Make me a fool or does it make me normal

I read this and it made me think of my ex. Because is indeed a narrsicst

"Are narcissists, by default, evil?

It’s not just the fact that they don’t have empathy. Not having any just doesn’t stop them from being evil. But why do they feel the need to abuse and injure others? Why do they take pleasure out of doing it?

It’s becouse they were traumatized. It took away their self esteem. By attacking and abusing others, they feel safe and grow some.

If they humiliate and take other people’s lives, they feel superior. This comes from a deeply traumatized self esteem. It’s a deep injury and emptiness.

Abusers feel the need to dump their insecurities on others. The bigger the insecurities are, the bigger their injury is, the crazier it makes them and the bigger the abuse will be."

This is her. But the thing is while she has done all of this. I can't ever find my self to be angry or hate her. Even though she has since moved on to someone else, and i wish her nothing but happiness. No ill will towards her at all on my end . Everyone says I should hate her for how she has done me and is trying to do to me with our son but I read that article above and instead of being mad at her it makes me want to just hug her and tell her it's ok.

I've never been any CHICS cuck so you can forget that , she is my only son's mother and I just don't think she can help a lot of what she does and she is easily manipulated by people

It 100% makes you stupid. (Super Ded fkn Srs)

maybe try bettering your life so you can see your child instead of posting on a dying gay bodybuilding forum all day

tend to agree, sorry op

this doesn't make you stupid, but you are stupid


cheers

Yes.

You need to learn to apply that empathy to yourself or you will keep attracting and getting attracted to narcissists. They want men like you who are kind and loving and want to help them. And they will wear you down and slowly destroy you and they will never change.

It's ok to be angry with her and still care about her, you can do both. But I know it's hard.

Also you may have some issues from your own childhood; men who form relationships with NPD women are often damaged in some way and codependent. You may have phobia/fear of anger and struggle with getting angry. But anger can be healthy and you should be able to feel it when it's appropriate.

Hmm I'm doing that in every was I possibly can the dying guy bodybuilding forum is just something for the boredom

But yes that's good advice but it's already being followed. But I'm always open to ways to improve on even that.

Solid advice.

I have no issues with anger per say. I've just always seen it and been taught it is a useless emotion , one that can easily take you in a wrong direction if you don't know how to channel it.

Truth is there are a lot of things I dislike and a lot of things that bother me. I just have a very even temperament. Very little actually makes me angry. I've been truly mad/angry only a handful of times in my entire life.

Jedi knights don't use anger. They dismiss anger

Yes that's a movie but the principle carries over well into real life.

Jedis are not real. But Anakin Skywalker is a good example of how things can go wrong when you tell someone to just repress their personal needs and emotions.

Anger is a defense of your boundaries. Narcissists consistently try to push or ignore people’s boundaries. Repressed anger (and lack of boundaries) makes you an ideal victim for a narcissist

If you have repressed anger it can be hard to even know you have it and you should start working with a therapist IMHO.

Evil may not be the right word, but it's not far off. It's a difference of degrees.

Narcissism is kind of the weak end of the spectrum for psychopathy, and psychopaths are literal human predators. If anyone in the human race is evil, it's those guys.

Narcissists are basically lazy psychopaths... they have the same predatory tendencies, but a little stronger moral boundaries or inhibitions to not act on some of them. All psychopaths are narcs, but narcs aren't destructive enough to qualify as psychopaths.

They are still anti-social and are still willing to hurt and use people around them for personal gain. You want to stay out of their way.

IMO, narcs still deserve to be called out and red-flagged as wolves among the sheep flock. They're just kind of fat and lazy wolves.