wanted to arrange a night out and sent out messages to people that i thought were my "friends". turns out, none of them reply to me.

jesus christ, if that doesn't make me depressed dont know what will

What age are you?

28.

You, Ibby and Sam should all get together. You could talk terrible golf swings, fake BMW's, being short, being broke and living at home.

So go out anyways and make friends

fuk it bro what have you got to lose

Same man I try to talk to folks but I barely get any replies everyone just wants to be on screens now. I'm just sitting outside right now cuz there's nothing to do anymore.

I had that same realization at 27. Everyone who I thought was my friend really didn't fuk with me like that.

I prefer to be alone, but you will find people who're real and that you vibe with. It takes some time, trail and error.

everyone just wants to lay down and rot these days bruh

Join the club pal

Maintaining friendships takes too much work tbh. There's a reason most people over 30 just hang with their gf's or family

brb driving for 30min and spending money just to hang with another dude, no thx.

same bruh, it's like most men these days are spineless and cant even say no anymore. they rather cower behind the screen

What is causing this? Dude i legitimately have tried probably 500 times to visit people and talk to them and all they are doing is looking at screens or parroting social media stuff. A lot of it is even some fake ass videos they see on youtube or tik tok or shorts. You can't do anything anymore.

Fxck friends OP, you need Brothers!

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Unless this other man is directly enhancing you and the life your are leading.

I would not invest much(if any) of my life into them.

(dead srs)+ This.

Literally like a wife;

it'd be wise to develop standards, non negotiables, and a sharp division of the who you'd call a true life brother and who you wouldn't.

Then you come to know by "playing the field".

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It is far to easy to settle for what our current civilization calls "friends".

I'd ask what you sincerely want of yourself and this one life you have on earth OP?

Only by knowing the above yourself can you develop a brotherhood where you + these other men are adding to one another's lives.

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Knowing what you want of your life + getting to a state where you deeply value your own time naturally creates a standard as to who you'd have as a brother.

Comrade!

Brother!

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The above is how I decide to move through life.

I find that if you only want surface level connections then you will always deal with these "friends" that (flake, don't respond, lie, drama + treachery of all sorts etc.).

When this happens it's almost as if it's just all a communal distraction.

A "only because your around" || "better than being alone" type friends.

I see it comes from a lack of standard in ones own life and who you are allowing into your life orbit.

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Develop a standard by Deeply valuing your own Life, Energy + Time! ( it starts and ends here. )

If you can't go to war w/ this man and literally risk death for one another, I would never consider them a true friend and brother.

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Ultimately all your choice OP but I have found this all to be true.

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The group of men that will sincerely care when you die has to be intentionally crafted OP.

This life is literally a reflection; all of your life starts and ends w/ you.

Be the man you'd want as a brother.

I have found that it's really hard to make close friends over the last 20 years and I'm in my 50s.

Last night I was with 2 girlfriends but I've known them for over 20 years. One lives a 2 hour flight away but we stayed friends even though she moved. We have so much in common and I don't find many people like that anymore.

I don't have any friends from high school and college tennis because if I beat them in a match where we were trying to get to play #3 singles or something they wouldn't talk to me for weeks. It was just too competitive. But once I got into league tennis it wasn't so harsh and brutal as we only have 2 singles players so it doesn't matter who plays 1 or 2, and then we have drinks and food after the matches to make it more social.

The 3 of us agreed last night that high school and college tennis was just too cutthroat and we didn't make any friends.

I wonder if for you young guys that just everyone got weird after 2000.

Perhaps try joining a sports league? I know that has helped my ex.

Damn, I thought we were friends aaron

I didn't get the message

wtf Aaron?

at least you have people to talk to, i don't have a single person in real life to message

stay home and game on your oled brah

OP, real men don't have friends, real men have family and allies.

When you're in high school and college, it's normal to have a group of buddies that you hang out with.

But when you enter the real world and become a man, having friends is a liability. What do friends do when they congregate together? They usually get drunk and waste time watching sports or doing pointless activities that waste money.


A man is a husband and father, he's a leader, he's a protector and provider. He builds his network of allies that can help him build wealth so that he can pass on that wealth to his kids.

And over time, your allies can become your friends, but it's a friendship between men with a common goal and purpose, it's not a friendship built on "hanging out"....

Go out drinking by yourself sometime and just have a dance and talk to people. I met an absolutely hammered guy at a bar that said had a boat. He said he'd take me out fishing if I called him during the week. I saved his number in my phone as 'stevefreeboat'. We went out on his boat the following weekend. Great fukin guy. He's also a chef

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your cock?