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post 1673748073 12-29-2022, 12:59 PM
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So what gives with dating?

I'm supposed to chase a woman, but not too much because too much would come off as needy.

But yet I'm supposed to wait for her to initiate contact, but doesn't contact me because she probably has other options.

To her, lack of interest from me turns her off?

So they say "be yourself" and the women will come to naturally, but if you keep to yourself, then none do?

This hyperbole of dating according to "experts" or "dating coaches" is beyond fukt up.
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post 1673748183 12-29-2022, 01:00 PM
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post 1673748333 12-29-2022, 01:03 PM
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You gotta pursue bro
Don't wait on a girl to do nothing

Some girls will pursue which will make it easier

Some are tougher which will put you in a position to do the majority of the initiating contact etc...way it is

You can't be too aloof gotta try to make some plays but at the same time don't over do it and or become over bearing or clingy
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post 1673748373 12-29-2022, 01:04 PM
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
You gotta pursue bro
Don't wait on a girl to do nothing

Some girls will pursue which will make it easier

Some are tougher which will put you in a position to do the majority of the initiating contact etc...way it is

You can't be too aloof gotta try to make some plays but at the same time don't over do it and or become over bearing or clingy
Just watching a lot of videos on youtube trying to describe the dating climate is something else...

Seems a lot of people contradict each other.
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post 1673748523 12-29-2022, 01:07 PM
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Originally Posted By thadderbox⏩
Just watching a lot of videos on youtube trying to describe the dating climate is something else...

Seems a lot of people contradict each other.
It varies from girl to girl

One of my main current girls I've been dealing with for a year will make me do most of the iniating
Tried and the aloof strategy doesn't work well with her

Regardless of the dating coach says don't sit back too much because you'll guarantee miss opertunities

You gotta remind we ain't Justin Bieber or drake so we gotta kinda take it & run with it majority of times ...but also be aloof some times to balance
post 1673749153 12-29-2022, 01:14 PM
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its over dude.
post 1673751563 12-29-2022, 01:50 PM
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do not engage with dating apps

have morals, standards, boundaries, it is very rough out there

I can without a doubt say most women today are completely lost
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post 1673751763 12-29-2022, 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted By xbluexhawkx⏩
do not engage with dating apps

have morals, standards, boundaries, it is very rough out there

I can without a doubt say most women today are completely lost
Dating apps are merely window shopping, women have options, men have to compete.
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post 1673752143 12-29-2022, 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
It varies from girl to girl

One of my main current girls I've been dealing with for a year will make me do most of the iniating
Tried and the aloof strategy doesn't work well with her

Regardless of the dating coach says don't sit back too much because you'll guarantee miss opertunities

You gotta remind we ain't Justin Bieber or drake so we gotta kinda take it & run with it majority of times ...but also be aloof some times to balance
LOLOLOL bro you are the absolute last person fit to give any dating advice. Fukking shutup
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post 1673752163 12-29-2022, 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted By thadderbox⏩
Dating apps are merely window shopping, women have options, men have to compete.
You're judged solely off your 2D pictures which is completely dehumanizing, no other time in human history have people been solely judged off their 2D photos other than the 2010's-2020's

Also 5's act like 10's on apps, no thanks
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post 1673752473 12-29-2022, 02:05 PM
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What's even more confusing is that there are people like me who just naturally work within these boundaries and can't really explain how to do it to others.

Sucks to not the male intuition.
post 1673752623 12-29-2022, 02:07 PM
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Originally Posted By xbluexhawkx⏩
You're judged solely off your 2D pictures which is completely dehumanizing, no other time in human history have people been solely judged off their 2D photos other than the 2010's-2020's

Also 5's act like 10's on apps, no thanks
So be judged who cares?

No one said you have to JUST do dating apps.

It's like having a bobber line in the water while you f*ck with your main lure actively.
post 1673753183 12-29-2022, 02:17 PM
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40 is the cut off no hope after that

better step yer game up QUICK
post 1673753233 12-29-2022, 02:18 PM
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post 1673755693 12-29-2022, 02:56 PM
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Dating is winner take all. Chad is the winner and he has endless options. Non chads get to fight over the scraps, and they still need to jestermaxx for said scraps

So your options are
-be chad or at least brad
-be timmy and jestermaxx for 5/10s
-lay down and rot
post 1673756023 12-29-2022, 03:00 PM
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post 1673756403 12-29-2022, 03:06 PM
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To be fair.. it's probably true that "be yourself" implies some sort of male behavior. So if you're male you'd fall in line with normal male chit

And normal male chit = initiating first. Showing interest/ attraction, making the first move, etc. There's some variance there where the female may show interest first but it doesn't matter. Cause 9 times out of 10 she won't make the first move

And be yourself just means don't put on a show. Don't do things you wouldn't normally do just for poosy, etc.

However you can still play with your attraction to her. Like saying you think she's super fuken sexy is different from going to a restaurant you hate to impress her
post 1673756573 12-29-2022, 03:09 PM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
To be fair.. it's probably true that "be yourself" implies some sort of male behavior. So if you're male you'd fall in line with normal male chit

And normal male chit = initiating first. Showing interest/ attraction, making the first move, etc. There's some variance there where the female may show interest first but it doesn't matter. Cause 9 times out of 10 she won't make the first move

And be yourself just means don't put on a show. Don't do things you wouldn't normally do just for poosy, etc.

However you can still play with your attraction to her. Like saying you think she's super fuken sexy is different from going to a restaurant you hate to impress her
I don't like the phrase "be yourself" because it's really easy to interpret it the wrong way.

Most guys would interpret it as "keep doing what you're doing". Which would be bad advice, if what you're doing isn't working now then why would it start working later?

They should interpret it as "don't be fake, but you do need to make some changes to be the best version of yourself".

People should probably just stop saying "be yourself" altogether because it's too ambiguous
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"be yourself" means dont be someone youre not. because 1) smart women can smell that **** a mile away 2) youll **** up the facade and she will leave you
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
You gotta pursue bro
Don't wait on a girl to do nothing

Some girls will pursue which will make it easier

Some are tougher which will put you in a position to do the majority of the initiating contact etc...way it is

You can't be too aloof gotta try to make some plays but at the same time don't over do it and or become over bearing or clingy
definitely take advice from this guy
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post 1673758103 12-29-2022, 03:31 PM
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Originally Posted By StrictlyDirt⏩
40 is the cut off no hope after that

better step yer game up QUICK
Cut off for what?

Plenty of people look young at 40, mostly men.
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Originally Posted By thadderbox⏩
I'm supposed to chase a woman
Stop that part.

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You just need to establish work/hoe balance.

Money comes first, then you focus on a harem of 3-5 women you basically use for sport fukking when you don't need to focus on work. No chasing, no monetary investment. If they aren't into you then drop that one out of your rotation and find another one.
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Originally Posted By HighTide11⏩
1. Be attractive
2. Don’t be unattractive
3. Don’t put the pussy on a pedestal
4. Be able to joke about yourself/not get embarrassed
5. Wherever you go, whatever you do, act like you’ve been there before. Have confidence in yourself.
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You either have it or you don't, srs. The only thing that'll help you is your own experience. Its a numbers game, keep falling on your ass, eventually you'll find what works for you. Asking for dating advice is 100% pointless cause everyones situation is different and usually those giving it dont know fuk all either
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