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post 1696213743 01-11-2024, 09:09 AM
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At what point do you introduce your girlfriend to parents?

- been seeing girl about 5 months. Relationship seems pretty stable. She's stays over at my place multiple times per week usually
- haven't really told my parents about her.i think they suspect I'm seeing someone but I never really flat out said it. Just didn't wanna look like a fool and tell everyone about it just to have it end

- thinking if it continues much longer ...I want to have a dinner together or something with my parents . They live in the same city but I live alone

- just like having someone to escort me to family functions etc


Discreet pic of HER In my place :https://imgur.com/a/t9hO2cj
post 1696214353 01-11-2024, 09:23 AM
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Why wouldn't you share this with your family?
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post 1696214453 01-11-2024, 09:25 AM
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Originally Posted By lightsarefallin⏩
Why wouldn't you share this with your family?
How would you just randomly bring it up ?

Dunno in my last relationship my mom got super close with my gf and took walks etc without me even there. And I think they still keep in touch a bit while I've been on straight NC

Just wasn't sure if I ready for that again

But I should tell them...should done it while I had the chance
post 1696214793 01-11-2024, 09:33 AM
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
How would you just randomly bring it up ?

Dunno in my last relationship my mom got super close with my gf and took walks etc without me even there. And I think they still keep in touch a bit while I've been on straight NC

Just wasn't sure if I ready for that again

But I should tell them...should done it while I had the chance
I don't know. You're on the phone with your mom. She asks how you're doing, you tell her you're good and have been seeing someone. Conversely, she asks if you're seeing someone. You say yes.

Are you actively pulling the wool over your family's eyes for any particular reason?
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post 1696215003 01-11-2024, 09:39 AM
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does she have family? have you met them? is this girl chinese too?
money, cars, clothes and hoes is all a miscer knows
post 1696215103 01-11-2024, 09:43 AM
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You don't. Men don't worry about such things, only women. Do they think you're gay or something?


If it comes up or there's a big family gathering, then yeah bring her along. Otherwise it ain't that serious to ponder about.
post 1696215363 01-11-2024, 09:50 AM
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Originally Posted By lightsarefallin⏩
I don't know. You're on the phone with your mom. She asks how you're doing, you tell her you're good and have been seeing someone. Conversely, she asks if you're seeing someone. You say yes.

Are you actively pulling the wool over your family's eyes for any particular reason?
No man just always been on the anxious side over things like this.

I was over their last night at parents, but never disclosed it. Next time I speak to them I'm going to just straight up tell them
Thx bro
post 1696215393 01-11-2024, 09:51 AM
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Originally Posted By viccruise420⏩
does she have family? have you met them? is this girl chinese too?
Yes she is chinese

I have met her neice and sister in town here

Her father lives in China and her mom died young
post 1696215453 01-11-2024, 09:52 AM
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Originally Posted By MikeLowrrrey⏩
You don't. Men don't worry about such things, only women. Do they think you're gay or something?


If it comes up or there's a big family gathering, then yeah bring her along. Otherwise it ain't that serious to ponder about.
I should just be more open

There was a few occasions where they texted me inviting me over...I had to make up some other excuse rather than just say I was with her.

Next time I'm just going to flat out saying , fk it.
post 1696215593 01-11-2024, 09:55 AM
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Seriously?

"You have any plans for the weekend?"
"XYZ and I are doing ABC."
"Who is XYZ?"
"This girl I've been seeing."
"You should bring her over for dinner."
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post 1696215673 01-11-2024, 09:57 AM
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Originally Posted By viccruise420⏩
does she have family? have you met them? is this girl chinese too?
Discreet pic of her at my place :https://imgur.com/a/t9hO2cj
post 1696215693 01-11-2024, 09:58 AM
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Originally Posted By DuracellBunny⏩
Seriously?

"You have any plans for the weekend?"
"XYZ and I are doing ABC."
"Who is XYZ?"
"This girl I've been seeing."
"You should bring her over for dinner."
Thx bro it really is that simple. Will do that next opportunity
post 1696216023 01-11-2024, 10:05 AM
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In my case it was after the wedding, but I guess you're not planning to wait that long.
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post 1696216153 01-11-2024, 10:07 AM
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Originally Posted By stevebec⏩
In my case it was after the wedding, but I guess you're not planning to wait that long.
I'm guessing this was due to distance or something . I live In the same city as parents .
post 1696216213 01-11-2024, 10:08 AM
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If your mom and ex were close I guess I get the anxiety but you can't spend your life working for their approval or hiding things from them. You live on your own, you've got a job but you've got to show that you actually are a grown up too in your actions and behavior.
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post 1696216263 01-11-2024, 10:09 AM
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
I'm guessing this was due to distance or something . I live In the same city as parents .
That, plus the fact that my wife and I didn't date at all before we got married, so couldn't have really introduced them anyway.
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post 1696216343 01-11-2024, 10:11 AM
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Originally Posted By MrQuint⏩
If your mom and ex were close I guess I get the anxiety but you can't spend your life working for their approval or hiding things from them. You live on your own, you've got a job but you've got to show that you actually are a grown up too in your actions and behavior.
Also my ex just had that personable personality that matched with my mom.

