My girlfriend and I have been together for six years. over this past year our intimate life has severely declined. The main issue I’m having is her hygiene. I personally am an extremely hygienic person. I shower every single morning and every single night and I have a strategic body care and skin care routine. (Not saying i wash my hair twice a day- im talking about a quick rinse off in the shower)

My girlfriend showers maybe once every other day and really only brushes her teeth for a quick minute before bed without flossing or using mouth wash. I also often find her poop stained underwear on the floor of our bedroom and bathroom.

I believe I might even have a little bit of OCD when it comes to personal hygiene as I really overthink about germs and what not. I’m finding it really difficult to be intimate with her when I’m worried about her bad hygiene affecting mine (poop getting on me) and it’s also really hard to be attracted to someone when there are odors.

I love her to death and she’s such a good woman, but it’s really starting to bother me. I haven’t really brought it up because I don’t want to hurt her feelings. I need some advice on how to kindly bring this up without making her feel bad.



I notice the poop stains on probably 8/10 pairs of her underwear

I just ordered a bidet. im hoping when it arrives that will spark up a conversation . I have put baby wipes on top of the toilet paper roll several times but she doesn’t use them.

I’ve noticed the poor hygiene this past year when we moved in together. She isn’t a big guy but she is very hairy. I dont think hair should be an excuse for not wiping properly though.

I dont do her laundry at all. She just leaves the underwear on the floor until she’s ready to do his laundry and thats why i see them

Tldr. Negged.