So I recently met this cute girl at a party. Crazy dance moves. Was hit on by alot of guys that night.
Got her insta, then got her number. Then started chatting on whatsapp. She seems interested, texted back quite frequently.
Asked her to grab some coffee on the weekend. She said she wants to but only has time next week and not this weekend (told me all the things she is up to), but in general she would like to me meet me.
Asked her if shes fine with meeting in the middle of the week and she said yes. I thumbed that up, but didnt text any further. That was yesterday morning.

Im not much of a text guy and I dont want us to run out of topics if we eventually meet up, so I try to keep it to a minimum.

Thing is that there are quite a few days in between a potential date. There is no specific day that is set in stone yet and Im worried that she will lose interest when I go no contact.
At the same time I obviously dont want to come off as needy and dont want to run out of conversation topics.

I thought about waiting until sunday and then suggest a specific day for a date.

Usually I dont really give a fuk, this girl is my type tho so I begin to overthink.

I think your plan is fine.

If she loses interest between now and then, then it wasn't meant to be.

Hypothetically speaking, if she's entertaining a bunch of guys in her DM's do you really want to "compete" with that and have to say the perfect chit via text to "win" a date with her, & then possibly have to deal with all the guys in her DM's for months as you get to know each other?

Apart from dancing and screaming one liners in each ears we just didnt have much contact. If she forgets about me I couldnt even blame her. Hence I wanted a date as fast as possible.
I will probably wait until sunday. Maybe drop a one liner in there on saturday just to make her aware Im still arround. Everything more would probably work against me.

you should really set this up ASAP

I have no idea why dudes wait, listened to some absolutely terrible advice

Have you read my post, she doesnt have time.
I could only ask her now if she has time on monday.
Which could come off needy.

I'd probably do the same but like other guy said who would want a chick like that? She sounds like your typical social media chick who has 100s of guys hitting her up.

Im not really looking for a relationship, nomsayin

ye I know. Fuk it.
Just texted her suggesting monday. The chances of her slipping away are just too high. I know she is partying this weekend. Dudes lining up.

So she said she barely has time apart from the weekends, due to work, study and horse (yea I know).
Chatted a bit, she answered again in short time-spans. She still seems interested, although I know if you wanna make time you can.

I told her that if she finds free time until the weekend she should let me know and I will see if I can fit that into my schedule, otherwise she should consider the next weekend.
Told her that if she doesnt wanna meet up she should tell me right away, not the end of the world.

She said that it sounds like a good plan and if she changes her decision to meet in general, she will let me know.


I guess thats the best I can do. Until then obviously no contact. If she doesnt make any moves until the end of the week I will bring up the weekend again. If she declines, then its done anyways.

Always a hard balance to come off as desirable and not needy but at the same time push for dates. I hate running after girls, thats why I dont mind going no contact if I feel like she is not into.
Overall Im rather pessimistic about her, if I had to bet I would say this date wont ever happen, but I also dont care too much, barely even know her.

alot isn’t a word man it’s two words

well its technically true, you cant expect women to put some guy she's met once above everything else. like sure could make time, but imagine if she did that for every new guy who sent her a text.

Def want to make and maintain some sort of contact up until the date. You shouldnt obsess but some healthy fun texts and snapchats will keep the interest and excitement.

Last Saturday I told her that we will do something next weekend, she agreed.
Today I message her and suggested to switch out the coffee for some drinks in the evening.

Then she said that she forgot about the whole thing and completely planned through the whole weekend and so she doesnt have time anymore.
She said we have to delay it until next week. Like what? How do you just forget about something you agreed to 2 days ago, and then fill your whole weekend on tuesday. I call BS.

She suggested next week. But I think she is just playing carrot on a stick and enjoys the attention.

You have to give specific times and dates and it can’t be more than a week out. If she says no and doesn’t give her own suggestion back then she don’t gaf about you.

This isn’t rocket science.

I’ve been dating a girl I met at a party recently. She adds me on Insta. I say we should get a drink as I want to know her better. Time and place and her number exchanged in the next couple messages and that’s it my dude

From my experience girls can still be interested despite texting between breaks.