an exponential network of likeminded, similar people.
Meet most of the chicks I smash/date through friends, the gym, running errands, work, etc. Much smoother when organic. They've all mogged the chicks I met through dating apps too. The app chicks are usually bitter, career obsessed, insecure, talking to other dudes, jaded, not as attractive as their pics, single moms, etc. Plus requires a bit more up front work, pointless/forced small talk and too much sorting out.
So much easier when you chat up a cutie at the gym, crack a few jokes, grab some food afterwards and clap cheeks. You get a feel for her mannerisms and you can show personality assuming you aren't an autist. On apps, it's more random. Only down side is if it doesn't work out then you might see this person in your day to day routine or friend circle but again if you're not a sperg, you can play it off cool and still avoid awkward interactions but it's less likely to go sour because you've already vetted them before investing time unlike dating apps where you really don't know shiit about them yet continue to pursue.
The friends/social circle is the best because assuming you're not a fukking loser, you should attract people similar to yourself. This includes girls, their friends, cousins, whatever and provides an exponential network of likeminded, similar people.
I'm a bit of a lone wolf rn as far as a social circle so wouldn't know chit about that but I get it in other ways
12-07-2022, 10:37 AM
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Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
Confidence is key . Getting out of your head and loosening up is keyWalk into the post office or target like you're the fukking man. Smile, be outgoing, say hi to people and just chat up a random cutie in the shampoo isle. Walk by, "oh that one's good, got rid of my split ends" or something silly. Should be moist at the very least.
Unless you look like a video game villain, it's pretty easy.
Unless you look like a video game villain, it's pretty easy.
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12-07-2022, 10:53 AM
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Online is where most people are meeting now. Unless you are very attractive, its hard to just randomly meet people. Most places are sausage fests, and even the women you see will be talking to men online already.
The best bet is to do online and play the numbers game
The best bet is to do online and play the numbers game
12-07-2022, 10:58 AM
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Dating apps are for suckers.
They are designed to stroke womens egos. Face to face approaching gives you a vastly better chance.
Think about it like a job, you can look at the office and send 100's of resumes not knowing if you are qualified. You might get a couple replys at best.
But if you send just a handful to places you not only get to see but get to briefly talk to, your reply rate will be vastly higher.
Better to take a few face to face rejections then 100's of non responses.
The key of course is to be qualified for the job. Staying in your own lane helps tremendously. You can apply for 1000 ceo jobs because you think it would be neat to do but if arent qualified, you will never get a call back.
If you are a loading dock guy and apply for loading dock jobs, your chances are very good of getting that call back.
They are designed to stroke womens egos. Face to face approaching gives you a vastly better chance.
Think about it like a job, you can look at the office and send 100's of resumes not knowing if you are qualified. You might get a couple replys at best.
But if you send just a handful to places you not only get to see but get to briefly talk to, your reply rate will be vastly higher.
Better to take a few face to face rejections then 100's of non responses.
The key of course is to be qualified for the job. Staying in your own lane helps tremendously. You can apply for 1000 ceo jobs because you think it would be neat to do but if arent qualified, you will never get a call back.
If you are a loading dock guy and apply for loading dock jobs, your chances are very good of getting that call back.
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12-07-2022, 11:01 AM
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
Yeah might get a doge. I want one anyways, but can't deny that it's a great way to get out of the house more and meet girls. Always see girls walking dogs around the neighborhood/at the park.It's a bit of the norm these days
But I try other avenues to get girls and it's been working out pretty well
- social media but not dating apps
- random cold approach pick up . Find dog parks work well for this
But I try other avenues to get girls and it's been working out pretty well
- social media but not dating apps
- random cold approach pick up . Find dog parks work well for this
Originally Posted By truesteez⏩
Mirin and I agree. I've never met a girl on a dating app. I do think it's weird to pursue someone you've never met IRL which is why I'm questioning all these people who do it. Admittedly my cold approaches don't go as well as yours all the time but I have dated girls from work then played it off after it didn't work out. I'm really good for approaching girls while out in nature as well but that hasn't gone anywhere yet.You can try leaving your basement and getting a social life or better yet some charisma, sense of humor and personality.
The friends/social circle is the best because assuming you're not a fukking loser, you should attract people similar to yourself. This includes girls, their friends, cousins, whatever and provides an exponential network of likeminded, similar people. If you have your shiit together, it's pretty effortless honestly and just happens. It's being human 101.
The friends/social circle is the best because assuming you're not a fukking loser, you should attract people similar to yourself. This includes girls, their friends, cousins, whatever and provides an exponential network of likeminded, similar people. If you have your shiit together, it's pretty effortless honestly and just happens. It's being human 101.
I think you misinterpreted my post. I do okay for myself these days. Most girls I meet nowadays are either at the bar or via my social circle. There's usually girls I don't know when friends invite me out. I'm not a basement dweller and they're usually already attracted to me so I get a lot of numbers + flirt more the next time I see them. Not to mention girls that approach me at the bar or at the club. Happens every weekend. I just cbf cause I don't always see them as worth my time.