So it would make me look more mature if I just said I'm dating someone Instead of bsing?

That's right got a job, my own place, etc
post 1696216573 01-11-2024, 10:15 AM
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
Also my ex just had that personable personality that matched with my mom.

So it would make me look more mature if I just said I'm dating someone Instead of bsing?

That's right got a job, my own place, etc
Well it's just a sign of maturity, being a man, whatever you want to call it. You are living your life, that's nothing to hide.

Edit - And I get it, my mom still goes to lunch on occasion with an ex MIL of mine.
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post 1696216673 01-11-2024, 10:17 AM
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Originally Posted By MrQuint⏩
Well it's just a sign of maturity, being a man, whatever you want to call it. You are living your life, that's nothing to hide.
Thanks bro well said

And imo my gf isn't bad on the eyes, an improvement from my ex .

So there's no nervousness of being judged.


Just gotta lay it all out and have absolutely nothing to hide now that's living free

Cheers
post 1696216793 01-11-2024, 10:21 AM
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until your gf starts nagging you about it 24/7. why the hell do you need to introduce a girl to your parents this early. what are the benefits
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Originally Posted By ithappenss⏩
until your gf starts nagging you about it 24/7. why the hell do you need to introduce a girl to your parents this early. what are the benefits
Well for one thing imo this girl is way more attractive than my ex...so it's like to be honest I feel like this slight desire to show off ...whether that's right or wrong not sure just gotta calm down

But that's what I'm asking ...is 4 -5 months in that early?

I got this girl hooked right now , I know she isn't into any other guys.
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
Well for one thing imo this girl is way more attractive than my ex...so it's like to be honest I feel like this slight desire to show off ...whether that's right or wrong not sure just gotta calm down

But that's what I'm asking ...is 4 -5 months in that early?

I got this girl hooked right now , I know she isn't into any other guys.
At 6 months they normally start wanting to have "the conversation", so 4-5 months isn't that early.
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Originally Posted By DuracellBunny⏩
At 6 months they normally start wanting to have "the conversation", so 4-5 months isn't that early.
What's the conversation ..about the" exclusive "talk?
I really like this girls style. Much more relaxed , level headed , we are really on the same page



Also we are really on the same page with finances. Can't stand those girls who want expensive things all the time....

She was born in a Chinese village so respects $
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
Well for one thing imo this girl is way more attractive than my ex...so it's like to be honest I feel like this slight desire to show off ...whether that's right or wrong not sure just gotta calm down

But that's what I'm asking ...is 4 -5 months in that early?

I got this girl hooked right now , I know she isn't into any other guys.
"Close to 70% of relationships fail within the first year"

let it happen naturally. no need to force meeting the parents. more drama
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
What's the conversation ..about the" exclusive "talk?
I really like this girls style. Much more relaxed , level headed , we are really on the same page



Also we are really on the same page with finances. Can't stand those girls who want expensive things all the time....

She was born in a Chinese village so respects $
Where'd you meet this woman? Are they as slooty as American women? Might have to join that side if I find one.
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Originally Posted By blueberryboy⏩
What's the conversation ..about the" exclusive "talk?
I really like this girls style. Much more relaxed , level headed , we are really on the same page



Also we are really on the same page with finances. Can't stand those girls who want expensive things all the time....

She was born in a Chinese village so respects $
The "what are we to each other", "where is this going" conversation.Theconversation.
Screw nature; my body will do what I DAMN WELL tell it to do!

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Originally Posted By MikeLowrrrey⏩
Where'd you meet this woman? Are they as slooty as American women? Might have to join that side if I find one.
Honestly I'm not a big dating app guy but we met on " ******** dating "

She has since voluntarily deleted the app

Yeah dude I'm a white guy. It dawned on me that if you find the right asian chick they are far superior than western women..and that asian cuisine is GOAT
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Originally Posted By DuracellBunny⏩
The "what are we to each other", "where is this going" conversation.Theconversation.
Exactly. I think if I continue with a good effort level and don't slack I can keep her.

Honestly, I had to shuffle through a whole lot of bs in the dating game to land something this solid. ( in my opinion ofcourse)
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I think it depends on a lot of things. If you've been steady seeing each other and have had the exclusive relationship talk then I don't see anything wrong with introducing her to your parents if she is interested in meeting them. I told my mom about my bf prob within a few months of dating. She met him around 7 months in. My son introduced his gf to me and his dad around the 3 month mark.
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
I think it depends on a lot of things. If you've been steady seeing each other and have had the exclusive relationship talk then I don't see anything wrong with introducing her to your parents if she is interested in meeting them. I told my mom about my bf prob within a few months of dating. She met him around 7 months in. My son introduced his gf to me and his dad around the 3 month mark.
Thank you, good point. No way would I introduce a girl I wasn't pretty sure about and no way would i introduce one that was seeing other men ( she's not ) .

But I haven't even completed the first step and conclusively told them about her tho

You still dating that same guy?
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