"Is it all the narcissist fault, or is it because we didn't love ourselves enough?
No offense to you and your question but I get really tired of people saying we didn’t love ourself enough, we had self esteem problems, we were broken somehow, etc. I’m so sick of being blamed for someone else’s ****ty behavior.

The way I remember things is I fell in love with a person that I thought loved me too. I was a happy person with my whole life ahead of me. My self esteem was just fine. I never met a stranger. I could walk into any given situation with confidence and figure things out as I went. I had a good career. And I was a very outspoken, strong willed person that was not, by any stretch of the imagination, a wall flower or a door mat. I would go toe to toe with anybody. Even if it was not the smart thing to do. I did not give one **** what people thought about me or who liked me or didn’t like me. That’s where I started from.

People believe that the victims of narcissistic abuse are somehow defective. But I’m here to tell you that if that were true we would never be able to endure the **** we have and still be alive to tell the tale. You can not walk through hell with the devil on your back and smile about if you start out as a weak, self-loathing, broken person. You wouldn’t make it two steps before collapse. You know, someone like the narcissist? They could not take even a little bit of the **** we have. And they absolutely hate us for that.

If you are standing on someone’s head to be on top are you the strong one? Or is the person who’s head you’re standing on holding you up the strong one? If I let go, you fall down. But I’ll still be standing.

Survivors of narcissistic abuse are some of the strongest people you will ever meet. Didn’t love ourself enough? How about we loved to much instead? We give and give and give love to someone who can not and does not understand love at all.

We attempted to love an unlovable person. We attempted to be there for and support a person that consistently pushed us away like a pesky fly. Why? Because WE are capable of loving. We have love to give. And we try to give it. Is it my fault that they can’t accept the love I give? No. It’s not.

I do not need to tear people down to build myself up. My self worth does not depend on my abilities or lack thereof to manipulate people. I do not measure people by what they have to offer me. I am able to draw all of that from within myself. I do not need others to do that for me. Does that sound like a broken person to you?

We are not the defective ones in the equation. We are not to blame because they mistreated us. They mistreated us because they are defective. They rejected our love because they don’t love themselves enough. They treat people like **** because they are ****. Period. And the fact that they are **** has nothing to do with us. We didn’t cause it and we can’t fix it. Because we didn’t break it"

Did not read nig ger

how about some fu cking cliffs f/aggot

Came in expecting a thread on early 90's video games.

Saw wall of text with no cliffs.

Leaving confused.

Narcissist checking in

primarily hook up with BPD chicks

I love myself too much to read all that.

It's narcissistic to assume anybody here is going to read that without cliffs

Posting this on a board full of narcissists...

I'm on this board and have been since 2006/2007 and I'm not a narcissist.

I've only truly loved one and tried to save one. Maybe that is where my error is

But was it because I loved one or because I tried to save one?

Well now she has her money, four lonely walls with a man she is not in love with and her favorite son that I gave her that looks just her her and me both who is growing up without his mother and father together ,in the home,.

But hey she has the dudes money she's always bragging about I doubt that keeps her warm at night but who am I to say

fu/ck ni/gger gonna need some cliffs of this verbal diarrhea too

Pretty much every woman is a narc socipath who thinks men are the bad guys, when in reality...

It's over

Inb4 SS starts crying about her ex itt

You're crying yourself to sleep with this crap while he's balls deep in your woman with your kid crying banging on the bedroom door.

cry me a river

well said OP, I agree