Originally Posted By CockHorse⏩
Although the camaraderie sounds fun I have a real job lol I'd rather just be a regular at Twin Peaks or something, don't have to work there to get them.Scope out a restaurant / bar with a decent sized staff / has females you may be attracted to.
Apply to be a bartender there once or twice a week on weekends, You sound like your rotting anyway so you may as well be getting paid to be out in the sea.
You will find a romantic relationship in that setting provided you are charismatic and decent looking.
Restaurant relationships and even friendships as a whole are some of the best I have ever seen. Itโs just the nature of it all.
Apply to be a bartender there once or twice a week on weekends, You sound like your rotting anyway so you may as well be getting paid to be out in the sea.
You will find a romantic relationship in that setting provided you are charismatic and decent looking.
Restaurant relationships and even friendships as a whole are some of the best I have ever seen. Itโs just the nature of it all.
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12-07-2022, 11:28 AM
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I've participated in numerous hobbies they are almost always sausage-fests. The only exception is yoga, and if you go they think you're gay. The few women that show up are almost always with their boyfriend or already infatuated with the hottest guy in the room.
So basically, outside of work and school you're SOL. Women go to work/school then go straight home. Sometimes they go to bars and clubs but they almost always stick together in their girl group and repel any non-Chads. The only place you'll meet anybody is online these days.
So basically, outside of work and school you're SOL. Women go to work/school then go straight home. Sometimes they go to bars and clubs but they almost always stick together in their girl group and repel any non-Chads. The only place you'll meet anybody is online these days.
12-07-2022, 11:40 AM
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Dating apps are overwhelmingly men so you're already handicapped there. As someone mentioned it's funny that you find women when you least expect it. My longest relationships have been through meeting in person, random outing, or through work. It's harder for men now but you have to put effort in. If you're burned out of dating though take a step back for a while.
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if you are 30+ which I'm assuming most miscers are the secret spot is WINE BARS, biches love wine bars...in my area they are full of 25-40 yr old rich hot womenz and usually a few old dudes 50-60+
12-07-2022, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
this is horrrible advice.Online is where most people are meeting now. Unless you are very attractive, its hard to just randomly meet people. Most places are sausage fests, and even the women you see will be talking to men online already.
The best bet is to do online and play the numbers game
The best bet is to do online and play the numbers game
Met my GF through friends of friends in 2020 at a bbq. Coming up on 3 years. Didn't make it past date 3-4 with all the online broads and man did I go on a lot of those.
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What's the problem with expanding your range, so to speak? LMFAO at waiting for pussy via work/friends of friends/etc
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Nope. All the couples my age I know through rec sports met in college or on dating apps.
One girl flat out told me to quit trying IRL and just use apps (JFL works for her I guess).
One girl flat out told me to quit trying IRL and just use apps (JFL works for her I guess).
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Originally Posted By FA*******⏩
Women are so messed up in the head, they have 1000s of choices and reject all of them.One girl flat out told me to quit trying IRL and just use apps (JFL works for her I guess).
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tfw you're gonna find your wife at a bar/club
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Originally Posted By HTDG⏩
Ok, and I have never met any woman that went beyond friendship IRL but my ugly manlet ethnic azz has gotten dates and sex through online.this is horrrible advice.
Met my GF through friends of friends in 2020 at a bbq. Coming up on 3 years. Didn't make it past date 3-4 with all the online broads and man did I go on a lot of those.
Met my GF through friends of friends in 2020 at a bbq. Coming up on 3 years. Didn't make it past date 3-4 with all the online broads and man did I go on a lot of those.
Anecdotal stories are irrelevant. The fact is online is the predominant way to play the numbers game now.
From your picture, you look like a solid looking tall white guy. You're conventionally attractive so it make sense you can just meet women out in real life. for less attractive men online is the only way to play the numbers nowadays
12-07-2022, 01:22 PM
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Originally Posted By CoolKnees⏩
I'm incel, not a virgin. Barely any experience but not zero. If not for online I'd still be a complete kissless dateless virginSrs bro? I thought you were incel time.
12-07-2022, 01:27 PM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
Gotchu. So you got laid within the past 4 years?I'm incel, not a virgin. Barely any experience but not zero. If not for online I'd still be a complete kissless dateless virgin
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Originally Posted By CoolKnees⏩
yes, one girl during the pandemic. Unattractive but good person and I was thirsty. Other than that one chick in 2016. thats it.Gotchu. So you got laid within the past 4 years?
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Originally Posted By mike.hunt⏩
Damn brah repped, thanks for reminding me of this. Seems like most 25-30 yr old women are obsessed with wine. My area has a lot of wine meetups so it wouldn't be a bad idea.if you are 30+ which I'm assuming most miscers are the secret spot is WINE BARS, biches love wine bars...in my area they are full of 25-40 yr old rich hot womenz and usually a few old dudes 50-60+
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